The Skull Beneath the Skin

I'm not real clear on "why" you have to be judgmental? Do you care to explain?

Oh I meant not just that but much more how we speak bluntly to each other here. Just liek you just did.
I'm still waking up.
(It's a bit creepy but I have kinda got ties in some of those "places" to. It would be a little disconcerting to find out how well we knew each other. SL's weird that way.)

Oh Bri, please dont get mad at me. It was a silly Jiggy snotty thing to say even in my real sense of me. I always do these things and I have to really grovel. So sorry. Seriously.

Jeez, in College you couldn't get me to sit behind a computer in my free time long enough to try SL. To this day, I really can't figure out why I stayed, quit and came back. I am not a gamer, or a computer hobbyist of any degree,never did chat rooms or the like other than Sl and related foryum activity I still don't spend much time online doing other things.

That being said, I don't see SL as any better or worse than any leisure time activity. It's how you spend it and how it impacts the rest of your life, no matter what your age is. If it has a positive influence and doesn't keep you from carrying out your real life responsibilities. I don't see a problem. We all have different needs.

Well, I partied my way through the first few years.....which is an example of an alternative use of time not necessarily being more beneficial. Although I wouldn't trade those years for anything.

Your second paragraph somewhat contradicts the first. Yes, the funeral is for the living and therefore we, the recently departed, should not have any say in what they, the still living, do. Therefore, whomever is left behind can have whatever sort of service/memorial they wish.

But time, by its nature, *is* a zero-sum game. You cannot get any more of it.

I've certainly never said or meant to imply that Jig, or anyone here, is "not doing anything productive in RL"! Particularly in Jig's case, since she's shared her love of her busy career and hobbies fairly often.

That said, though, you are right that the statement I made was presumptuous. I took the risk because I was (am) concerned that Jig's strain of reclusiveness may lead her into using SL and its fora as an escape from the effort of spending leisure time with RL people - and thus missing out on making some of those friends (and loves)-for-life that one tends to find mostly when younger. Because I know you know, Bri, that most of those of us who care about each other here on the forums will evaporate from each other's lives, wordlessly, one day.

But yes, it was a busybody sort of concern to voice, truly none of my business, and I am very lucky, Jig, that you took it in the spirit in which I meant it! I never meant it to be more than one chime in the cantata of opinion that you so enjoy here.

I don't want anything elaborate; I simply wanted to be cremated.

Everything, that is, except for my skull - which is to serve as an urn for the rest of my ashes. It shall then be bronzed and placed in the palm of a 16-foot-tall marbled statue of myself in my prime, posed in a stance which conveys fortitude and wonder. My statue is to be placed on a pinked granite pedestal approximately five feet square and seven feet in height, slightly tapered towards the top and hand carved with a Middle Kingdom Egyptian decorative scrolling, into which my name and the dates of my birth and death are to be carved in a typical Roman monumental font. A twenty-three-foot-diameter rotunda shall house these, arranged such that the statue faces East. To the north and south, seperate subchambers will radiate, the southernmost featuring a carved and painted history of my life's accomplishments arranged in a clockwise fashion from birth to death, with various small pedestals in the center of the room calling attention to the finest of my hours by way of smaller statues, frescoes, bas-relief blocks and so forth. The northernmost chamber will comprise a gallery featuring my artworks. All of my graphite and charcoal drawings are to be transcribed as three-dimensional sculptures; my oil paintings shall be preserved in small airtight chambers along the walls. The entire building - the rotunda and subchambers - shall be placed in three-acre-square clearing (whose lawn and walking structures shall be maintained weekly) in the middle of a tract of virgin forest accessible only by gravel road. The tract of forest must be at least one-hundred and fifty acres square, privately owned by a dedicated trust established in my name upon my death. Before the main temple, a simple concrete altar will be placed on which gifts and sacrifices may be placed each year upon my birthday.

/me thinks Dakota is delusional from eating too much Halloween candy last night.

He doesn't need candy.

No problem, Nika. I loved the attention. And I knew you meant no harm. You and Bri are good people. I would be very foolish indeed if I didnt realize that sl does offer an escape for me and that I should be less withdrawn. I should take advantage of everything I've got and really "get out there". Many people like me end up shutting doors. It's easy to do.

I actually had ONE Halloween visitor last night. Pre-arranged, dressed as a rabbit. I bought a few chocky bars and he got one. It's a long drive off the main highway to my front door. Neat kid (his mum drove him out to me). So I did have a Halloween experience at least.

humanist service with music and few words, no religious mutterings whatsoever and scattering of ashes outside UK territorial waters from a ferry or something similar.

I would simply like to be thrown into a forest and left to rot. No burials or cremations or any sort of gathering. Put me in a forest and that's it.

I hope you are all considering laws and regulations for scattering of ashes.

tarina...uh huh, I need a fisheries licence to be buried at sea and that's a major hassle, so I figured being tipped surreptitiously over the side from an inconspicuous tea urn to be far less problematic. Down wind of course

My boys did say that they would like some of my ashes to be mixed in tattoo ink, so they could have 'dad' etched near to their hearts.........

I'm with you all the way, Rhonda. And if anyone wants to get together for some kind of remembrance that's up to them. I'm also perfectly fine if they just forget me and get on with their lives.

ohh thats cool

My sister had my some of my nephews ashes put into a sealed locket... and she has several tatts done that he had drawn through his life, I think she has 4 now... anyway. I didnt know they coudl do that, pretty cool!

Or maybe I should go with something like this, Cody.

I've had tons of ideas on how I want my funeral.

I want to put the "FUN" back in "FUNeral".

Maybe everyone dressed as clowns while I'm made up like a Mime?

I would also like to have my hands bent back at the elbow, my hands out like I was clawing at the lid. Also, the interior of the lid is to be scratched up.

This way, 100 or 1000 years from now, when archeologists dig me up, they'll think "OMG!! He was burried ALIVE!!!"

I have a bit of a friend of mine in a sealed lamp bottom. Every now and then that lamp will flash, no matter if the bulb is new or not. When it does, I say, 'hush now, James'.

I dunno, I think the absense of blood might give you away....

Nor delusions.

Interesting bit of trivia.

I have a friend who's a mortician (I wanted to be one but lacked the "people skills" for dealing with upset people & the dead meat they're crying over).

He was telling me that modern caskets contain a strip of magnesium. So when the casket gets scratched, and it rains, the rain water washes some of the magnesium into the scratches to keep the casket from rusting.

I think I'd settle for a Styrofoam Casket. Guaranteed to piss off the Green Movement!!!

Hmmmmm..... maybe add some of those spring-loaded "snakes" like you find in those joke can-o'-nuts?

If I had the $$$$$ I'd opt for a Mausoleum. AND.... I'd have a mailbox on it!

Not at all. I am not letting Uncle Sam TAX me for scattering the ashes of my relatives in my garden or at sea.

I could care less about the laws and regulations concerning such things, i wouldn't be scattering the ashes of Auschwitz or something. The government trying to make any regulation for the scattering of ashes at sea is a joke considering what i have seen forklifts push over the side of U.S.aircraft carriers into the ocean they misuse as a trashcan.

I had an idea that probably would NEVER be allowed.....

Is there a law that says I can't let my last wish to be eaten by others??

A bit of me in them forever!

At least my ex-fiancee & I agreed on the cannibalism thing.


Before you ask, YES- I would DEFINITELY eat another person. I luvz my meat!!