AR this person or what?

Nah.

He just may get suspended depending on the Linden that handles it.

And more than likely his profile pick will be deleted or her name removed and he will be sent a warning from a Linden of that particular action taken.

But the suspension really, like many things in life, comes down to the mood of the Linden that get's the matter on his or her screen. The entire policy for such things is extremely arbitrary.

Screw that. People shouldn't be allowed to get away with harassing others like that. AR the bastard daily until it's gone. Make no contact with him at all,and log anything he says to you.(Do NOT respond)

*If* a linden looks at it... and that's a big if... he *may* get a warning. They may just ignore it because at best it's a borderline case and they are probably all still busy with Zindra tickets. If this is his first offense I highly doubt there would be any suspension. But... assume for a second he did get one? What good does that do for the OP? Maybe she gets the feeling that she got back at him? That's a very childish goal. Meanwhile, he creates an alt and comes back at her and creates more drama.
On the other hand... if she just ignores the whole mess, she gets to move on with her life and he gets to walk around with these idiotic statements in his profile proving to everyone that happens to look what a dink he is until he gets tired of it and removes it.

"Detention in the Refectory with Mr. Daniels"
Yep, cruel and unsual all right!

I definitely agree with this.

Definately don't ignore this. I have much experience with an unstable ex who just recently made a nasty 'copy' of my avatar, joined my groups, and put some of my RL info in the profile of the copy. All of her accounts got suspended 14 days for it.

She's also gotten suspended in the past for it, 1 day the first time, 3 days the 2nd time. It does work. You should NOT allow people to harrass you and clearly violate the TOS and CS. The AR system is there for a reason, use it.

Wha???? ha??? How come he's nice to you and always has it in for me?
I still say Detention in Refectory for one hour with Mr. Daniels would be purgatorial. Imagine it! Now THAT is far worse than a AR!!
"Again, Miss Chippewa, the verb Amo ... neatly this time. And it's NOT agricola, agrocalo,, agricacocacola"

As Forrest Gump would say... "Drama is as drama does" (or something like that) Your unstable ex probably didn't become unstable from being ignored.

Obviously if she ignores the guy and he then escalates the situation and becomes an "unstable ex" then you report it. At this point he's just being a low level douche. Yes the AR system is there for a reason... but if it gets flooded by petty shit-stirring it becomes less effective for the people that really need it.

I haven't spoken to her since I broke up with her, so I wouldn't know. I just know what she says to me when she tracks me down, which she does. And what she puts in her profile when someone IMs me asking about it.

I don't consider information about my family being made public 'petty'. Judging by the trend, next up would be a hardware ban.

We are not talking about your situation... this thread is about the OP's situation. I didn't call your situation petty. It's apples and oranges.

That goes beyond petty shit stirring. Defaming someone's name and character will get you sued in RL. The very least it should get you an AR in SL. All stalkers and freaks start somewhere. Best to nip it early.

Why wouldn't you mute her?

My point was, that ignoring it, which I did until it got out of hand, will NOT make it go away. It will only make it worse. So, like Rio says, nip it in the bud.

Pep - are you for hire to screen people before I accept a friendship offer or get too involved with someone? I definitely need your talents.

Dove - I agree with other posters - if I saw comments like that in someone's profile I'd assume he was an obsessive and immature jerk and would probably IM the target and offer encouragement.

Sure.

Pep (My rates are exorbitant though. )

How do you know it will make it worse? The OP's ex is not your ex. Well ok... they could be but it's highly unlikely.

Because it doesn't bother ME what she's saying. But it's unfair to the people around me, where I go and who I hang with, to have to deal with her. It's not about it upsetting me, but about reporting someone that bothers anyone who wants to hang out with me in public.

hehe. How do you know it won't? Guess we just disagree.

No, no, not to me. He was nice to the OP.

*wanders in after a cup of caffeine* AR for ToS violation, then put him on mute and ban his behind from your land.

Honestly, putting crap like that in a profile is a warning to all that this person is a grade A jerk. It's rather like he's doing everyone a public service, so they don't get caught in the future drama that seems to be his life.

Nothing screams, "i's gonna bes lonelee forevah!" like a very hostile profile towards one's ex.

I don't know that it won't... but I would wait and see, and then if it did turn into a worse situation *then* I would file the AR.

Honestly... and I'm ashamed to admit this, I do have some actual experience with this type of situation. Several months ago a woman put a bunch of really not nice crap in her profile about me that wasn't true. I did exactly what I am advising the OP to do... I put her on my mute list and I never even let her know that I had seen the stuff in her profile. It went away. I don't know how quickly it went away... because I wasn't sitting there obessively clicking her profile every day to see if she had changed it... but it did go away.
So... in that way, yes I do know that ignoring can work. Obviously every situation is different. My ex was not your ex just as much as your ex is not the OP's ex.

I was trying to be helpful, not nice.

Pep (obviously needs to revise his attitude again. )

Hmm I should start reading profiles more. I wonder how many have bad things about me in theirs.

/me rushes inworld to update his profile . . .

Pep ( . . . to maintain his reputation. )

Awww you would never say anything bad about me. You enjoy my glares too much.