What would you need, to feel like you had a role in SL?

I think this might merit its own thread.

I admit to having a loooong list of personal rules for RP, though I would say that all of them are common sense to any experienced rp'ers. But I had to write them down because a lot of people on SL are rp newbies, and maybe especially explicit erotic/bdsm rp newbies. So I have to spell out things like "don't confuse my role in SL with who I am in RL" and of course my limits and so on. And personally, people who type like "lol I gunna be ur master 2nite ru rdy lol /me fuks u harder" just make me go away, it gives me the mental image of a slightly retarded 13 yo kid and that's not what I want to deal with.

Or an experiment.

i understand there are the basic rules of rp that set the lines of respect for each person and back stories..

i guess what i am saying is there were just too many super heros that wouldn't let you make a mistake around them back when i wanted to start up in sl..
maybe it was coming from a community that i knew everyone in and then starting fresh..i just never rememberd anyone giving anyone a hard time over a simple mistake or handing me a list of things i have to do to RP with a certain person..
to me that is godmodding me before we even started..background isone thing but we play like this or we don't play.well we didn't play lol

and yes i can see the chaning of back stories on a server messing with a lot of peoples roles already..you almost have to add them as something to come in the future to really make them adjustable..messing with the past just throws everything out of wack unless you just got there..

yes that i can understand..that is just background and not really guiding someone elses role from the start..
i could never tolerate leet speak myself even out of rp

I roleplay everyday in RL, as soon as I walk out of my door I pretend to be "normal"

Yes yes yes yes yes yes yes!

And a pony.

Yes yes yes yes yes yes yes!

And a pony.
What's your saving roll against normality like?

What ever it is, I fail it often.

I dare you, but know this, it's a dangerous venture. I mean, after creating the most absolutely absurdly non-interesting av and acting in the most repulsive way possible.. would you really really want to know someone was actually into it? *licks the baby plywood cube covered in dog poop*

That^

True story....

Back in the day when I was extremely active in Gorean rp on IRC, one of the two men who pioneered Gor online was coming to visit a friend in my city. The local Goreans decided to meet up at the monthly D/s brunch (which just happened to be on the same weekend this man was visiting). We (local Goreans) had done that in the past as a safety measure as the D/s brunches are always held in a public place.

This particular one was held in a reserved back room of a well-known sports pub.

I'm met at the entrance by the D/s hostess (didn't see any of the Goreans around yet) and was asked if I was a Domme or sub. I know this may spark some conversation but one of the points of Gor that those who have not read the books and just rely on being "taught" by the blind leading the blind don't realize is: A Gorean FW is NOT a Domme. Of course a lot depends on geography as in the real world, but the type of FW usually rp'd on Gor has about the same rights as a Muslim woman in the Middle East. And that is one thing I enjoyed about rping a Gorean FW (not having the rights but being able to portray a gracious, ladylike hostess).

Anway, I futilely tried to explain to the hostess that I was neither a Domme nor a sub; I was a Gorean FW (and continued trying to explain that a bit). The hostess' eyes glazed over and finally in exasperation said, "Just tell me what color you want your nametag!" (That denoted the Dom/me/sub.)

I decided that I didn't want Doms looking me over as a potential sub; neither did I want my Gorean friends to think I had switched to slave. (Switching is very frowned upon in strict Gorean circles.) So I chose Domme.

The Gorean visitor never arrived, nor any of the others. I decided since I was there to order lunch. While I was eating I had no less than 5 male subs come try to convince me they should be my sub. I kind of felt like Rosie O`Donell's character in the movie version of "Exit to Eden." (GREAT movie turned into a comedy - loosely taken from the novel by Anne Rice. HIGHLY recommend the movie!)

One sub extolled his talent for foot massages and pedicures and how he used to get his former Mistress all bathed and ready for her dates. Another decided to argue with me that Gor was stupid. *sighs*

So, yes, definitely must be a lot of subs seeking Masters/Mistress (or Dom/mes). (But if I ever want a good foot massage, I know where to go. )

Just my imagination.

(Did not vote as nothing came close to being what I would pick)

Haha! You are, of course, right. There's no way it could be done. Well, the experiment could be done, but the outcome is certain.

On the "domme" issue, it was more Love's comment that "I just am" which seemed to imply that she'd be happy to feel like a Domme even if there were no interest from others. The fact that interest from others is commonplace isn't really relevant to the question - the question is, whether it's necessary or not.

Also, from what I've seen, Dommes wind up with little or no interest if they can't find the correct places to hang out in. Also, there are a fairly large number of mock "subs" who intend only to use a dom/domme as a source of money and content, so there is quite a quest for interest going on..

But, nonetheless, bordering on the absurd, since it isn't going to happen. Unless LL bans sexual imagery of all sorts, I suppose. And starts monitoring IM's.

You get more room on the sidewalk if you don't.

What if, as soon as you log out of SL, your avatar logs into their SL, and then you are their avatar? And they have alts too, which means that Yumi and I might have the same RL operator. And what if, all the while, the forum identities, based on the SL avatars of our RL selves, are really running meta-SL, and running both us and our avatars. Er, I mean, them, and us avatars? Who's got what role then? Huh? Huh??

I think some more likely circumstances are:
- SL's growth slows down too much (there just aren't enough people)
- Another virtual world competes for those people

I suspect that in the first case, the last submissive will turn the lights off on her way out. In the second case, you'll find me over there.

Wouldn't she have to wait for perimission to turn off the lights?

Well, she could have been told in advance!

ORLY?

You mean, like, SL relationships are like RL relationships?

Whodathunkit!

We are all Torley's alts in the Matrix.

ORLY?

You mean, like, SL relationships are like RL relationships?

Whodathunkit!

PS: Yumi... I thought you were going to take up someone's offer to get help with building instead of trolling the forums with "nobody wants to play with me" posts.

This message isn't a "call for help" as the last one. Instead it was an attempt at understanding something that interests me a lot, which is what qualities people have, and how they correspond to behaviours in SL. In other words I'm sure many people know that the only real answer to "what can I do here?" is "it depends on you" but what does it depend on? Creative talent certainly for content creation but how about other things - is it just suspension of disbelief or...? And whatever it is, can it be encouraged?