How Important is Sex to Your SL?
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VolatileWhimsy Bu
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08-08-2006 11:35
From: Monique Mistral Most posters seem to disagree with me that erotics is the single most important factor for people in SL. Well, why don't you pick a random name on Search, say "Jenna", sort out the dud avatars and see for yourself. You'll find precious few that are not part of some BDSM, D/s, escort, furry, "dark lesbian" or gorean group etc.
Of course it doesn't mean that everyone are cyber humping all the time, I never said that. In fact, I said SL is really not very suitable for actually living out the dreams people have. uhmmm... uhmmmm... i belong to a bdsm group and they are all nice people, that does not mean that i am having sex in sl.. it just means i want to whip ppl like you  lol jk jk, but seriously, i do belong to that group but im not having any intimate relations with anyone |
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Monique Mistral
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08-08-2006 11:35
From: Hypatia Callisto And I wouldnt call them "sex fiends". They are grown adults having adult relationships, which includes all sorts of activities, and that includes going to events, like music venues and clubs. Sorry, it's just my way of talking. I often exaggerate in order to drive a point.
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VolatileWhimsy Bu
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08-08-2006 11:36
From: Aliasi Stonebender I object to lumping furries into sexplay-specific groups. It's a seperate phenomeon. so... is catbread like pumpkin bread? |
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Monique Mistral
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08-08-2006 11:39
From: Aliasi Stonebender I object to lumping furries into sexplay-specific groups. It's a seperate phenomeon. It's mainly a fetish as far as I'm concerned. Maybe I can't be 100 percent certain, because it's such a difficult concept to understand, but yes, I'll call you on that and say the fetishistic nature of the phenomenon lies at the heart of it.
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Tatiana Sims
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08-08-2006 11:40
I guess I'll stick to flirting for now and see what happens (as I'm no good at flirting in my 1st life lol been married too long and I've forgotten how). I certainly didn't come to SL for "that" but, who knows where this yellow brick road will lead??  |
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Monique Mistral
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08-08-2006 11:43
From: Aliasi Stonebender I still don't get escorts in SL, mind. I mean, I understand, I've no specific objection to it... but given my experience, it's a bit like buying bottled water when there's the tap over there for free. Actually, I believe it's the thrill of it, not the cash earned in itself. A way of feeling naughty for everyone involved. Different from being slave or Master, yet the same.
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Cindy Claveau
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08-08-2006 11:43
From: Monique Mistral Sorry, it's just my way of talking. I often exaggerate in order to drive a point. Welcome to the forums |
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Ceera Murakami
Texture Artist / Builder
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08-08-2006 11:46
From: Monique Mistral Most posters seem to disagree with me that erotics is the single most important factor for people in SL. Well, why don't you pick a random name on Search, say "Jenna", sort out the dud avatars and see for yourself. You'll find precious few that are not part of some BDSM, D/s, escort, furry, "dark lesbian" or gorean group etc.
Of course it doesn't mean that everyone are cyber humping all the time, I never said that. In fact, I said SL is really not very suitable for actually living out the dreams people have. One can be part of such groups, and yet not be focussed in sex at all. I spend 75% or more of my time in SL as a furry. I don't yiff with every furr that I meet, and in fact am not interested at all in most of them. I 'own' several submissive 'Pets'. But most of the time, that is just the relationship between us, and not what we 'do' every time we meet. My Avatar is primarily Lesbian, and has lived for close to a year in SL with her female lover. In practice, my sex life looks more like that of a celibate nun. I might actually get intimate with my Companion once a month, if we are lucky. Lots of 'sexy stuff' there, true. Yet the amount of time that I spend on-line actually involved in sex is still less than 5%. It's much more the background for roleplay, rather than the play itself.
