How Important is Sex to Your SL?

Whatever floats your boat.

sex via button mashing. it's like you hit the konami code and get off. I dunno. That, and "adult games" have always been kind of this sickly quality, the kind of thing that your crazy uncle would be into along with explosives and home distilled alcohol.

The avs look downright ugly naked. IMO they look a hell of a lot better dressed than undressed.

speak fer yourself o.o

WELL I beg to differ.....my Avie has a GREAT body thank you very much!!

Couldn't possibly be *less* important. Never done it, never will. Just holds no interest or appeal.

Yeah, I've seen some racy stuff in SL... So what? I would never call SL a porn site.

I disagree with the OP that "the sex industry is definitely more widespread in SL than RL", though. Just walking down the streets of just about any very large city you can see the sex industry pretty well represented, though perhaps not quite as obvious.

I know, my main av has an ass so tight it can crack wallnuts. The nerve of some people >.<

a nice, smooth, eight vertex ass.

don't be hatin ^.^

I'll disagree again, Monique. You left out the hobbyists, the roleplayers, the artists, the philanthropists and the socializers. I don't think you can boil all of Second Life down into 2 narrow groups like that. MOST people don't create content and MOST people don't engage heavily in SLsex. They're somewhere out there in the happy middle ground.

LMAO!! I'll show you mine if you'll show me yours.

I'm just saying. I think that if they anti-aliased our asses, there'd be more sex, less stress, and in turn, less griefing.

yep yep yep

I'ma content creator (not bigtime, just do my little thing) and I spend a fair bit socialising in the music scene in SL. The folks who enjoy the music scene are not by and large sex fiends. But I sure do see a lot of couples/partnered folk, who seem to *really* enjoy each other. That happy middle ground is a pretty wide area, I think.

And I wouldnt call them "sex fiends". They are grown adults having adult relationships, which includes all sorts of activities, and that includes going to events, like music venues and clubs. And I bet that if/when they retire to do anything sex oriented, they probably go to their skybox, and it may not even involve SL sex toys such as XCite or pose balls - there's a lot to be said for good ol' text chat still, even with all the toys in SL.

Sex in SL isn't an issue for me in SL, as I am still an SL virgin. I left my cybering days back in the telnet MU*'s, so it's been a while! I found out that cybering would inadvertantly cause drama.. sort of like real feelings wrapped around a fake relationship.

Honestly, if I did cyber in SL, I don't think I would enjoy it as much as my text-only MU* cybering situations.. while the whole animation thing provides interesting eye candy, poseball visuals are just generic loops, and the very descriptive actions I am going to type are going to contradict with that 2 second loop. The visual you are going to see on poseballs isn't as nearly as stimulating as what you'd imagine in your mind.


* U U D D L R L R B A's Michi*
..whew, was it good for you too?

Now there I don't agree. Even most people having av sex in SL are doing so within the larger context of relationship and/or RP, and hardly deserve to be categorized as "sex fiends." There are also plenty of casual users who are past the honeymoon phase and log in occasionally to catch up with friends and see what's new, without creating anything or cybering.

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Lets see, i have yet to have sex in sl, or anythign remotely intimate... And so far the only thing i can build are boxy houses and pillows, and i doubt anyone is going to buy them -.-

so i think you are wrong.. i think sl is more about socialization than anything else.. well and shopping and pink hair..

I voted 'as often as I can' but actually do a little less then that. Just a tad bit.

Sex on SL is fun, and I do seem to do it a lot. But I also build alot, socialize alot, explore alot, and so forth. It's not the largest part of my reasons to play SL.
I actually don't really count cybering as sex per se... I would compare it to a private moment with an erotic magazine: in a way it's co-writing an erotic story, yet another way of being creative in a fun way, much like the building. I'm not too much for non-RP 'poseballhopping', using talking bits to do all the work. I just don't see the fun in that.

And as for the notion that only lonely people and/or those who are not satisfied IRL do a lot of cubering, that's wrong. I met my dragon (yup he's a furry too) on Furcadia, and after a few nice cybersessions and meeting him on a furry convention face to face, never left eachother's side in hte past six years ^.^ And I have absolutely nothing to complain about IRL, and we both enjoy quite some cybering in SL.

