sl relationships

You are too - at least where he is concerned anyway.

What's changed in the last few months? I never had and still don't have the slightest interest in romance or even close friendship in SL; I'm not very social and don't expect that to ever change. I can spend hours in SL without any conversation at all. What has changed during the last few months is that two different situations have led me to connect my professional life to my SL avatar---in one case, providing my title and place of employment to an SL group that had a good reason to want to know what academics belonged to it, and in the other, starting to serve as an SL consultant/guide (unpaid!) to an institution I am connected with professionally that is trying to get involved in SL. When I started in 2007, it was with the vague idea that I would create an alt account for professional purposes when and if I had business here. But as it turns out, in the last few months, I feel perfectly comfortable introducing anyone to Petronilla, and don't want to create an alternate professional identity here.

Ummmm.... I'm pretty sure I marked that one yesterday. You might wanna wear protection when you're loving on the trees.

LMAO - I needed that laugh, thank you.

<-- Immersionist (ooo a made up word).

I did think it looked pretty dicey . . .

Wow..You should be put in solitary confinement for that one.

Look, everyone's different - who am I to say what works for someone else. My only problem is when another person INSISTS that I do things their way. Huh-uh. Do they fathom the arrogance involved in that train of thought, I wonder. A total stranger in effect feels they have the right and even the duty (some of them) to tell someone else how to live their life. Nothing gets up my craw like that line of thinking. (Freedommm - Lol)

So I'm not about to tell anyone else that roleplaying is better, that immersion (which seems to me a form of roleplaying unless I misunderstand - since it's an alternate reality) is better, or that 'chat program real life' is better. No one else can decide that except the person themselves.

Then you have to remind yourself, if need be, that not everyone sees things your way. Do not demand a real lifer roleplay with you, and do not demand a roleplayer or immersionist chat about their laundry. Or where they are from. Or if they have kids. Blabla & etc.

I probably fall somewhere in roleplay/immersion. For me SL is a wonderful imaginative ESCAPE, it's a walking cinematic landscape in real time that could take any of us anywhere. Come along with me for a magic carpet ride...that's how I feel about it.

I'm not averse to discussing RL in a very small amount here or there, but mainly as it impacts my SL. Such as, not feeling well, gonna log off now. Or, 'how have you been' and meaning it. Anything beyond that makes me uncomfortable. Why - am I an axe murderer? is the sometimes not so tactful reply. Nope, I just play it this way. Tolerate others or leave...seems logical to me. But a lot of people can't seem to do the first at all and the second only after a mini-lecture basically saying there's only one fit way for all, and it's theirs. Anything else is just (fill in the pejorative).

It doesn't mean I forget there are real life people behind the avs. I'm not crazy, or stupid. I know the difference between RL and SL and well, that's kind of my point.

;-P

Oh Crap.

That's the tree the moles marked with red paint because it had oak wilt...
He better hope it doesn't spread cross-species

Sounds to me like you may be putting a deeper meaning on SL relationships than may be heathly for you. If you want to treat SL as a "dating service" that is fine but not all of us treat SL that way.

odd reading some of the posts in this thread.... I simply asked

I wondered how we've all changed in the past several months. What loves have come and gone, what new insights have you gained into your self and your interactions in Second Life. Basically, what's going on yo...?

I thought it'd be nice to provide an answer myself instead of just a question. Where in my post did I imply people should do what I do?

I prefer to disagree with the assertion that what I'm doing is using SL as a "dating service". I consider it more as an opportunity to explore new ideas and learn about people. I see RP'd relationships everywhere in Second Life. It really makes me wonder what level their relationship is on. I don't see a problem putting an importance on the topic of relationships. We've all see countless threads where people's romances crash and burn in horrendous fires. It seems to me that talking about it, communicating, and learning how other people approach it is a healthy discussion.

*shrug*

Nowhere.

I really need to preface posts where I speak to the general topic or other issues raised in the thread with "this is not to the OP" or "this is not to anyone specific" I guess.

You know how in a conversation tangential issues sometimes arise. Or it reminds one of something on the topic at hand they'd like to address in a public way. Like that.

Not sure why it came across as to you personally but my apologies, it was not meant that way at all. You seem a lovely person, far as I can tell.

what i like about relationships in second life you can be a bum with a bathrode on and havent shave in days and have a cigarette hanging out of mouth and fart at computer and still look good in second life.

Actually, I sensed that you were speaking in generalities, so don't worry.

I feel i fall into group 3 and i have not changed my AV in ages other than the hair style. In other ways i find i am being less social in SL and spending more time in private with my Master.

Lol, then *I'm* the one who saw something 'to me' when it wasn't.

Ha.

Your post was kind of poetic and it totally resonated with me. When I first started on SL, I sort of expected ppl to fall into RL roles maybe because I was recovering from a RL relationship. Then I got burned twice in (very short) SL ones.

Then I learned that this world is not RL but a weird mix of real life and fantasy. Then I had some really good SL relationships. Sigh. My last one went for 8 months before his RL and mine finally did us both in (he's off SL, we're still friends via IM). So, two years later (wow my rez day was last week), I'm a different person in RL and SL. Less judgmental. More playful. More helpful.

Now, I'm mostly looking after my friends new and old. Today I explored a forest with a newbie and showed him how to be a freebie merman so I could put on my mermaid AV and explore underwater with him. That was fun. That was what SL should be for me I think.

Thank you; happy rez day; and thank you for sharing your beautiful story!

I tried relationships, but for some reason the line "hi, wanna come over and see my TARDIS?" usually gets a >.< or a o.O reply...

1 user visited a guy's Tardis - and liked it...

Tardis: Proof that big things can come in small packages. =^-^=

Except when it comes to man parts.

Thats how I met my now RL wife as i often used to sit playing in my boxers, smoking a ciggy lol