Faithful or Unfaithful

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he's a douchebag. a douche is too good for him.

Hey Colette, you were the only one that actually commented on the telephone thing. I should have an answer tomorrow after we have this deep and meaningful discussion tonight. It should be interesting.

Even in insults, your use of language is impeccable.

Pip is the douche. Pep is just Pep.

Ray (Getting used to Pep's pap and turning the other ignore button).

*drags back to topic*

This is what caught me. The av the OP is in a relationship in is not a premium account.. and everything in her apartment was in her "alts" name. But it was supposed to be her apartment. Did the OP check the landowner under about/land or who was the owner/creator of the walls? Or did she admit it was an alt?

I'm asking this because one can rent furnished apartments in SL. And it wouldn't have her av name on it, because she wouldn't really own it.

Given that possibility, I'd definitely say that an open discussion is in order with the partner. Just don't be too quick to judge.

Sorry he's away with the rest of the New Testament team for a week of WH&S / SOP training Siberia Waters, I'm the current stand in from Deity Temps Inc, can I help you?

Ohh LOL

They are both Douches then

If they really are separate people and stuff.

I do not look at it this way at all.

A marriage in SL is what you make it. It means what you wish it. And you respect it and treat it in the same way - according to what it means to you. But to compare it to killing a pack of monsters? I do not think so...

If you go to a few SL weddings, you will see that the majority of people getting married do not look at it like a "video game" or that it '"isn't real". It is real for them in the context of this world we live in (and quite possibly everywhere and everything they do online), and it is real within their hearts, and that is what matters. Not that it is "only a video game" or "only a virtual world".

So no, there may not be a real life commitment equal to say the one you may already have in your RL marriage, if you are married in RL - but there is a level of commitment and for some people it IS on par with their RL relationship.

I know whenever I rez my SL wedding certificate on a wall, i smile happily. When i look at my wedding ring on my hand in SL, it also makes me smile happily. It makes me feel bonded to that person 10,000mi. away from me and closes the distance between us a little bit, and for that i am also happy and quite satisfied in the feeling that what i have is something more than what most people have in SL (and even RL for some!) and though it is not in RL, i marvel at how insanely and wonderfully happy a simple wedding in SL has made me, in my RL.

Very different people. Pip is just your common or garden douche of limited imagination and a tendency to hyper-emotional response.

Pep (I am a thoughtful, intelligent douche to people of limited imagination and a tendency to hyper-emotional response.)

Can you imagine a bloke - in real - whose thinking he's going out with you for the evening with a possibility of going for the "Big O" later being met by an alt at the door? "Where's Jig?" he asks. "Oh, she's going out with that wicked-looking stud. You've got me instead. So stand up straight and stop licking your nose!" she says.

I reckon 99.999 percent of marriages in sl have had more than their share of infidelity. And why not? It's all part of the rich tapestry of life.

debate is what de fish choke on.

Not to pry too much, but was there a resolution?

Took the words out of my mouth.. Met my partner 9 months ago, after 3 we partnered and on the 21st june we married, we cam and phone each other, we are both faithful in sl and rl , hopefully my xmas present will be her at my side in Rl then we are both going to uninstall sl

I agree wholeheartedly with Briana on this. Just last night I was re-reading the chat log when Will proposed to me. After almost a year, it still elicits the same emotion as when I first heard those words. In fact, even more so now since we spent time with each other irl. We are 1800mi apart and now working on having 3 day weekends to see each other more frequently. In the meantime, I can relive his facial expressions when he says things inworld or on the phone. I can visualize his body language while we are cuddling inworld, and the tenderness in his voice until we can be together again.

So yes, for some SL marriages/relationships the commitment level is very real. I will go a step further, because distance is probably the main obstacle for couples, trust and effort that one has to put in such a relationship is I believe harder than rl because you don't see or can't be with that person irl as you would like. This is why fidelity is so important and why infidelity can be so devastating.

I compare love in SL with letters that my great-grandfather wrote to my great-grandmother when there was no phone. In those letters they wrote about their day to day situations, the obstacles they face distance wise and so on. Their anticipation of their first meeting and how they felt when they had to return and eventually one relocated to the other's location. Trust and effort was just as important as it is now. Their love as well as others back then in those days and how it was expressed, is not any different than love and how it is expressed now in SL.

Wow you put that very nicely! I agree 100%...

This may be getting a little OT, but to me a carefully crafted notecard from my dearest one is so much more precious than a chat log. To me, these are like the old fashioned letters and I love to open up the old ones from time to time just to reread them.

We had a very long talk about this topic and although she never admitted to having another alt, we decided to remain friends but not a married couple. At the present time, things are going well. Thanks for all of your comments.

Smoooth

i have been in your shoes - big hug

It's up to you to make that decision. You could stay with her or let her go. Either way it's your decision and you need to stand by it.

Whose name is listed as her partner on her profile?

My personal opinion is not to get in deep relationships and don't partner up with anyone else in SL

I may get some grief from that, but it's just my opinion.

I hope things work out well for you.

We can still drool over your ass, though - right?

Of course you can. I wouldn't want to break so many hearts

Let it go. My rule is never get involved in a relationship in SL. For those of you who are purposely seeking it...prepare for the consequences. Things are not always as they seem.

She's found someone else or she's got a better job or she hasn't told her husband about you or her kids want more of her time or she's taking classes or she's found out all she wants to know about the human race and is preparing her spacecraft for intergalactic travel to another loony planet.

Dump that zero and get yourself a hero, GF.

LOL. Telling someone to let it go as a necropost to a thread that's long since dead. Timely advice.