How to cope with my own bigotry?

Oh wow, 3Ring may have hit on something. I could take women to my house, bind them, gag them, and make them watch me build stuff.......<insert evil laugh here>.

Now that WOULD be kinky. <more evil laughter>

Sounds like you don't like living in a crowded neighborhood. Consider moving to a larger parcel so you can't hear your neighbors.

shoot her and burn her land.

I don't get BSDM or sex slavery, the idea doesn't do anything for me. But at least in SL it's harmless and people recover quickly from it!

As for me, I'm more into freedom than bondage, hence in SL I'm a clean-living naturist!!! LOL!

Sorry, I would either move or move my home up into the sky.

I wouldn't even bother with asking her to put it on IM because sometimes people forget to do that in their ummm....errrmmmm ...... excitement. Yeah, that's it.

I met someone once who kept talking about her master. She was very nice, took me and showed me her really nice house, her artwork. I was really confused by all the master talk until someone explained it to me. ::::blushes::::

I did have a similar situation with a neighbor a while back. her build was huge, right on my property line, and at times i'd be subject to her LesbianVampre exploits. She never answered IM's, her build was way over the island height guidelines, all attempts to ask her to scale it down a bit were ignored. just as a matter of procedure I asked her if she would consider IM for intimate times, of course they were ignored. I basically started adding my own pithy comments in open chat when the situation arose, and soon there after, she discovered the joy of talking dirty in private.

Oh how i'd like to see those chat transcripts. Kind of like Seinfeld in thighboots...

(there is a whole separate art to deflating the magic of an especially bumptious or idiotic BDSM session. It can be exceedingly cruel, and yet very, very funny...)

I have to confess, contributing to their conversation in humourous ways was my first thought.

But that's if reasonable attempts fail, and the OP doesn't want to move up or out.

I don't think the OP is expressing bigotry, FWIW. Squick is the right term.

Lol, I think folks are getting a little defensive here. The intrusiveness of hearing neighbors' intimate moments is gridwide, and is not an "inner problem". Some on this thread seem to actually be saying that whenever a neighbor has sexual chat near enough to hear, one should MOVE instead of attempting to work out a compromise ... I would hope that if I unwittingly impose on anyone in any way, they would talk to me first instead of just allowing my accidental rudeness to run them out of town!

Lol I did this too with a neighbor who appeared unable to understand English ... perhaps his partner was able to, in any case it had the same result - the problem went away.

AR her??? What has she done WRONG?
At any rate, Eden, I'm sure there are a few of us here who speak French who might be willing to help talk to your neighbor. I wouldn't trust a translating program to handle a delicate issue like this.

I think the term bigotry was misused as well, a case of overly PC sensitivity. terms like bigot, racist, etc are thrown around so capriciously nowadays, their meaning have been incredibly diluted. We have to be careful with what power we give words, in the end it's the actions behind those words that do the most damage.

Squick - great word, just looked it up!

(what else is there to do during a snow storm but drink loads of coffee and and read everyones thoughts on BDSM...)

hahahaha!

coco

Hearing people link M/s or D/s relationships only to kinky sex always makes me cringe a little. From my perspective the sexual part of those relationships is only one of the facets that drive people to try one. Of course that could be my own ‘subconscious rationalization’ but there you have it…

I think you got a lot of very good advice here. It much better to resolve these difference without rancor, it takes so much less energy and it does not generate near the same amount of stress. Finding someone who speaks French and can transate accurately for you might be a good idea.

You both should be able to find a way to enjoy your sl the way you want it without having to make huge compromises.

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I'm the same way.. I hate it when its only linked to sex, but.. it's SL and that happens =(

There is so much more to it... that is barely any of the true D/s relationship imho

No, but it's a lot more fun if you are ...

So true.

I think I'd like to chat to you in world Gummi. This is probably when I realise I know you real life, as seems to be happening more and more in SL these days!

You'd know. I am shy.

You seem to need cough medicine Love? Are you ok?

I was in a rented house once when the landlord turned on autoreturn. It wasn't my house but theirs, but they hadn't set the house to the group. So it disappeared. I was in it. In my bed. On the second floor. Not alone. We didn't stop (well, what we didn't stop was being nude and cuddling). Of course it was also an adult island that I had rented a house on, which might have lead to my "ignoring" the deletion of my house (on the other hand I was panicing like crazy, or on the border of that, good thing I wasn't alone when this happened).

Funny to suddenly find yourself exposed, floating in a "magical" bed that defies gravity (the furniture was mine and set to group).

I do not understand what the "I am shy" has to do with it. I'm as shy as a timid mouse. I squeak and fear crowds and strangers. But if a certain someone is there, I am as content as a purring kitty (most of the time).

My kneck currently feels as if it is holding up a giant 800 pound weight. Will cough medicine help? Dang. Throat now feels scratchy. Eek.

Seriously, I do hope you've not got the disease that's sweeping around the planet ...

It was a joke, that bit about being shy. Come talk to me in world to see why

You could sell that as a script! LOL Oh what I wouldn't give for that entertainment. ha ha. I so need to remember this should a situation warrant it in future.

Oh, I've seen you in world. Barely clothed. Rubbing yourself against Brenda. Unless that was someone else. Admittedly my brain isn't working right now.

This may be part of your problem. In most cases, it's best to avoid building right up against the property line. I know in SL it's not possible sometimes, but if you can reposition your house so not to be directly on the property line, it might cut down on hearing her BDSM stuff on your land.