TIme?

Just wondering...

What does everyone think is a reasonable amount of time to wait before 'proposing' in a world like SL? Its not as serious (TO most), so it wouldn't be the months and months or years that it is for most in RL... but.. how long?

I'm quite curious ^^

tbh, i find the whole marrige thing stupid, just partner up and be done with it

For me personally, it would be something like three or four months, possibly longer. In a world with temptation around every corner, you want to be sure of such commitment. If indeed it is an exclusive commitment anyway.

Nothing. Never. Romance is dead. Marriage is stoopid. You should never ever ever propose cause he'll just leave you with tier and things to be done and land to sell and a wreck of a life where you feel jaded and miserable and tons of wedding snapshots that you look at now and wonder wth you were thinkin paying 12kLindens for a wedding that the whole time you were afraid you would crash or get lag from all your stoopid primmy friends coming with tons o bling.

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I would say at least a month. (that better?)

nicely put o.o

I spit out my coffee when I read this.

Month or 2 is good.

LOL! Either that, or you actually WILL get partnered and SL married and you'll buy land and he'll insist on building the house himself, and he'll get about halfway through then decide that football is much more interesting and wander off to watch TV and you'll be sitting there with half a house and an inventory full of furniture, so you end up fighting and parting ways anyway.

Things do happen on a weirdly accelerated schedule here in SL. You can do more things in a shorter amount of time. I mean the oldest of us are only a few years old... and many have already died. We have a short life span. I'd say propose as soon as you feel like it.

That 12K wedding looks very nice in my eyes . . . much better than accepting a proposal and never having anything then occur (mostly, I assume, because the other left SL). Even if they had to leave after that, unexpectedly, or even if they became an ex. Better than hanging there suspended. The time together now equals the time since they left. How lovely to realize that.

I run away from anyone who proposes or says they love me on the first date.

I love you, Strife =P

AND the wedding dress is no trans. $(@#&[email=*@#(*$]*@#(*$[/email]&@#(&

Ohhh Strife... wanna get married? *bats eyelashes*

meh... I know of some absolutely beautiful wedding dresses for under 400 L$ =P And.. I wouldn't wanna wear someone elses wedding dress anyway... not as meaningful to me.... >.>

If you need to ask us if you are ready for a commitment - you aren't ready.

Thats not the question. I'm just wondering what people think is a reasonable amount of time in a virtual world to wait for something like that. My opinion is around 2 months or so, but I want to know what other people think

Does that explain why you and Mal don't get along?

SL is a very immersive experience.
It's very easy to get carried away and to rush into things too quickly.
The optimum time before proposal depends on the time that both parties have spent in SL.


Time to proposal = A / (B*C) *100 / D ^3

Where
A = number of months in SL for party.1 + number of months in SL for party.2
B = average hours per day spent in SL by party.1
C = average number of hours per day spent in SL by party.2
D = average hours per day spent in SL by both parties in each other's company

The time unit is in minutes / hours / days / weks / months / years - depending on how you feel about each other.


Alternatively, don't do it.

Based on that sentence, SL is just a game so I say get married after the first date if you'd like.

My RL partner and I got married in June. We considered then having a SL wedding so that our SL friends could participate. We didn't do it but I think that made at least a little bit of sense. For two people to JUST have a SL wedding is just plain silly to me. More like playing house as a child. Just click to be partners and be done with it.

Ten minutes.



Which is about how long most SL relationships last... mine being one of the happy exceptions.

P2

How long? Long enough to have had a good discussion about each other's likes and dislikes, and expectations. Long enough to have seen both the best and the worst sides of each other. Long enough to know whether either of you expects it to overflow into a RL relationship. Long enough to either know the other person's RL gender, or to be certain you really couldn't care less if tey later turn out to be other than how they appear.

I think rushing is a mistake. There's virtually no penalties for 'failed romance' in SL, aside from the emotional ones. No pregnancy, no child support, no alimony... But it can hurt, a lot, to break up. So be sure, before you conect.

The shortest time for any of my alts between connecting and becoming Partners was one month, but that couple had existed, as a couple, for over a year in other RP venues.

For my main, I 'proposed' for Partnering precisely one year after my Partner and I started living together. A year later we are still tight as can be, and happy in our relationship.

Given the accelerated nature of SL life, you should also discuss the divorce you'll go through a month or so after the marriage. Who gets what and who pays tier etc. Should save you a lot of time later on.

O.o Your main and alts each have separate partners?

In SL, shortly after you decide you want to. In RL after a LOT of soul-searching, and probably not even then.

This is a good place to point out that in RL I am an ordained minister. No S---; I am. I got ordained online one night while I was playing illegal online poker and drinking. Bourbon, as I recall. I think I switched to the good stuff to celebrate my new ordained-ness. I have a certificate and everything. My Catholic mom was HORRIFIED when I told her, which in and of itself made it completely worthwhile.

My point is that I'm technically able to preside over weddings in RL. So far nobody has been brave enough to let me. Probably wise on their part. But if I can do them in RL, then I can certainly do them in SL. If anyone wants me to preside over their wedding, I'm available. Before anyone asks, I wholeheartedly support same-sex marriage, both in RL and Sl, so I'll do those, too. Hell, I'll do a Gorean/furry union. I suggest the soundtrack from Westside Story for the music.

I'll work for tips and I'm non denominational, so whatever religion you are works great for me.

That said, propose now. Instantly. IM me inworld for my availability.

I'll perform a divorce ceremony as well. It's not in my little minister's handbook, but I'll wing it. I'm sure I can come up with something that sounds good.