Honestly, I rarely have the private time for virtual sex. While it's important to some aspects of the roleplay that I do with certain individuals, it certainly isn't my main focus here. In RL I'm happily married, and don't fool around. Virtial roleplay is just escapist entertainment, like reading a trashy Harlequin Romance Novel.

I've tried the xcite stuff, and found it quite lacking in satisfaction. All the 'button mashing' got in the way of my fun, and while I was crafting an eloquent response, my 'bits' were off doing something else? No thanks. Those 'bits' are largely gathering virtual dust now. I'd sell them if I could. But I don't believe that I can. Oh well...

I have a nice colllection of well-done pose-balls, a few of which I use when I do have a rare fling, but to me those are worthless without well-crafted prose between the participants. The visuals are nice, and if planned carefully with well-done text, can be a decent erotic experience. But just pose balls? Meh. When I do decide to get virtually intimate, it's pretty intense. But it's like sharing in the writing of an erotic novel. It isn't just sitting passively and jumping from one set of animations to another.

I think that SL would be diminished if virtual sex wasn't possible here. I am certain that some people would go elsewhere for similar 'thrills' if they can't get it here. But it isn't my central activity. More like less than 5% of my time here, if that.

There's no option for "I only cyber with Taco when I'm not online"

I know.

Repeating what someone said earlier, "we are sexual creatures". I like being a sexual creature. My sexuality, my passion, they are a part of me wherever I go. Now would I come to a place like SL JUST for that? No. I can see someone doing that if they are unable to be intimate in their first lives for some reason. But that isn't the case with most of us. And let's face it, I'm a woman... we all know it's a lot easier for a woman to find some action than a man when she wants it.

I don't go to my local bookstore looking only for smutty romance novels, but I might find one I like and slip it into the pile of other books I bring home. I don't go see a movie just to watch the steamy love scenes, but I do enjoy them along with the rest of the movie and they do add the spice. Along the same vein I don't come to SL just to find a partner and drag them into skype for some dirty talk but hey if it happens it happens.... added spice.

As it so happens, I'm involved in a long term online relationship. Sex is not the focus of everything we are but it is a vital part of the relationship as it is in any healthy coupling.

Someone said that without the sex industry SL would crumble, I don't think that's true. In other online environments/games/whatever, there may not be a sex industry but there is still intimate contact between players occuring behind the scenes. That is because there are people behind the players and people seek out intimacy. I think it will always be there in any environment where human beings congregate. It's just more open here than elsewhere.

you can. They're transfer.



I so agree, and that's my feeling about it as well. It can be a fantastic experience, with a partner with good verbal skills. I think its important not to discount the "linguistic capacity" in the "textual experience" *g*, for me if its lacking, no amount of well crafted bits or poseballs are going to help! Heck some of the most fun I've had in cyber was in places you couldn't even take your cyberclothing off

That's just frigging amazing given that the entire population of SL exists to rub your nose in the sexxors. Wow you are good!

Most posters seem to disagree with me that erotics is the single most important factor for people in SL. Well, why don't you pick a random name on Search, say "Jenna", sort out the dud avatars and see for yourself. You'll find precious few that are not part of some BDSM, D/s, escort, furry, "dark lesbian" or gorean group etc.

Of course it doesn't mean that everyone are cyber humping all the time, I never said that. In fact, I said SL is really not very suitable for actually living out the dreams people have.

People who're too good for sex should have been born oysters. Then they could quit bothering everyone else.

I'm restrained in SL, even so. The idea of talking dirty at long distances is as old as the telephone, as old as the written word; It's fun but making it your sole activity speaks of a lack of imagination.

I still don't get escorts in SL, mind. I mean, I understand, I've no specific objection to it... but given my experience, it's a bit like buying bottled water when there's the tap over there for free.

I object to lumping furries into sexplay-specific groups. It's a seperate phenomeon.