AR this person or what?

So basically i was seeing this guy in secondlife and i dumped him because he was never around so in retaliation he wrote some pretty nasty stuff in his profile and as far as im concerned thats defamation of character. Can i do anything about this can i get him in shit for this..i will not tolerate it. This crap is what he has written in his profile at this minute, i want to write his name but i know i cant, he even threatened me in a yahoo message saying my secondlife is going to be hell now.

*This little pick is in honor of someone really ignorant. When I met this person, we got a long great. Then after awhile, I could tell she had major issues. Not only has she proved herself to be a player, but she's also a lyer. She may run her mouth about how she oh so hates men, yet she's actually in a rl relationship 'with' a man, something which she lied about. So guys, and girls, if you meet this one, and she blabs her mouth about her man/people hating, trust me, she's nothing but a lyer and a player. And a bit of a hypocrit if you ask me seeing how she states no players or drama in her profile. I give her a score of 1. Dumpster juice even tops her on the list of things that make you go 'eeeww'... Dove, *raises his hands, his middle fingers in the air for all to see* This is for you ! I salute you with a 'FUCK YOU' ! lol... Idiot..*

I wouldn't bother based on just that. He's just lashing out at being dumped. If he had diclosed some RL info or something then I would AR him, or if he starts to harass you in any way then I would. But I'd drop it for now.

Yes, you can AR him. Do so and do so each week it stays in his profile.

Correct all of the spelling in a notecard and send it to him.

Dove, if you have REAL concerns about being harassed or stalked by him, make sure that you have a good radar, and see what you can do to get him banned from any sims that you are likely to be frequenting. Keep careful records of anything that transpires in the way of harassment, including snapshots.

In theory, you can AR him based on the Pick -- he DOES disclose some RL info here, does he not? -- but I wouldn't, as that is just likely to inflame things more.

Dove, I am sorry this is happening to you - it might not be a bad idea to AR it, but whether you do or do not, do take a screenshot to document it, in case things escalate later.

I think, though, that his profile pick speaks for itself - and you're not the one who comes off looking like a dick as a result of it, IMHO.

I see things like that in a profile and I read "hi, I'm butthurt, can't get over myself, and am a stalker in training, please help me get a life, or shoot me in the head"

He'd probably think she was making up with him.

Or twist it into some deranged collection of social constructs.

The pick is in violation of TOS based on the PG standards required on all profiles.

That, and the RL disclosure. He just bought himself a one way ticket to bansville.

A cruel and unusual punishment?

Pep (Or was that crual and unusuel? )

More important, Dove, is that you should look inside yourself and try and work out your own inadequacies; is your taste and perception so bad that you thought this guy was your type? Or do you express yourself in such a way in sl that your opportunities to make friends are limited, so that you find yourself taking obviously unsuccesful chances on potentially deranged personalities?

I think that you need to take stock of what you are expecting of others in sl, take a little timeout to look more carefully at your interactions with others, and take more time before you commit yourself to anything more than a superficial relationship.

Pep (notes that we haven't heard the other side of the argument either, although he doesn't think he wants to.)

LMAO

I have ARd 3 profiles for nasty rl pictures in real life sec of profile 3 months ago they are STILL up.

I wonder if that certain person who posted on the forums with the .. black.. er.,. you know.. I wonder if they are still up.. probably.

you know... that really sucks for you about the profile pick... but someone said it sends the reader a message about the person writing it, not hte person they are writing about and I agree.

Pep, sometimes it takes a little time to realise that someone is not your type and by that time it can be too late when you realise they are most definitely not. Some people can be rational, sane and incredibly nice until a relationship ends and then it's all out war.

Eve (been on the receiving end and wearing the torn tshirt)

AR it and let the Lindens handle it.

It says in da rules that anything that impedes someone else's enjoyment of the game and any type of harassment is against the terms of service. This sounds like an attempt to blacken your name all over SL, which could lead to loss of opportunities and income, without your having any chance to address it or to defend yourself.

I hate this kind of crap. AR him.

I agree he should be AR'd for breaking TOS....

But beyond that.....the ridiculous lack of maturity is laughable. Let it go.... he's an idiot. Noone is reading his picks and thinking to themselves "Ooooh.....good thing I read that, I'm so lucky I've been warned about her!" Gimme a break. He's just a putz with some issues of his own and you had the unfortunate luck of getting involved with him. But that's done now...so move on. And you can block him from yahoo messeging too....that's not a big deal. Shut the guy out of your life entirely and move on.

Sorry about that Eve!

Pep (How come I can see through the jerks but nice females can't? )

ETA OK, "It takes one to know one . . . "

Yes, definitely AR him.

Also, maybe make your own profile pick with his name and a suggestion that EVERYONE read his profile picks to see what kind of person he is. Use his little diatribe against him until the ban hammer drops on him.

Some guys just need a hardcore coq trampling.

Wow.... Pep, that was very nice of you.

My sl sister had a similar experience with an ex's new gf that he left her for. She was defamed and very upset. My other sl sister has a very good relationship with some pf the Lindens and advised one of them of these comments. The new gf was politely offered to remove those comments from her profile or a formal AR would be submitted and they guarantee she and all her alts would be banned.

So she needs to AR this guy as been previously suggested. I wish her luck!

I really don't"get" those profile wars. How much of an idiot do you need to be to put hateful things about someone in your profile? Do you really think random strangers who read your profile are going"Oh my ,that girl did him wrong...let me write down her name so I never have to deal with her". No,they are thinking..."Wow what an unbelievable asshat this guy is,let me write down his name ...."

I really don't understand the airing of dirty laundry in SL. I think some people just really like the attention,good or bad. Personally,I'll keep my relationships and problems to myself. I have never had the urge to write nasty things about someone in my profile or in public,no matter how mad I was at them.

I remember being on someone's profile hate-rant. A few friends pointed it out to me. Ironically, one of the statements made was that I didn't have any friends. (^_^)

It's probably still there. I didn't care enough to address it or remember the name of the person. (^_^)y

The only reason to AR or retaliate in your own picks would be if you want to perpetuate the drama. Some people do thrive on it.
I say... let it go. Eventually he will get tired of it and take it out of his profile. It really does make him look like an ass. Don't stoop to his level.

Ya anytime i see something like that in someones profile i figure they were dumped for being obsessive..
if a man were hitting on me and had something like that in his profile i would say to myself..best keep my distance..i wouldn't want to make his picks..

just don't show him it bothers you..

AR and then forget about it. Or just plain forget about it.

That junk is so poorly written that it reflects a lot more poorly on the writer than on you. If I had come across that in someone's profile, they would never make it to my Friends list.

Don't AR... at the very worse he will get a warning and he'll know it came from you. That will just stir up the drama more. The way you "win" in this situation is by being the bigger person and ignore.