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Pserendipity Daniels
Assume sarcasm as default
Join date: 21 Dec 2006
Posts: 8,839
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12-27-2008 06:38
On referral to the Pathetic Pun Panel, that only got a 1 out of 10. Pep (Did you get "could do better" a lot on your school reports?) _____________________
Hypocrite lecteur, — mon semblable, — mon frère!
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Conifer Dada
Hiya m'dooks!
Join date: 6 Oct 2006
Posts: 3,716
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12-27-2008 06:41
Can we have less posts about grammar, please?
Back to main topic - further to what I said in my earlier post, I repeat - don't leave SL on an impulse - just take a break. Or maybe make a new start with a new account, which would let hou have another name. _____________________
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Blot Brickworks
The end of days
Join date: 28 Oct 2006
Posts: 1,076
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12-27-2008 06:44
OK, lets be honest. I spend way to much time on Sl and not enough in RL, but hey, thats just me. I know a lot of you out there have a story, so tell us how SL has changed your life. And just from my personal experiance here. I suggest you take the PC place it under the wheels of your car or truck and back over it repeatedly. Saying this and knowing how I feel about my past few months here in Sl it wouldn't stop me from going right out and buying a new one, and NOT plugging into Sl would be the hardest thing since quitting smoking. Amazing isn't it how we perfer a fantasy world where all the women are supermodels and all the men are the image of perfection. I came here from another virtual reality game not quite unlike SL. I was coaxed and prodded for months to join Sl and after about a year had passed I did join. I found that it was many times more enjoyable than what I'd previously been used to. Essentially the same things were happening but, on a personal level SL is something that shouldn't be taken lightly. Here's what I found out about Sl in the short time I've been here. First, its not a game. Its a social network filled with real people with real emotions. Its beautiful to look at and sometimes difficult to navigate, but all things considered its great vehicle to be used in many ways, some good, some questionable (never really found satisfaction in having puppet sex), its like having coffee without the caffeen (shrugs, whats the point?). I've found myself answering questions and advising people about divorce, marrage, what computer to buy, life issues, you know, things I have no business advising anyone about. I got involved with the person who brought me here, we became friends, became lovers, made a home, build a small club, learned to build and everything was good untill Reality Life kicked in and I told her I need to leave Sl because of RL issues. The RL issues were, I was totally absorbed by Sl and starting to form bad habits that were carrying over into my real life and causing me distress, anxitey, depression, loss of sleep, bad dreams, you name it. Now I have to leave Sl and I'm very sad. I'll be loosing all the friends I've made here and all the time and money I've spent not to mention loosing my SL gf to another man, which happened just this morning. (caught her in bed with him), but I'm not angry (love you hun). Sl is more like RL than we'd like to admit. We do share RL feelings and emotions which is what makes Sl such a difficult world to live in and live without. Sl is an emotional rollercoaster filled with twists and turns. If your on this ride called SL I'd like to make one last suggestion (to you personally), before I leave here, and that is to turn Sl off delete it from your hard drive, smash the pc under the wheels of your car and never look back. I'm emotinally drained, physically wasted and financially less well off than before I started living here. And live here I did. Now my story wont cover every senario but I'm interested to hear your story if you have one. Ironic isn't it, this is my first and last post. ROFL< LOL> and of course I love that TUNE hoo la la la laaaa.... Cosmo Sl has no impact on RL for me...........But I think that if your barking in RL you will be double barking in SL. pity really. _____________________
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Pserendipity Daniels
Assume sarcasm as default
Join date: 21 Dec 2006
Posts: 8,839
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12-27-2008 06:44
Cosmo, lots of people take SL much too seriously. You were apparently one of those. Well done for recognising your fallibility and getting out before you ended up like a lot of sad people here.
As for your question? SL is a game. It has to be, because RL is a game, and SL is a subset of RL. Lose your sense of humour and proportion in either or both and you have lost the game. Lots do. Pep (I haven't) _____________________
Hypocrite lecteur, — mon semblable, — mon frère!
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Conifer Dada
Hiya m'dooks!
