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Survey about sexual harassment. Help!!!

Briana Dawson
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07-15-2008 09:38
From: Chong Fhang
I'm doing a survey on Sexual harassment of female Avatars in second-life. If you have this kind of experiences, could you please share your stories with me. It will really help me. You can tell me the following things:
Gender Harassment:
Told offensive jokes
Made offensive sexual remarks
Made remarks about your body or sexual activities
Displayed or distributed sexist materials
Made sexist remarks
Publish pictures, videos and movies online

Unwanted sexual attention:
Attempted to discuss sexual matters
Gave unwanted sexual attention
Attempted to establish a romantic or sexual relationship
Continued to ask for dates, drinks, touching
Impose sex-related sounds or images on a message

Sexual coercion:
Trailing your records
Sexual insinuations
Bribes and seductions to achieve sexual aims


Gender Harassment: Never
Told offensive jokes : Eggy Lippmann
Made offensive sexual remarks: Siggy Romulus
Made remarks about your body or sexual activities: Marilyn Murphy
Displayed or distributed sexist materials: Marilyn Murphy (again)
Made sexist remarks: Blackzilla Little
Publish pictures, videos and movies online: no

Unwanted sexual attention: All the time
Attempted to discuss sexual matters: All the time
Gave unwanted sexual attention: Never
Attempted to establish a romantic or sexual relationship: Only with Nina Stepford
Continued to ask for dates, drinks, touching: Yes Nina Stepford chased me down and did all those
Impose sex-related sounds or images on a message: No

Sexual coercion: Only when I was a slave
Trailing your records: Wazz dis?
Sexual insinuations: Who does not make these?
Bribes and seductions to achieve sexual aims: Yes the other day someone messaged me asked me if i had F###ED some guy to pay off his debts (wrong IM he realized too late).
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Does that help??
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Brenda Connolly
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07-15-2008 09:39
From: Deira Llanfair
Yes this can be quite confusing - in Dutch, and German too, I think, "panties" mean panty hose, i.e., stocking tights. (Just thought 'd share.)


Yes, you guys woyld say Knickers, which for us are pants that end at the Knees, like golfers used to wear.
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Deira Llanfair
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07-15-2008 09:43
From: Brenda Connolly
Yes, you guys woyld say Knickers, which for us are pants that end at the Knees, like golfers used to wear.



Ah - knickers = plus fours :D
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Brenda Connolly
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07-15-2008 09:45
From: Deira Llanfair
Ah - knickers = plus fours :D

just don't mention Y Fronts
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Sassy Romano
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07-15-2008 09:46
Ok this has given me an idea...i'm going to go and research to see if there's a market in SL for my used panties.

:)
Brenda Connolly
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07-15-2008 09:47
From: Sassy Romano
Ok this has given me an idea...i'm going to go and research to see if there's a market in SL for my used panties.

:)



Just ask Chris, or the several guys he outbid for mine
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Deira Llanfair
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07-15-2008 09:49
From: Brenda Connolly
just don't mention Y Fronts


Why not? Well they are gentlemens' underpants, no?

I was just thinking - knickers could be short for knickerbottoms - hence the long pants to the knee. Hmmmmm....

Well I'm off now - time for tiffin :)
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FlipperPA Peregrine
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07-15-2008 09:56
Zoey Jade once took advantage of my bent over avatar at the welcome area in Ahern back in the day while I was AFK!

zOMG!









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Kyllie Wylie
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07-15-2008 09:56
In Canada (and Australia too i'm told) a Thong is something you wear on your feet in hot weather.....

As for Harrasement, I find most percieved infractions are just cases of poor comunication with people who speak different languages. I have found very very little persistant harrasment in SL, even amoungst deviant sexual practices groups the guys are gentlemen and the girls ladies and are well behaved... untill they get to know you.....
Toy LaFollette
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07-15-2008 10:00
the longer Ive been in SL makes me realize you can only be harrassed if you allow it. Mute,TP and ctrl-Q they atr all your friends. Hiyas Flip, LTNS :)
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Walker Moore
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07-15-2008 10:03
I'm afraid I only sexually harass male avatars in Second Life, but thanks for asking.
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Ann Launay
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07-15-2008 10:07
Brennnndaaaa, I haz shoes! Many many pretty shoooooes!
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Congratulations and shame on you! You are a bit of a slut.
CCTV Giant
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07-15-2008 10:10
Hey, I got 100% -- will this be on the finals?
Brann Georgia
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07-15-2008 10:12
From: Chris Norse
Oh, I get it all the time. But then I am the best looking male in SL.


