I get upset when...

I like it when I don't get greeted, one less bullshit encounter I have to deal with

It that soooo wrong- LOL!

Honestly, I think you might be overreacting. Just out of curiousity, why did you put the pregnancy shape on? To see if you would be treated well?

I host and try to greet everyone as they come in, but sometimes I'm getting a bunch of IM's, the performer needs help with the stream, I get a phone call in RL, or so forth. That's why many clubs have a couple of greeters/hosts to make sure they do greet everyone.

Sorry you had a bad experience. Please remember, though, that hosts are balancing a number of tasks and aren't usually out to personally insult you, whether you are wearing your belly or not.

I think it's really nice that we have a place where we can all talk about our problems.


Thank you, Linden Lab!

This is not my area of expertise but.. DAMN some people are just HIGH Maintenance!!
I go to alot of places and I have never been upset at not being greeted within seconds. It never really even occurred to me that I was supposed to be. Like the world owes me because I am in SL.....This must be one of the worst threads I have seen here.

Yeah, it's very easy actually, and easy to flip a switch so Daddy and everyone else can listen-in for a while, too. But most OBGYNs and mothers are convinced that all in earshot will be fascinated by the doings of Lil'Embryo. Until they get sick of it altogether. Well, mine were extra aggravating because they'd temp-rez food-cravings which would then attach to Mommy2B's hand and animate her stuffing them into her mouth. Can't remember now if the food also spammed, but sadly, the food itself wasn't SPAM.

Come to think of it... my OBGYN client for those scripts skipped SL owing me a bunch of L$s. Maybe I'll just resurrect those tummies and unleash them on the world again. Got prim babies, too, which are annoying in even more diabolical ways. Hmmm.

mebbe they're all afraid of saying something that upsets you and they don't want to get stomped by a centaur

Sheesh! four pages to say 'yes'

If I get greeted, I'll say 'hi' or 'thankyou' but that usually is the end of it. I move on. It doesn't matter one hoot ... oh don't get me started on hoots!

99% of my conversations other than at the clubhouse or Taff's Bar I start myself.

/me hoots and hollers at Bilbo

@Tarina,
yes, you overreacted imo.

you expected to be greeted, when what you should have expected was to hear music. greetings are nice and all, and not getting them from friends might cause some anxiety, but because some random stranger missed you... why should you care?

could be a million legitimate reasons you were missed... incomming IM's, viewer lag, thought you were there already... and even some rude one like they didn't like your name or appearance. but do you really care about what they think? and it's not as if they were being overtly rude.

now personally I hate the whole required greeting culture, where every person has to say goodbye and welcome back whenever you afk to get a drink or return one... pointless... so maybe I'm biased

@qie:
having lived through a few friends pregnancies I don't think it's that they wanted to share, so much as they thought everyone else should suffer through it too (I disagree, I didn't get pregnant, I didn't cause anyone to get pregnant, why must I be tortured?) I found a great use for prim babies... it's a rocket launcher that uses them for ammo... think it's on slx.... maybe you could convert yours to timebombs have them giggle then explode little prim baby gibblets over the landscape.... heck I'd buy some

(note to viewers, I love real babies, but prim babies annoy me to no end)

/me steps in, shakes her head in wonder, steps out

Tarina, you overreacted. How may people have to say this before you get the message?

You seriously need to calm down, or stay out of social situations if your feelings are hurt so much so easily.

Tarina hasn't replied in a long while. What's wrong with her? I mean here we are all replying now and she doesn't even respond to us! *taps foot*

I feel your pain. Encountered one of these talking wombs the other day - very briefly, thank God. Next time, I'll see if there's any way to mute the little sucker..

Scripters, just have the damn things talk to the mother, and maybe a (short!) access list, ok?

/me wanders off muttering darkly about some of the things that go on in SL...

I do think you are over reacting. There are times I go places and busy or not am not mentioned till well after I get there. Even when I visit the club I work in on my off time. Sometimes hosts are AFK, sending notices to the clubs group, or may otherwise be busy with some other aspect of their job, or IMs. How are you to know?