Join date: 6 Oct 2006
Posts: 3,716
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12-27-2008 06:45
Can we have less posts about grammar, please? _____________________
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Phil Deakins
Prim Savers = low prims
Join date: 17 Jan 2007
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12-27-2008 06:50
Nobody picked me up on that one, I should have said 'fewer posts', but I didn't - on purpose!  _____________________
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Pserendipity Daniels
Assume sarcasm as default
Join date: 21 Dec 2006
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12-27-2008 06:51
Can we have less posts about grammar, please? Pep (Couldn't resist, sorry) _____________________
Hypocrite lecteur, — mon semblable, — mon frère!
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Phil Deakins
Prim Savers = low prims
Join date: 17 Jan 2007
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12-27-2008 06:52
But since we're back to it...
You forgot to put an apostrophe in the word can't above. Just thought I'd help you with that. lol  _____________________
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Pserendipity Daniels
Assume sarcasm as default
Join date: 21 Dec 2006
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12-27-2008 06:53
Nobody picked me up on that one, I should have said 'fewer posts', but I didn't - on purpose! Pep (so I deleted mine.) _____________________
Hypocrite lecteur, — mon semblable, — mon frère!
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foehn Breed
More random than random
Join date: 16 Jan 2006
Posts: 1,142
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12-27-2008 07:46
There are good and bad days where SL affects RL and vice versa
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Adz Childs
Artificial Boy
Join date: 6 Apr 2006
Posts: 865
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12-27-2008 07:47
affect.
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Pserendipity Daniels
Assume sarcasm as default
Join date: 21 Dec 2006
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12-27-2008 07:59
affect. Pep (Or was it: Never better than late?) _____________________
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dzogchen Moody
need Smell feature
Join date: 3 Jan 2007
Posts: 159
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12-27-2008 08:45
the quick story:
Met my other half in SL. He was in USA, I'm in Lisbon. We met in RL in Germany. He lives with me for a year now. We're moving to the states next year when I get my visa and marry there. Yes it kinda changed both our lives. Now I don't do SL as much anymore LOL! |
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Imnotgoing Sideways
Can't outlaw cute! =^-^=
Join date: 17 Nov 2007
Posts: 4,694
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12-27-2008 09:52
I was able to be my ideal person, develop the social life I never had, get over a short list of phobias, and save/make money in the process. (^_^)
My ideal person: Immy: She is the wild and outgoing type that can say "hi" to just about anyone. Definitely a noise and trouble maker. But, someone I really personally admire myself. Someday, I aspire to have a sliver of the personality Immy has and be a better person in RL because of it. Someday, heh. (^_^) Social life: Something I can't really say I have in RL... Yes, I have a little family of my own, but I don't really exist outside my home. It's just the way I turned out. I'm attached to toys, machines, computers, games and such. So... People are kinda secondary. SL is somewhat of a way for me to interact with a computer that just happens to have people behind it... Maybe I need that removal. The avoidance of self. In the end, maybe it's the anonymity that I need to be as open as I think I am. I dunno. (O.o) My phobias: Darkness has always bothered me. I overthink things. I used to have a sequence of going from room to room and always having to sequence my way through turning lights on and off so that at least one light was on, but, I wasn't wasting electricity. Now, over this past year, I've been able to stroll through my pitch-black house without any second thoughts. I'm not sure what it is, just, that my mind is free of the phobic concerns I had before. I'm more at peace, maybe because I've been able to talk about these things more, with other people and my family. Can't be a bad thing. =^-^= Finally.... Monies.... I transferred to having a Second Life after having what could easibly be called a $60 per week Anime addiction. I was getting DVDs and Manga on a weekly basis, keeping up with the latest releases, and occupying my days with that stuff for hours on end..... Now... I'm in SL occupying my days with this stuff for hours on end. I'm not spending for L$, I'm not paying tier, and with the job I do inworld + stipend + contest prizes + the sales I make in my store, I'm actually pulling in a little income. Sure... I'm spending it all on clothes, but HEY!... I'm having fun. (^_^) Oh... And, I think my typing skills have gone way uphill over the past year. It has reflected in my performance at work. A lot of what I do in RL is reflected in SL (3D modeling for fixtures and softare development) and I'm bloody impressing people with my list of completed projects. (^_^)y _____________________
Somewhere in this world; there is someone having some good clean fun doing the one thing you hate the most. (^_^)y
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Phoenixa Sol
Dance Addict
Join date: 31 Aug 2006
Posts: 315
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12-28-2008 00:55
Ah but you're not a teacher. If you were, you'd have explained why it's "affect" and not "effect", and why it's "you're" and not "your". In other words, your corrections were completely unhelpful. Maybe you're best suited to sticking to the subject. 1. You do not know me, so you have no idea. 2. We are all teachers. _____________________
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Cael Merryman
Brain in Neutral
Join date: 5 Dec 2007
Posts: 380
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12-28-2008 02:14
The answer for me that there was a short period where I was fascinated by SL and spent too much time on SL. Fortunately, my RL is way too full for that to continue long and after a couple of weeks, RL resumed its proper place. SL is now more an adjunct to my RL, with what I do reflecting RL more than before. Had fun with some RP (the group we used is still alive, the Free Mercenaries, and I still RP occasionally). The Druidism and mostly non-RP is more what I am in RL though, and my current parcel and group are that.
