How do you feel about SL Relationships...

I'm with Susie on this ... if I get a girlfriend then I want a girlfriend

Not that I am looking for one ... or want one ...

You ought to get that checked out. Chances are you did NOT get those lesions in SL. Very safe sex, there...



Sorry, couldn't resist

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I just had a painful breakup, so I can't be trusted to answer this properly. But I don't regret our relationship and it WAS worth it, even though it couldn't last. I think he'd say the same thing. But separating RL and SL is a lot easier said than done. You can't separate your emotions that easily.

So true, even when you try. That's why I won't put myself, or someone else in that position again. I can pick myself up very easily, but it isn't fair to the other person.

I'm partnered in SL with my RL husband, also. The irony is that we actually met online in a yahoo chat room almost 8 years ago, and have now been married for 5 1/2. He originally joined SL in November, 2006. At first I had a huge problem with it.....lots of SL women coming onto him, which was irritating. I would sit and watch him on SL sometimes and he would tell them his wife was sitting right there. Most didn't seem to believe him, or just didn't care. When we got our 2nd computer up and running, I joined SL last February. There are times when I think being partnered in SL has enhanced our relationship. We sometimes can talk about things in SL chat more openly then we do face to face. A lot of men aren't as comfortable with face to face "confrontations" and I can sometimes get him to open up better when I'm not staring him down. Other times it has caused problems for us, especially as he goes through phases where he loses interest in SL, but I don't. He's a big PC gamer in RL, while I'm not. SL is pretty much the only sort of "game" (for lack of a better word) with which I'm involved. When he loses interest, I think he would like it better if I would, too. However, it's not a huge problem for us. I'm completely devoted to him and him only in RL and SL. SL also lets us act out "foreplay" sometimes, which can be fun. I think, overall, it's helped things for us, so that should be an option on the poll also. I think there are more of us RL/SL couples than most people seem to think.

Happy Rezday to you
Happy Rezday to you
Happy Rezday to DaQbet
Happy Rexday to you!

lol Happy Rezday in case you didn't get the message

/me joins Claire for the chorus

The only way I'd have a romantic relationship in SL is if it was working towards and part of the real deal. I won't rule out meeting a sig other in SL, but I have no interest in just a virtual one.

Put me in the "SL partner is RL partner" bin.

SL has not played well with my RL husband's computer, but he's interested in SL and wants to spend more time in world with me. I've added him to my family group so he has a home on the land I share with my brother. And I have enjoyed having his name listed in my profile as it somewhat (I said "somewhat" deters the unwanted come-ons.

Funny story: one acquaintance of mine (clearly a profile-reader, good for him) said: "I never see your husband with you."

Me: He's not in world much.

Acquaintance: LOL why is he your husband then?

I think Acquaintance didn't realize that my SL husband is also my RL husband ...

I am not interested in any other SL romantic relationships at this time. But I don't have anything against them, and I totally understand how they can happen and how they can be delightful and painful and complex and fulfilling. And were my RL situation different I am sure I could also be susceptible ...

If you're so pissed about it, why waste your precious time coming here to leave your 2 cents? You must have enjoyed the fact that you had yet another chance to leave a rude comment. It's not nosiness, if ppl don't want to share their experiences for the good of a person's curiousity, they will not come here and share them.

awww …thanks for the rezday song.... /blush

I guess the one thing I’ve learned about relationships in SL is that you need to be honest with yourself and your partner….if your goal is nothing more then to flirt and maybe slap a few pixels together then go with it and enjoy. If you seek something more…then prepare for heartache.
Remember “ I just want to be friends” means the same in SL as it does in RL
And don’t make too much out of one crazy evening of shopping at Bits and Bobs.

That's sounds a wee bit touchy.

What part of my post makes you think I'm pissed?
I asked a question. You ask questions, I ask questions. I think that's how forums work.

Review the fifth option of your poll. Can't really ask for responses like that and then get upset when someone responds, methinks.

My actual title is Knicker Knotter

B.

I answered your Other, But i'll add something here too.
My Longest On Line relationship, Spanning stays in Both TSO, and SL has been going strong for over five years. Both of my Current Love relationships are well Over a Year old now.

I'm very shy by nature in RL, and when i First got on line in TSO (I chose it because i Played off Line, and was comfortable with the format) it was my First experience with Talking to people On Line. I thought, Like i'm sure many people did, that falling in Love On Line could never happen, it just seemed silly. Months Later i was in a love relationship. I was surprised with myself how Easy, and natural it was,, and How REAL it felt. I WAS in love, with all the attendant Conflicting Feelings all the Joys, All the Hurts. There was Nothing False about it. Years later, i'm not a Newb anymore, But i still Fall in Love On line, and it still Feels wonderful.
I Know I'm Not alone, because i've heard the same thing from Hundreds of people On Line over the last six or seven years. If one Feels, If one has sympathy, or Empathy, In short, If one is capable of Falling in Love, One can Fall in Love On Line.

For those of you that Haven't,all i can say is, Like RL, all it takes is Meeting the right Person. You just haven't yet. If and When you do, It will be your turn to Marvel at yourself, and be surprised with how Easy, How Natural, and how Real it is.

Scoff now, and enjoy yourself, But i think your turn will come.

Angel.

I feel like SL relationships need to work like RL relationships, whatever that means. It's a person on the other end. You are communicating with them in a different manner than you would normally, but you are still sharing yourself with another real person, so if you get involved with them in a relationship, then you should be prepared for RL feelings. I don't try to separate my RL personality and feelings from SL. I am who I am. My friends in SL are RL friends as far as I'm concerned. I value them the same. If I had a love relationship I would value it for what it was regardless of the fact that it was in SL. I guess I would really have to talk with my partner about what that means and what the boundaries of the relationship are or where we saw it going, but I would have that with a non-SL relationship as well.

Weird. I'm not a relationship expert by any means. Trust me. I've screwed up plenty of them. It just seems to me like as long as both people are honest and open, then you could have a wonderful relationship with someone in SL.

If I'm having trouble with my partner in SL then I'm in big trouble because my SL partner sleeps with me in bed in RL every night. My SL partner is also my RL partner. I wouldn't have it any other way.

"Is it some need for vicarious smoochies? Text-based voyerism? Another attempt at writing uninformed articles for some second-rate web news site? Yet another "research project"?"

I think she posed a perfectly legitimate question.

People do things here for the weirdest reasons.

I once had a guy ask me to help him test pose balls because he wanted to buy one for himself and his partner. He wasn't pointing out the dance balls, either.

I don't make assumptions about people's motives any longer

B.

PS. No, I didn't help him with his window shopping

Change into a large and obviously male werewolf, and growl at him "OK baby, but you're on the bottom!", then watch him run.

I have been successfully celebate & relationship-free for my entire SL existance

Way too much drama in my RL to take on SL baggage

You are my idol. I wish more people were as wise as you.

Really Brann, we could have kept our clothes on.

I've been relationship and sex-free for my entire SL existence. Has nothing to do with RL "drama", though and -



- I am not wise, just incompetent.

I've seen you dry-hump that pole...

Yay! Brann wins! -- for you, cutie, I'll put some on, any time!