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Aldo Stern
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08-08-2006 11:47
Aldo's clan elders required him to take a vow of celibacy before setting off to explore the world. Madmen make nortoriously poor romantic partners and the elders didn't think it would be fair to anyone who might hook up with Aldo as they would certainly end up frustrated or disappointed. And I think he's pretty happy with the situation--he seems to have a perfectly fine time without pursuing any of the pleasures of the pixellated flesh.
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Lillani Lowell
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08-08-2006 11:51
In the end, there are two things which drive evolution, both real and virtual. Sex and war. If you ban sex, you get war. If you ban war, you get sex. If you ban them both, civilization ceases to exist.
Second Life mimics Real Life, in the fact that the sex and war industry are two of the largest, innovative, and successful markets, and almost everything we have technology wise (both in RL and SL) has come from one market or the either.
Anything that hasn't can be attributed to madness or random artistry, the deviants of human nature.
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Vudu Suavage
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08-08-2006 11:52
From: Monique Mistral It's mainly a fetish as far as I'm concerned. Maybe I can't be 100 percent certain, because it's such a difficult concept to understand, but yes, I'll call you on that and say the fetishistic nature of the phenomenon lies at the heart of it. The majority of people I meet wearing fur avs either think they're cute or admire/enjoy the creativity that goes into building them. Few are emotionally invested to the degree of a "fetish." For that matter, many are quite emotionally invested in their fur avs in ways that are not at all sexual. If anything, I would say enjoying cartoons "lies at the heart of it."
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Fallon Darling
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08-08-2006 11:55
From: Tatiana Sims I've never "cybered", other than the occassional  and a little flirting....that's fun. But just wondering about this.....I'm happily married in RL so I think I might feel guilty in SL if it went to the next level. Is this weird of me to think of it in terms like that? I'm really curious..... What are y'alls thoughts? I'm open-minded so I'm not totally against it I don't think..... I have not tried it in SL - well, except for showing a gal pal the pose balls at xcite her first week *giggle*. but that wasnt cybersex as I think of it. Another friend of mind said of cybersex "who cares where you get your appetite, as long as you eat at home" - meaning that if your FL spouse understands that what goes on in the game is just in the game, he might end up benefiting from it if you get a bit hot and bothered *wink* - and I have heard of some couples using cyber with other ppl to spice up their own relationship. If you think you would feel guilty, then best to leave it be. No need to cause yourself anguish. On the other hand, if you are really curious about how it all works - get your FL hubby online in SL and try it out - My FL hubby plays SL as well, but we decided it might feel a bit silly to cyber when we could run down the hall and have at it for real - well, that and our PCs are out where the kids can see..... sorry if I rambled a bit |
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Tatiana Sims
Just Tat ;)
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08-08-2006 12:02
From: Fallon Darling I have not tried it in SL - well, except for showing a gal pal the pose balls at xcite her first week *giggle*. but that wasnt cybersex as I think of it. Another friend of mind said of cybersex "who cares where you get your appetite, as long as you eat at home" - meaning that if your FL spouse understands that what goes on in the game is just in the game, he might end up benefiting from it if you get a bit hot and bothered *wink* - and I have heard of some couples using cyber with other ppl to spice up their own relationship. If you think you would feel guilty, then best to leave it be. No need to cause yourself anguish. On the other hand, if you are really curious about how it all works - get your FL hubby online in SL and try it out - My FL hubby plays SL as well, but we decided it might feel a bit silly to cyber when we could run down the hall and have at it for real - well, that and our PCs are out where the kids can see..... sorry if I rambled a bit I agree totally with this. And my FL husband HAS been know to benefit from a "smut book" now and again! Just let you imagination run wild and have fun!! Sounds like a plan! |
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VolatileWhimsy Bu
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08-08-2006 12:02
From: Lillani Lowell In the end, there are two things which drive evolution, both real and virtual. Sex and war. If you ban sex, you get war. If you ban war, you get sex. If you ban them both, civilization ceases to exist.
Second Life mimics Real Life, in the fact that the sex and war industry are two of the largest, innovative, and successful markets, and almost everything we have technology wise (both in RL and SL) has come from one market or the either.
