Need help with emoting

Maintenant, je dance juste pour vous
Every shimmy and sway that I do
Every linden you pay
Says that you get your way
Parce que l'amour est tres cher, it is true.

Here are some great tips from above:

Rha: I much prefer guys (and gals) who like to mingle and chat, and make me feel welcome, instead of standing on a stage shaking their pixel ass and so obviously wanting my lindens.

Lil: What turns ladies on (at least this lady) and gets the most tips, is being sexy but genuine [Lear: ignore tips and connect with the patrons. Tips will come.]

Niki: Find and express something interesting, fun or attractive about everyone.

Rha: Keep it coy, and use innuendos, and make it fun, and flirty, THAT is much better than being descriptive about what parts you are touching and what you are doing while touching them. [Lear: easier to say than do, but worth the effort. However, some patrons WILL want you to get very explicit. Read the feedback, and depending on the variety in the audience, use chat or IM]

Bottom line: If you're not enjoying yourself, the lindens probably won't be worth the effort it takes. If you enjoy yourself, that will come through, and you'll profit in 3 ways: having fun, meeting people, and earning lindens. I bet you'll do best if you keep your priorities in that order, too.

Just wanted to add my 2 cents. I am a dancer and have been doing it for about 3 months now. I am pretty successful at it and have both male and female's that love my interaction.

I however am a Shemale and do not hide that I am actually a male in RL. I feel my input on this whole topic might be of value. It is really much like has already been said.

I sincerely am interesting in the people that come to visit me/us where I dance. However how to start conversation or break the ice without sounding insincere can be the problem. Sounding it the key word here.... I can say something heartfelt but if it may look like a cheep attempt to get lindens, this kind of emoting will not work well.

What I do, is if I honestly like some particular feature of the AV, their profile, their dance moves, comments they say, I use that for me to start a bit of dialogue. Then depending on the response my flirty personality will come out.

Emoting detail is important IMO. Say i like a person's hair... saying "nice hair" will not usually do much or even make them think you are really interested... so think about it... if you like something, why in some detail do you? So in this example it might be something like "I love your hair shines and flows, it is a perfect match for your av!" Not fake but real... sure some here can bullshit their way through this but I think most can figure out that this is just for tips.

I myself started dancing for the money, but now I do it for the love of the people, co-workers and patrons.

I agree with some of the other posts... you either have some skills in emoting or you don't... does not mean give up if you don't, but definitely it helps if you have a knack for it. As for grammar and spelling... well I have t admit between my typos and over use of complex sentences, my emoting could be better. However I seem to do well at it. So I maintain the connection is key.

This is my first post here so be gentle. Ok if you know me I sometimes don't like gentle... OK that was me being me, but is kind of an example of banter that helps.

Chantel Cerise
Dancer/Escort at Las Princesas and loving it!

Just whatever you do...NOTHING...I repeat NOTHING about you is "turgid"...got it? Thanks.

/me adjusts the laurel crown on Jerboa's brow, curtseys, and skips off to real life, giggling!

Great first post

Hey! Where's my hearty handshake?!!

/me reading thread with interest....what's wrong with 'turgid'? It's a good word! I know what it means!

What are the odds of using "turgid" with a straight face in an emote, as a male dancer, and NOT getting a giggle?

To me it's a shining example of the worst of purple prose in dime-store romances.

Don't know WHAT the odds are.....me, I'd probably be impressed with his vocabulary. Men who can hold up their end of a conversation always do it for me. (I don't get out much, can you tell?)

/me points to his sesquipedelian lexicon and winks.

/me blows a kiss over her shoulder and directs you to Chris for hearty handshakes, to Mo for kisses.

*poof*

Think of it like... hitting on someone at the bar but having no intention of taking them home with you. Tease them, don't please them. Spark their imagination and let their mind fill in the rest. Pay close attention to small details. Be a good listener. Respond to them appropriately. Tease them. Avoid cliches and generic adjectives. Be careful with adverbs. Remember that imagination? If they're likely to imagine something correctly based on context, let them; don't explicitly state how you did something. Tease them. Mess with their head a bit and send them mixed signals. Keep them guessing. Touch and go. Keep a sense of mystery and unpredictability. Be funny and witty (easier said than done). Did I mention "tease them"?

I have a homework assignment for you. For the rest of the week, see how many ladies you can pick-up at a club, but don't actually take any of them back for pixel sex. You are training here afterall, not getting your jollies off. Once you can turn a woman into a pile of blushy goo, then go do it for money.

/me laughs....which of course, was already indicated in your tagline....except for the bugger of course.

Dear Mr. Saliva,

ConJob Linden here.

