When did it become polite to just walk away when talking to someone?

Tarina Sewell walks away

I didn't think you were talking to me

Argent was, though..

All your threads seem to morph into the same back-and-forth with the same question(s) asked and answered again and again. What do you get out of these discussions, Yumi? Do they provide insight? Reinforce your ideas? Provide interaction? What more are you looking for in terms of responses? Even after multiple pages on multiple threads, you still seem to be wanting something for the forum community. What is it?

What I want is for the negative things I'm thinking to be shown to be wrong, but in terms of an overall model that makes sense and that scales up, rather than just a few observations. After all, "observation tells you what Bill Gates gets; scalability tells you what you get'.

The world is not a deterministic finite-state automaton.

It isn't, but I'm not asking the whole world to be.

For example, I've said several times that one problem is that the groups that are established with content already usually have content of sufficient quality that improving it is either not within the capacity of the platform, or would require the improver to devote themselves entirely to creation and abandon actually joining the group. You've said I'm wrong, but you've never explained what model you believe exists instead. In your own head, you must have some model of what is going on that enables you to say that I'm wrong.

And yet people manage to create new content that's interesting to people, AND hang out, all without turning into some kind of creepy hermit. This isn't "modeling", this is plain and simple observation. Direct and personal experience. I can't write you a program for dealing with the world, but I *can* tell you what works for me, and thousands of other people. And just, go and interact with people, be interested in them, share your cool stuff with them if you come up with any, but don't sweat it if you don't... and above all go and DO it.

I'm walking away now. Bye.

*nod* And as I said, the problem is, observation tells you what Bill Gates gets. Only scalability tells you what YOU get.

It might work for you and thousands of other people, but that is less than 0.1% of SL. A statement that was only true 0.1% of the time about other things would normally be considered incorrect. I do not wish to be one of the tens of thousands of others who try to do this, fail, but incidentally fund the world by their lost dreams.

And what does it tell you that you haven't received an acceptable answer after multiple threads with pages of replies?

That and this thread is exhausting. Reminds to a certain extent threads from the young lady comes on the forum complaining how no one likes her, how she is disappointed in sl she is and contemplating suicide. No OP is not (as far as know) contemplating suicide, but OP doesn't appear to take the advice that is given. That is where the similiarities lie.

If you don't want to take anyone's advice in this thread and the responses from your other similiar threads, then please just stop asking.

That I'm being rejected, because people are refusing to identify the actual answer. (It must exist in their heads, after all.)

What was the Question again?

You think people here have the answers you seek but are purposefully withholding them or willfully misconstruing your questions to avoid providing the answers?

Possibly; or that they just don't care enough to take the time to think the questions and their answers all the way through (eg, if you have already posted the answer before, surely that tells you it's not the right answer?). Either way, it's a bit of a rejection.

You said, "if you have already posted the answer before, surely that tells you it's not the right answer". The flip side of this is if you have already posted the question before and received pages of answers from multiple people that you reject, surely that tells you it's not the right question or you are incorrectly discounting the answer(s) provided.

Walks away mumbling something about how mentally masturbatory this exercise is and if Yumi is so damned wise, why doesn't he look within for the answer?
BYE...!

Irony alert. Well spotted, Annaleigh.

Yumi is the one repeatedly rejecting US.

/me agrees this is OCD in action btw.

Since those "pages of answers" are just the same answer over and over again - by YOUR (ie, others') choice - I'm actually only discounting one answer.

I'm "rejecting" your answers because they don't propose alternate models that make sense.

For the people who are referring to OCD, I _did_ mention this thread to my OCD therapist, and she basically said that "since they are just random internet peoples, the quality of their advice is under much greater suspicion than your reaction to it".

Then , why do you keep asking?

Listen to your therapist, just stop. This is not a therapy group!


/me politely walks away.

I'm only quoting you Dove cause I think you wrote this quite well on how many people could see peoples actions as the OP intended it.

"No one respects anyone in here" I think thats kind of a generalization of people and could be considered rude as well, but I can understand your view on it. I however don't share your view. Altho I understand people can perceive others actions as rude at times, they still need to put the shoe on the other foot. Understanding that people have an RL is something you need to take into consideration.

If I happen to be talking to someone in game, and something comes up in RL I may be abrupt and leave. I usually make a comment such as.. "I gotta run" and may provide a quick reason. Once again I may provide a quick reason but don't always. Why? Because my RL life is much more important than SL, and same goes for the people in it. My RL friendships, relationships, partner, family trumps anything you could ever have with me in a game.

So when it comes to being courteous maybe you should be more understanding of peoples views on the importance of their real life. Heres a couple quick examples to why I will up and leave your conversation in a heartbeat without saying much at all..

cooking, need to head out the door, late for an appointment, just checking ims and leaving soon, something is on TV I wanted to watch, my spouse wants to talk, family has come over, one of my pets is in danger or doing something bad, etc etc.

The list can go on and on. Really its not meant to be offensive if I get up and leave quick, and if its taken that way ever by anyone too bad. I have an RL life much as anyone else in game and I will tend to it when I feel it is necessary. Everyone I happen to talk to understands this it seems, and they do the very same thing. I can't say I've ever been insulted or felt people weren't being courteous.

She wasn't saying I should stop. She was saying any problem I had with your advice was more likely your fault than mine. From her point of view, at least - after all, she has met me and not you.

I keep asking because for some reason people refuse to help me, even though they have helped others in similar ways, and so I'm trying to find out why so I can fix that. The answer isn't "because you keep rejecting answers" because I've seen others get much better answers than me, and those could have been given to me first time.

print out this thread, unedited, and take it in for her to read the next time you go in. unless you can truly remove yourself from it and look at it objectively, then you most likely aren't describing the situation to her properly (and it may well give her insight on things that you may be holding back unknowingly).

All I need to look at it objectively is to look at other threads where other people have asked essentially the same thing and gotten much more helpful responses.

i have yet to see observe you look at anything objectively. try what i just suggested and prove me wrong.

Some therapists have absolutely no interest in "curing" people and losing that income. You might want a second opinion.



If you've already seen the answers elsewhere; why are you asking again? Please read my previous post which you ignored. Nobody wants to hear you go on and on about yourself without any seeming recognition that others exist for any purposes other than to satisfy your needs. I would suggest spending some time helping others without thinking of yourself or what you might get in return. Your current attitude is driving people away.