partnership?

seriously guys i really need to decide

I am being serious.
Partner him
Get an allowance and
invest in land and skins before it dawns on him that those long silences ar eyou IMing lovers in sl.
Dont waste money on a wedding. When Hal partnered me he sent me enough lindens for me to buy a fish and chip supper in real the next time I flew into London. Just as good as a sl wedding.

i kind of want a wedding but i dont wanna go through that again and i dont wanna force something onto him and then if i partner him i wont get to invite my friends or family but then the good thing about partnering is its more private and that can be a good thing too

Well I find partnership rude, not the partnership itself, but the little button that lets you ask for breaking it.

Sakura, I don't think any of us can answer this for you. In the final analysis, this is about the two of you . . . what you want out of this . . . what it "means" to the two of you. I assume you have both talked about this together? Well, this is the kind of thing that a relationship is all about: working out, together, what works for you both, not merely as individuals, but as a couple.

I wish you all the best, and hope that the decision you ultimately arrive at will help cement your relationship.

Maybe she can ask for *sponsors* for her Sl wedding, along with 23 other people to pitch in and help it all work...I think she just needs a kick start.....

Yeah, and Wickham was a great catch for Lydia.

I like being SL partnered. It does seem to keep some of the sleazeballs at bay; the ones that can be bothered to read a profile are sometimes put off making that move on me. However, it seems to work the opposite for my partner who seems to have become something of a "chic magnet" since we tied the SL knot. So much so that he has asked me on several occasions:

"Why do women like me" !

I cannot answer that for him, except to say, just like in real life, in second life there are the bunny boiler types who have that need to try and steal a man from his woman...and all I can say is bring it on, I'll provide the gift wrap and ribbon when they want to take him away from me properly.

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I've also seen kid avatars SL partnered - because they want to show the world they have a bestest friend. This is very sweet, a bit like when real kids give each other home-made friendship bracelets made out of wool.

And there are business partners, who just with to express their loyalty in this way.

It costs such a tiny amount of L$ to partner up - L$10 for each partner to partner up, and L$25 for the person wishing to unpartner - whats that in real money? In UK its about 2 pence to the 10L$. Cheap and cheerful fun really.

I have visions of you being swamped by SL marriage proposals now - and we are coming up to Valentine's Day after all.

LOL

Nary a one so far, Marigold. Which actually, truth be told, suits me just fine!

No worries, Scylla - for many, it is just another layer of the "game". Best to save yourself from that anyway.

Oh hell, if you are going to go for a partnership, go all out and spend tons of money on the wedding and whole package. At the very least it will give you tons of new gifts and lots of pictures for memories when it all blows up a ways down the road.

Yes, I am cynical.

/me nods.

Yes, I don't think it's something I've ever been interested in. Even if that means that I am doomed to become (in Jig's colourful phrase) "dry as old mutton."

I'll be your partner Scylla.......*laughs mischieviously"

This, to the partnering question.

As far as a "wedding", well, SL is for doing things that YOU want to do. Is it your dream to have one? If yes, do it. If you couldn't care less about fluffy dresses and such, skip it.

Right, cuz, no one can 'take' a man or a woman for that matter, who doesn't want to go. That's why when I see people getting upset with 'home wreckers', with these celebrities, etc, I always wonder why 'women' get mad at the other woman and not at her man, who, after all, is the one who promised to love, honor, cherish, etc. The other woman promised her nothing. But women seem to always get mad at the other woman, when in reality, it's HIS azz that needs kicking.

I have a tendency to need a lot of alone/down time on SL. That could be a drawback to a healthy partnership.

Scylla, I want you to know you are truly one of the most well-balanced people on these forums.

Hey, lets face it, we're all destined to become "dry as old mutton", married or not (but our pets will still love us)

I'm too much of a free spirit, do my own thing type in RL to have someone living in my house full time, let alone in SL. Commitments and responsibilties are unavoidable in RL, I definitely don't want them in SL.

"Nobody tells me what to do. Not even me."

*I would make an exception for Scylla, though.

Yepyepep to the first paragraph - I always thought Jennifer Aniston could do better anyway (I look at Brad Pitt and I can always smell donkeys for some reason!)

... and to the second paragraph, I really value my alone time in SL too... so my SL partner has had to go and dance and play with other people, so maybe he's just feeling a bit neglected and attention seeking when he asks me his strange little question of "why do women like me".

But I hope if the OP does decide to go for the big SL wedding we all get an invite - I love an excuse to wear a big dress (and I've never been a bridesmaid in SL or in RL and I would LOVE to wear a big pink fluffy meringue dress).

Do you know, you are making me think that better than having an SL partner is to have a Fan Club. If you start a fan club for Scylla, I'll join it.

It's a HUGE adjustment/compromise. I adored living alone in RL. Close my door and not have to open it again unless I want to; Return to my house exactly like I left it. Cleaning up after only me, which is minimal in comparison.....(example: today I cleaned up beard hair from the bathroom sink, something that I'd never need to do for myself....eewww). After I got divorced, once my mom was over at my house and I was dealing with some plumbing issue; my mom asked me, 'Don't you wish _____was still around now?" I responded, sure, so that he could unscrew this damn thing, and then, poof, disappear". Now, I'm married again, in RL, after living alone for a long time. I must've been really, really in love to give up my beloved alone time.

Definitely. I don't even like houseguests for more than a weekend. If friends plan on staying for a longer period, I helpfully provide suggestions for accomodations, and if they are strapped for cash, will even help out with the cost. I'm the same way when I travel. I don't like staying in someone else's home for more than a night or two. On my trip to Florida, I spent a week with relatives, and even though I love them dearly, I couldn't wait to get the Hell out of their house. I was much happier spending my second week at a resort condo.

Oh, thank you!

I needed this today. I am feeling distinctly unbalanced at the moment . . .





Marigold, WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN ALL MY LIFE????

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