They missed greeting you, so what? I have to agree you were not there to be greeted, you were there for the musician that was playing.

Oh please. Someone not gushing hellos is a bad experience? HA. Go somewhere and get griefed to all hell, orbitted and then have to relog to cure the av deformation. That's a BAD experience.

I get upset when ...

I hear so many people have dogs that barf on their babies
... or is it babies who puke on dogs? I'll have to go back and check.

Tarina's being a good sport:

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Let's give this thread a rest, shall we?

Oh, and haha, welcome to the forums, hon! Sorry it was such a pile-on ...

Pfft that's only because we have to warn everyone within chat range that you're in the building & to hide the food

As the owner of a small, not for profit, club, I do my own hostessing. Yes, there are times when I get busy with other things, and I may not greet someone right away. However, I really think that a simple "hello" or "welcome" is a must when someone comes to my place.

I think the OP is right, she *should* have been greeted. That is common courtesy in my book.

Additionally, if I miss seeing someone, several of my friends/patrons will jump in and greet a new arrival. This helps me notice if I missed someone. My group often gets compliments on how friendly they are.

I know that this post will not be popular, but that's my humble opinion.

If you come to the club where i work you are likely to be greeted by me or another host, plus you'll be greeted by the DJ, plus you'll be greeted by one or more off duty employees who are there having a good time, plus you'll likely be greeted by one if not several of our regular patrons. We are a very friendly place. Despite all that, I know that we occasionally miss some folks for whatever reason. It's not a crime and the OP overreacted.

Talk about excessive. The person was polite enough to IM you when you left and you mute them?!

On one hand I agree with Sue (yes there are still certain protocols even in SL as we would use with RL social situations). The OP has a right to her feelings regardless if they are viewed as overreacting, ofcourse alot could be based on speculation.

I went to a friends event one time that was somewhat busy but not so busy as to cause heavy lag or make people fall behind on the conversations. I said hello to everyone shortly after getting there and rezzing (realizing that I didn't relaly know most the other people there, but I wasn't concerned with that). What dissapointed me was the fact that not ONE hello, or acknowledgment of my presence was made to me over a period of time. after about 15 20 minutes my friend who was running the event IM'd me and said hello (in an IM! *Rolls eyes*) yes was proper of them to say hello but still in an IM and not main chat? Reminds me of receiving those x-mas presents from people who were getting rid of something they had recieved the year before and hated it and couldn't return it/didn't know what else to do with it besides throw it away.

I look in chat and still no hi even after trying to strike up conversation. So I simply told everyone to have fun, and left only to get a barage of Group Spam minutes later that was quite persnickity. These people were just plain jerks (not my friend hosting ofcourse who probably didn't really even know them either).

LOL, it's taken me an hour to even get this post out due to having to help RL customers and step away from this periodically.

I think the post brings to light the fact that we still have to put our best foot forward when dealing with eatchother. I know running a business (RL/SL) I try to say hi to customers and welcome IMs for question or dialogue about a product, but try not to intrude onthier shopping either or smother them. On the other hand if I'm at a club or social event hosting or not, I try to be as gracious as if I were in the same RL room with those people.

If I am on a parcel or private sim and the owner(s) approach I am most courteous to them and they are just as likely to be the same. I know that if I am repeatedly ignored or insulted on my property I have the option to turn the other cheek or simply boot them from my presence if I get the gut instinct that they are being rude. and vice versa, people have the choice to not go back to a venue where they were treated poorly and they still have a right to their opinion.

So say hello next time! If you are busy, then tell people you are busy atm, it happens. you might make a new friend or fiend. You might just make someones day by being REAL.

You can log in and TP? Count yourself lucky and stop overreacting, young lady.

She must have been doing her kegals....either that or her water broke. There could be a million reasons she hasn't replied.

Oh no...her water broke and she was in her bikini?

I'm going to need a power drill and a fondue skewer to remove that image from my brain...

Was just about to say that. Ooops time is late and I have to go.

/mutes Tarina Sewell