You get it because you have ban rights, O Deluded One. :D

This thread does provide a certain degree of entertainment value, if nothing else.
I suppose it'd be easier to do a survey on the harassment of female av's if you actually knew which ones are female.

But let's not sit in judgement of apparent imbeciles or their motives.
The question seems to pertain to the avatars, not the RL folks behind them.
Could it be that he's talking about RP situations? The oddities that play out rape fantasies surely enjoy a bit of harassment, perhaps as a sort of bizarre foreplay. Maybe he's looking for someone to harrass him and needs a list of places to find such things? Or maybe he's looking for info on how to properly harrass someone before they hit the mute button.

Or, in some uninformed but well-intentioned feminist crusade, he/she is gathering information before shouting at people about us helpless, innocent, mute-buttonless womyn.

The possibilities are endless.

If knickers are panties, what are knickerbockers?

B.
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Sarah Nerd
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07-15-2008 10:18
OP, I would really like to help but I need a better understanding of what your talking about. Can you please send me high resolution nude pictures of yourself involved in any act you might consider sexual harassment.
Mereille Despres
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07-15-2008 10:19
From: Brann Georgia

If knickers are panties, what are knickerbockers?

B.


You know...that big purple dinosaur avatar sings about it:

Hey Mr. Knickerbocker boppity bop
I like the way that you boppity bop
I'll put that beat right into my <insert body part here>


come to think of it....HEY! I HAVE been harassed!
Lindal Kidd
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07-15-2008 10:21
From: Desmond Shang
...It must be my really cool avatar, I can think of no other reason...


You didn't think very long, then.

Being kind, smart, and rich are all powerful aphrodisiacs, Des.
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07-15-2008 10:26
I'm not so sure about that. I'm beginning to think I'm going to have to pay someone to do it. Just passively allowing it doesn't seem to work for me.

From: Toy LaFollette
the longer Ive been in SL makes me realize you can only be harrassed if you allow it. Mute,TP and ctrl-Q they atr all your friends. Hiyas Flip, LTNS :)
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LittleMe Jewell
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07-15-2008 10:28
From: Chong Fhang
I'm doing a survey on Sexual harassment of female Avatars in second-life. If you have this kind of experiences, could you please share your stories with me. It will really help me. You can tell me the following things:
Gender Harassment:
Told offensive jokes
Made offensive sexual remarks
Made remarks about your body or sexual activities
Displayed or distributed sexist materials
Made sexist remarks
Publish pictures, videos and movies online

Unwanted sexual attention:
Attempted to discuss sexual matters
Gave unwanted sexual attention
Attempted to establish a romantic or sexual relationship
Continued to ask for dates, drinks, touching
Impose sex-related sounds or images on a message

Sexual coercion:
Trailing your records
Sexual insinuations
Bribes and seductions to achieve sexual aims


Definition of harassment: To irritate or torment persistently.
Definition of offensive: Causing anger, displeasure, resentment, or affront

To me, the majority of "harassment" and "offensive remarks" are all in perception. People need to toughen up and stop being so damn touchy - change their attitudes a bit.

In RL, if they touched me without consent or demanded sex for something or continued with really really bad comments after being told to stop, then I would view it as harassment - otherwise, it is usually just some asshole being a jerk. I don't think too much of that can really happen in SL - I have too much control over what happens to me here.

Sorry, but I think that too much of the world is getting the attitude that they have the right to never be offended by anything.

If some guy comes on to me, I simply take it as a compliment. Geez, wish it happened more often.
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Tomas Gandini
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07-15-2008 10:29
OP has an interesting profile... empty except for birth date and no payment.

Interesting thing is that there is one other with the same last name. Birth day about 2 weeks earlier with the same first name except with lee appended. Profile also empty and no payment.
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Damien1 Thorne
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07-15-2008 10:31
From: LittleMe Jewell
If some guy comes on to me, I simply take it as a compliment. Geez, wish it happened more often.

You wanna see my prims?
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07-15-2008 10:34
Sing along, children

Who lives in the east 'neath the willow tree?
Sexual Harassment Panda.
Who explains sexual harassment to you and me?
Sexual Harassment Panda.
"Don't say that! Don't touch there!
Don't be nasty!" says the silly bear.
He's come to tell you what's right and wrong.
Sexual Harassment Panda.


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07-15-2008 10:39
From: Brann Georgia
I suppose it'd be easier to do a survey on the harassment of female av's if you actually knew which ones are female.
What???? All those Avatars that look like female might not be? Say it isn't so.

:rolleyes:
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07-15-2008 10:40
From: Damien1 Thorne
You wanna see my prims?
Do they match?
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07-15-2008 10:41
From: LittleMe Jewell
Do they match?

I was told they are the best freebies money can buy. :D
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