Gender, identity and alts, oh my!

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Ooookay. I don't want "access to your soul" - I (mistakenly?) thought you were asking a genuine question about why our perspectives might differ, and I was offering some possibilities.

Even if your answer is "NO" to all of them, that's putting you in the same category as two of the people I love most on the planet Earth, so it should be pretty clear that I'm not saying answering NO makes you a scumbag. I'm saying that if our experiences do differ on these points, then maybe that's why you don't find Chris's post offensive or bigoted, and I do. Because our perspectives have been shaped by different experiences and interests.

So I'm kind of at a loss to know why you're calling me a dick.

:hrugs::

But okay.



My apologies, I clearly misunderstood. All the other posters had seemed pretty clear on what the thread was about - but several people have commented (quite rightly!) on the length of my posts. I didn't realise the initial post was too confusing for you.



:ighs::

And here I thought I was just acknowledging that my posting style might not be everyone's cup of tea, and that I'd not be offended if you wanted to mute me.

Bossy.

Thanks for that, hon. I've not actually had quite enough accusations or name-calling here today, so I appreciate that. Especially with the LOL. Oh, how I do love a good LOL

:: takes a deep breath ::

:: manages not to embrace the Inner Snape ::

Well, no stinging retorts from me, despite being (apparently) a bossy dick.

Bloody good job, Orlando! Ten Housepoints to Ravenclaw.

... Somebody give me a vodka.

Orlando - do you even care about your OP? Or are you more interested in verbal sparring?

That's a perfectly fair question. I do care about the OP, and I've really appreciated the responses in-thread and the ones that were emailed to me.

I guess I'm quite easily distracted. And it bothered me that Mickey was so mad he sought me out to yell at me here (as well as yelling about me to other people in the other thread), because I think the root of his wrath was actually a misunderstanding. Maybe the best response in the first place would have been "I'm sorry I hurt your feelings" and leave it at that. God knows I've clearly pissed him off even more at this point - communication fail for me.

Ah well.

Do you have anything to add to the OP? Or any questions of your own? Because I've loved the insights that people have given me so far into what their alts and their avis mean to them - I thought the 'Becoming Dragon' clip was fabulous, and very thought-provoking, and the Snakegirl Avi made me want to learn about building. I'm treasuring the image of Soji watching live music in her raccoon form and just waving her paws and chittering - that's the kind of response that would have seemed natural to me, if I were wearing a proper animal skin, although if I were a bipedal raccoon I'd probably be talking. And wearing clothes, actually, I suspect. Hmm. And clearly people have very different feelings about whether they're comfortable changing the gender of their avi or alt - I'd really like to hear from more guys who play girls, because it's all grist to the mill & that's definitely outside my own experience - but the guys who have spoken up already have been awesome.

I would've been interested to hear a reply to my original on topic post, or maybe an IM inworld, but it's no biggie... I don't expect much out of forums these days...