Haterade in Sl, anyone just outright snap at you?

I wouldn't dream of defending her response, but I suggest that random jumping around on the map is no longer an appropriate way of finding interesting places.

I also wouldn't dream of defending the limitations of SL search. An alternative is to scan the various third party websites to find interesting places.

Why?

Well that's not exciting. Sheesh, what do you have to do these days to get people talking?

To which I would have replied, "Fair enough. I had yours last night. believe me, you will be getting the better part of the deal."

Because usually those green dots are clustered there on private property and want to be left alone. I usually end up with lots of green dots in my workshop because my friends and I tend to hang around together when we're building. But that doesn't mean that just anyone's presence is wanted. If a stranger shows up (which occasionally they do) the land owner politely explains that we're working and want privacy. Or just kicks them out. It depends on whose land it is Personally I don't mind if people explore my land and builds, but I'm nervous of building around strangers and prefer to be left alone when I'm in my skybox working.

As for nasty people, if I'm in some public place I usually just laugh and go on with my business. If it's in my home sims, I ban them if they keep it up, since I'm an EM and I can do that

I also log the conversation in a notecard for later entertainment. I have a folder reserved for the lol-worthy conversations I have, many of which are from people like those mentioned above who need a clue. The most recent one is a log from a game of Slingo a couple of friends and I were in. One friend was hosting, so the other friend and I went to support her. Since this location caters primarily to human avs, we three usually go as something unusual and/or silly and do silly things like dance on our cards, which the other players usually find amusing. Anyway we were doing our usual thing, when one person who claimed to be a child av but really wasn't, started complaining in open chat that one friend (who was afk at the time) was IMing her asking for sexual ageplay. She also attacked me, saying various bad things about having a furry av. Said friend would never do that and was afk at the time anyway, and my SL is strictly G-rated, so that made it funny. The icing on the cake though was that later this loud individual was banned from the sim for this incident XD

Agreed. Why? I love to teleport at random on the map. I don't do it to the middle of where a building is showing up, nor very close to another green dot in case they need privacy, but I've found some great places that way.

I doubt that it's "usually" a small group wanting to be let alone. Plus the land tools let you totally avoid the problem of droppers-by.

1) "Usually" In my experience.

2) The Ryder estate bans banlines, and security systems have to be at high altitudes and with reasonable warnings.

If the place isn't a club or a store, assume it's private and don't drop in on them. In my experience not everyone is going to be patient and understanding when a stranger drops in. I've had friends complain and get aggressive with strangers that dropped in on ME on MY property.

yes i think these are the people who spent most of there high school years locked in a wall locker and are trying to get back at the world

First off, Brenda...I am gonna have to hang out with you in world...you totally crack me up...I WISH I had thought about saying that HAHAHAHAHA. Secondly...in the almost year I have been in SL and TPing around aimlessly...that is the FIRST time I met someone like that. Usually, to my disappointment, the cluster of green dots indicates campers. If I only see one to, say...4 dots...I avoid the place and if I think it is a private house or something I also don't go. I have met some wonderful people that way. I think Trailer Trash girl was a bit of an anomaly in this case. I forgot to mention...that she said...after I said, I was tping around and ended up there....that she would AR me for stalking her! LOL.. Thank God I save ALL my chats. lololol.

-Blu-

Don't need ban lines or a script to handle droppers-by.

If you drop in on someone and it's not a public place as it appeared it may be, one simply apologies and toddles off. No harm done. No, not everyone is of sound enough mind to be patient with the occasional accidental dropper-by, that's just life.

I totally agree. I have had people just walk into my house (I am kind of a private person in my own place) and I just say, sorry private residence. I have had someone start a conversation with me...very friendly...they ended up getting the grand tour and we chatted for like 1/2 hour. lol. But...to be attacked like that SHEESH.

-Blu-

No, it's never happened to me.

Hmm, I just got some random idiot calling me all manner of bad words for refusing to use voice over in Ahern. After he called me a social retarded ****, I pointed out that I wasn't the one swearing out loud at random strangers in public.

LMAO

I have yet to meet any real asshats in SL. Though I think it would be quite comical to meet one and screw with their head.

Met a few like that. But I've met a lot more strangers who end up on my friendslist, so I only back away from the armed ones.

Well, the obvious question is why do you think it's ok? Remember, it's your obligation to justify your behavior.

But I'll answer your question: Dropping in on a group like that is like going to a park, seeing a random group of people hanging around or having a picnic or whatever, and walking over and listening in. It's rude and inappropriate. Just because it's a public place doesn't mean there's an open invitation for anyone to join.

There are lots of variations to this, with a lot of cultural experience being brought into play. It's ok to sit and watch a group playing some game (football, frisbee, whatever), maybe even ask to join. It's not ok to sit and watch at someone getting a barbecue started. If there's some event happening (e.g. a freshman outing for a nearby college), and you're part of the event, then random mingling may be ok.

But obviously with SL, you have none of the information needed to help make these decisions. You really can't tell from the map whether you're jumping into a house, a club, or a sex party. Short of a clever sign visible on the map, there's nothing about a collection of green dots that could possibly justify a conclusion that it's open to the public. Perhaps that wasn't true in earlier days, when all or almost all such gatherings were public. But as land gets cheaper and more people get places for themselves in SL, that's no longer the case.

There is harm done. Having to deal with strangers is stressful to people who don't get value out of meeting new people. It's especially stressful to people who are relatively new yet unfortunate enough to have experienced griefers. Being interrupted is stressful to people for whom keeping focus is difficult.

Yes, you're right, it happens. And yes, people should be able to cope with it properly. But please don't conclude that a brief, polite interaction is the same as a positive or neutral event to the other person.

Whether it's usually or mostly or often or sometimes isn't really relevant. As long as it's not "exceedingly rare", it's enough of an issue.

Neither the land tools nor security devices are a complete answer. First, an unlocked door is not the same as an open invitation. Second, there are circumstances where they simply don't meet the need. For example, someone may want to have a party for a group which is not the group owning a parcel. It's not reasonable to expect them to add all the invitees to the parcel ownership group, nor to temporarily change a security orb belong to the other group, nor to buy another orb for this purpose.

Well I met Chris in-world a few times.

What was the question again?

That is something I just don't get. (o.o) ... Antisocial people in a social network. Am I missing something? (o.o)

I mean, really, there are WAY better 3D design, programming, scripting, and physics simulation tools out there... For free! Why bother getting involved in SL if all you really want to do is NOT meet anyone? (o.o)

I don't get intolerance IW...it makes no sense to me! The possibilities are unlimited...one has to cease being surprised and judgmental.

Although, I do still have some issues with child avs...just creepy, but I still am not mean about it!

makes ya kinda wonder why kid avs were specifically brought up

LOL, nice, I always remember some graffiti on a sign that said "I had your mum last night"
A few weeks later someone had added the reply "ewww, thanks a lot Dad!"

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