Anything that hasn't can be attributed to madness or random artistry, the deviants of human nature. actually you are partially correct... (i swear i feel like dr heckel ms hyde at times) the basis of humans is to procreate and to live, and by products of these are sex and war... so actually to have a legacy in sl you do not need sex nor war.. so therefore it is found in other ways.. building yadda yadda |
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Lupus Delacroix
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08-08-2006 12:05
I think its funny that those that cyber almost outnumber those that don't, but when you check the posts on who does what its more disproportionate.....
I'm still waiting for more of those "I beat it like a drum!" types to post and amuse me ^.^
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Vudu Suavage
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08-08-2006 12:11
From: Lupus Delacroix I think its funny that those that cyber almost outnumber those that don't, but when you check the posts on who does what its more disproportionate.....
I'm still waiting for more of those "I beat it like a drum!" types to post and amuse me ^.^ If we split the "rarely"s, it's neck and neck. And we are not about this for your amusement; this is for science, SCIENCE!Edit: removed aardvark
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Lupus Delacroix
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08-08-2006 12:12
From: Vudu Suavage If we split the "rarely"s, it's neck and neck. And we are not about this for your amusement; this is science,
SCIENCE! Doesn't mean I'm not amused |
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Aliasi Stonebender
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08-08-2006 13:26
From: Monique Mistral It's mainly a fetish as far as I'm concerned. Maybe I can't be 100 percent certain, because it's such a difficult concept to understand, but yes, I'll call you on that and say the fetishistic nature of the phenomenon lies at the heart of it. You can "call me on it" all you like; this does not actually work to make you correct. There are certainly those who view it as a fetish, and the nature of things makes the person who feels the need to make a triple-breasted hermaphroditic fox-person more noticable than the hundreds of folks who just kinda dug Disney's Robin Hood.
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Liona Clio
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08-08-2006 13:40
I've cybered, and I've enjoyed it. It's nothing that one should be ashamed of. It's fun to roleplay out fantasies, especially when you share it with someone you really connect to...if even just 'cause you think each other are HAWT. What does make me uncomfortable (and a bit angry) is when people wag their finger at me; or at cybering in general. I know for a fact I'm not a slut; and I resent people making such implications about people who cyber. There are a lot of people who have this narrow view of what is permissible in their sexual worldview...and while they have the right to do so, they do not have the right to impose that worldview on me. I'm a free-spirited flirty woman who has no problem having sexplay on SL. Don't tread on my fantasies.
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Vengence Opus
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08-08-2006 14:09
Never have, don't see it happening any time in the near or distant future. Too busy.
And I have a headache. ;P
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Tyken Hightower
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08-08-2006 14:14
From: Vudu Suavage Someone in another thread said LL is "running a porn site." The sex industry is definitely more widespread in SL than RL, but is it the main draw here? Do you think most people in SL cyber? Regularly?
Personally, it doesn't work for me; I've explored it, and I just don't respond that way in this environment. I have friends in the sex industry, BDSM culture, ageplayers and yiffers, as well as friends who, like me, don't cyber at all. I know it's not part of everyone's SL, and it seems to get overstated in the forums, but how big is it (pun intended)? How important is SL to your sex? |
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Sally Rosebud
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08-08-2006 14:32
It's the FLIRTING I can't live without!
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Ceera Murakami
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08-08-2006 14:39
From: Sally Rosebud It's the FLIRTING I can't live without! Yay for flirting! |
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Kira Zobel
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08-08-2006 14:49
I definatly can live without it. Not important to me in the slightest.
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Kalia Meiklejohn
You make me itch
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08-08-2006 14:57
Well, you know, I've gotten a whole bunch of sex objects from one of those raffle balls, and I tried them out with a friend, not to be intimate or cyber, but to see what they do. I find it quite humorous actually. It's so not a turn on for me, but maybe people use their imagination and see past the pixels, so to speak...
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