It has come to our attention that you are marketing something along the lines of a "bait and switch" scheme which targets vulnerable women.

We applaud your industry, and salute your creativity. However, we must point out that we, the Lindens, hold a monopoly in Second Life (tm) on bait and switch businesses. In order to continue your enterprise, please fill out the enclosed forty page application and submit it, along with the requisite $L5,000 application fee, in the next forty eight hours.

We also reviewed your scheme looking for Adult Content. Congratulations! We didn't find any. Once you have applied and duly registered, you are free to ply your Second Life business of cozening women in any Mature or PG area. However, we suggest that you don't try to set up shop in Ursula. We hear that the customers there actually expect to GET something for their money.

Your Friends and Ours,
The Lindens

"Turgid" = NLP negative

Pep ("Limpid" as well, although a bunch of wimpy poets have surprisingly made it a romantic cliche)

PS Someone said you had to be an actor - NO! You have to be the scriptwriter, although it helps if you have a background in improv.

The word isn't so bad in itself. It has quite a sturdy ring to it and would probably be ok if the moment were right - but I guess that moment would be much later and probably in the relative privacy of a skybox or an IM at the very least. I'd likely lose my lunch if I heard a dancer using it in a club's chat channel.

There are definitely two distinct stages to good emoting. The first is for open chat and it should stay within reasonable bounds of good taste without being dull. Personally, I really enjoy the buzz of flirting as closely as possible in the chat channel without going overboard and embarrassing myself and everyone within range. Folk can be very quick with acid commentary about anything that doesn't square with their ideas of good emoting. Also, there is definitely a 'return' on risking some near-the-knuckle remark under everyone's noses and getting appreciation as opposed to censure for it - especially if the object of your attentions reciprocates.

The second stage is for private communication and anything goes really, so long as it is ok where both or all of the parties are concerned. This requires some sensitivity to the boundaries of others without actually asking for a list of their likes and dislikes. If you can't determine those during the first stage of emoting, excuse yourself and log off immediately you've had your prim coffee, shown them your etchings or whatever.

I reckon it's just like RL, except it would be hell on earth if we had to find words to describe everything we do in the flesh. In which case, I for one would most definitely prefer a cold shower and a quick run around the block.

/me laughs. Ok, thank you. I forgot what we were talking about for a moment, public vs. private flirting. Yes, 'turgid' could be a bit much in a light, teasing flirtatious, public chat flirt, I agree. (I wouldn't 'lose my lunch' over it, but might indeed laugh). Point taken, thanks for putting me back on topic.

Got it!

tease
attention to detail
tease
mixed signals
guessing
mystery
unpredictable
funny, witty

Like this?
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/me sidles up to the edge of the stage, his pasty-white undefined body blinding under the glare of the stagelights. He catches your gaze, then sticks his thumbs in his ears, turgid fingers splayed, waving at you.
"Neener, neener, neener...I'm up here and you aren't!"
"Hey...that's a nice skirt, great color! But...did you know if you cammed in really close, the side seam is misaligned by 3 pixels?"
/me awkwardly spins, until facing away from you. His feet slip slightly on the slick stage floor, as he struggles to regain his balance. He glances over his shoulder at you, flexing.
"Like what you see? I do."
/me scoots back to the nearest dance pole, his attention thankfully diverted by the effort of catching himself yet again.
"On second thought, you ain't that hawt"
/me scrunches his face up, and sticks his tongue out at you, as he sing-songs
"I know something you don't know....guess what's coming next?"
/me spins off of the pole, and launches himself in your direction, dropping to his knees. The high-pitched sound of his knees skidding across the polished floor is matched only by the pained look of surprise on his face.
/me stops short, and awkwardly bounces the last few feet to the edge of the stage
"So...didja hear the one about the avocado, and the octopus..."
/me staggers backward as two gentlemen in white lab coats forcibly drag him from the stage
"Hey! Hey...what're you doing...they loved me...they...LOVED..meeeeeeee...."

Hey with the right incantation, any flexi prim can be turgid

Oooh sauce! Very cheeky, Missus!!

We DO love you, Jerry. But keep your day job, and confine your emotes to You Know Who. It really IS a lot easier to write them when you mean them...isn't it?

Dickie Boy...send me an IM in world and let me know when and where you're working. I'll come over and let you practice on me.

Scott, you gonna let him get away with that?

(I'm kinda rooting for an PG-erotica slam to emerge here, can you tell?)

My day job? Unemployed cabana boy? *sigh*

And who do you think I tried these can't miss moves out on first?

Wait "You Know Who"? *shivers* n..n..n..not...Volde...oh I can't even say it.

/me's ears droop as he cowers under the edge of the couch.

Could ye maybe write it down, or something?