Since I mostly log into SL on my wife's computer downstairs with her about six feet away most of the time, I've never had the slightest interest in the drama that some people bring to SL. I have fun, do some things I can't do in RL (like morph into a fox, my totem) and enjoy it for what it is for me. Probably lost US $ 1,000 in SL on the money side. Tried a few things that didn't work out, but enjoyed anyway, then got caught in the mainland price meltdown. Cut back, but it wasn't anything I couldn't afford. Less than half the cost of a good bicycle. I really do believe that you have to put no more into SL than you can afford to walk away from, both money and emotions. If that includes a lot of drama for you, fine. But unless you actually know the other person in RL (and I know maybe six, all professional acquaintances before I joined), they can decide they are in over their heads and turn off their SL for good, so it is a thin lifeline that you attach yourself to in these relationships. Just my opinion, having watched it from the sidelines raising a teenager all the way to adulthood. I get the same feelings sometimes, watching SL relationships as I did teenage stuff - too much idealism, too little humans are humans even if you love them. |
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FD Spark
Prim & Texture Doodler
Join date: 30 Oct 2006
Posts: 4,697
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12-28-2008 02:18
My RL has issues, SL has given me opportunities to explore my creativity, meet people I probably wouldn't have been given a chance. But when I am really down like I have been every thing is influenced by this and SL just doesn't provide what I am missing in RL.
Sometimes what is missing in my RL if I role play it in SL it just makes what I am missing just more unpleasant and lonesome. I have no clue how to resolve this either. _____________________
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Phil Deakins
Prim Savers = low prims
Join date: 17 Jan 2007
Posts: 9,537
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12-28-2008 04:10
1. You do not know me, so you have no idea. 2. We are all teachers. _____________________
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foehn Breed
More random than random
Join date: 16 Jan 2006
Posts: 1,142
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12-28-2008 07:39
1. You do not know me, so you have no idea. 2. We are all teachers. 3. We are all kings. 4. We are all Gods. _____________________
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Imnotgoing Sideways
Can't outlaw cute! =^-^=
Join date: 17 Nov 2007
Posts: 4,694
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12-28-2008 08:52
1. You do not know me, so you have no idea. 2. We are all teachers. 4. We are all Gods. 6. The cake is a lie. =^-^= _____________________
Somewhere in this world; there is someone having some good clean fun doing the one thing you hate the most. (^_^)y
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Cael Merryman
Brain in Neutral
Join date: 5 Dec 2007
Posts: 380
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12-28-2008 09:06
5. There will be cake in the end. 6. The cake is a lie. =^-^= The cake is a bad lie. Tiger Woods can hole it out anyway. Tiger Woods is God, or close enough. |
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Argent Stonecutter
Emergency Mustelid
Join date: 20 Sep 2005
Posts: 20,263
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12-28-2008 09:33
The check is in your mouth.
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Cappy Frantisek
Open Source is the Devil!
Join date: 27 Oct 2006
Posts: 400
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12-28-2008 09:39
Lets see....SL isn't real, you can't really do anything useful and the powers that be think that sex and roleplaying are less damaging than gambling. I'd say SL has no affect on my RL.
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Jaqueline Infinity
Registered User
Join date: 21 Sep 2007
Posts: 71
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12-28-2008 09:44
who needs this?
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Oryx Tempel
Registered User
Join date: 8 Nov 2006
Posts: 7,663
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12-28-2008 10:51
You only think you're made of irony. /me steels herself for the next one... _____________________
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