Depression.

I get extremely depressed when I have to go to work now. I'm not joking I get real down. It's the group I mix with in SL I think. Does anybody else have a problem with their Second Life or am I alone?

Tulipe, please seek help. Online life shouldn't replace your first life. It's hard to hug a computer and french kissing it really can be dangerous. Kidding aside, being depressed with your first life is not a fun place to be in your life. GL with this.

youre not alone, in fact i could be wrong but i think there are even some group to help you right here in sl. The second poster was right, either take a break and reestablish your 1st life or try to get some help. Im sure there is more behind your depression than just leaving for work

*hugs you tightly* keep your chin up, depression is hard!

Much empathy from me on the depression thing. Wish I had answers for how to get it out of your life entirely or indefinitely, but I've lived 34 years without finding that solution.

However, it can be coped with, and there are ways to keep the demons at bay.

What gets you down when you have to go to work? What are the thoughts you have? What do you mean by, "It's the group I mix with"?

Tulipe and all ,

Please come and visit our daily depression support group on supportforhealing sim.

I'll drop you a notecard with the details - we are not professionals but all meet daily to share and support each other with our issues and help each other find the best professional help as necessary.

Kind regards

Zafu

Live every day with wanting to hang yourself in the back yard.Then come and tell me about depression..............................

lily you're not the only one who has struggled with suicidal thoughts. no need to be bitchy because yours seems worse than others'.

There is a difference between being unmotivated to go to work, sad you cant stay home and play instead and actual Depression.

A 10 year old who wants to play Xbox instead of going to school and feels bad that he cant is not "Depressed"

As to those who suffer with real depression, it probably isnt the best idea to discuss it on these forums. And very much luck to you all.

I agree with Colette.

Consider what your life would be like if you didn't have to go to work, and only played SL all the time. You'd get bored of it. Work/school/etc actually makes SL more fun because it keeps you from burning out.

some of us can't work. SL is far better than nothing, but a far cry from a decent rl.
if your rl makes you feel truly sad to leave sl, you may want to look into counseling.. you may have some depression issues, or maybe just need some coaching on how to improve your rl.

good luck

Its very hard for some of us Disabled People to get out of the house so Second Life is our ONLY world

We can run, Play, even be business men and women in here.

Can't do that in Real World if you can't leave the house with-out massive difficulty.

And I am highly put off by people who say people are on line too much, what about the person who has to be on their compter from 8 to 5 each day because the Job demands it???

Before you go listening to all these people being so terribly sympathetic and making things so terribly serious, check a few of the more obvious things...

-Are you sleeping enough?
-Are you eating decent food?
-Have you seen the sun recently?
-Do you exercise at all?
-Have you gotten together with RL friends recently?

Anyone can take a nosedive if they aren't paying attention to their physical and social health.

I hope youre getting help, you seem to suffer from depression and the poor me's yourself. Just because you have depression doesnt mean you have to also suffer from the "my depression is worse than yours" crap. I would think that a person who has pain could sympathize with other's pain

This thread needs more smiles.

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please go here, register so you'll be able to listen and watch his broadcasts. Theres lots of great info, recordings and videos for you to go through.

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go there, enjoy and I know you'll agree.

Well, remember you are still new to SL - still in the honeymoon stage, so to speak. And who would want to leave their honeymoon to go to work?

coco

As someone who has dealt with depression most of my life, I am both amused and disturbed by those who always suggest to someone else to "seek help". I have found that this is generally said as a way to end the conversation. People don't want to hear someone else's problems.
There are no magic wands out there to cure depression. Counselling amounts to learning that no one wants to hear how depressed you are. You learn to pretend everything is alright and to hide your true feelings. The friends that say "If there's anything I can do" or "If you ever need to talk" are only trying to appear nice. They don't want to be bothered with someone else's problems either and they will eventually tell you that if you ever try to take them up on their offer. lol.
Life can truly suck and getting platitudes from strangers is no help. Personnally, though, I have decided that happiness is a choice. I can choose to remain miserible the rest of my life or I can choose to be happy with my lot. This simple notion has done me more good than any councellor has.
I anticipate being attacked for this now. People love to kick a dog when it's down. lol.

Well if that logic works for you then you obviously are not suffering from depression. Depression is not so easily cast aside by simply saying to yourself "I can either be miserable or be happy, I choose to be happy." If it was that easy for you then I doubt you were suffering from clinical depression.

Briana Dawson

Agreed 100%

Kind regards

Zafs

I knew better than to post in this thread. I do regret it. I have been diagnosed as clinically depressed by more than one doctor. This is all becoming rather embarrassing now. I just wanted to express my own opinion. I'll withdrawl from this and leave the discussion to you experts. lol

Molly's is a behavior-mod technique that does work for some.

coco

if someone is actually suffering from depression , then likely they will still be depressed playing SL or not. They may be more distracted, escapist with SL on- but when someone is depressed they will often be depressed even doing things they enjoy.

Thats why its Depression and not "the blues"

#truestory

that's fine if you knowingly go in for behav-mod therapy, but otherwise if molly isn't exaggerating, she needs a better therapist. sounds like hers isn't cutting it.

molly sounds very negative, and a bit sarcastic in her comments... usually when i sound that way it means something needs more tweaking.

reality alert, molly: real friends do care and will listen, at least if you also give in return when you are able.

it's true i often say seek help. 1) it's the only way i know to have a shot at actual quality of life 2) i've struggled too hard to get myself through.. i can't invest myself in people won't at least try to help themselves.

it's true that platitudes from strangers do little, but some of the strangers have been there too, and many of us still fight the battle every day. it's as close as i can come to sparing others this crappy experience.

How are you doing today, Tulipe?