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foehn Breed

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08-23-2008 09:22

From: Navistar Skytower

sad sad sad

http://cbs3.com/local/kimberly.jernigan.second.2.801089.html

ahaha

I mean poor guy and dog ahem

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bigmoe Whitfield

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08-23-2008 09:57

Holy cows, I love my sl wife to death, but if she left I sure as heck aint gona go find and try and kidnap her, wowzers. Thats way over the line. :/

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Colette Meiji

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08-23-2008 10:01

From: bigmoe Whitfield

Holy cows, I love my sl wife to death, but if she left I sure as heck aint gona go find and try and kidnap her, wowzers. Thats way over the line. :/

what about your dog though?

Oryx Tempel

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08-23-2008 10:08

From: Colette Meiji

what about your dog though?

According to the other thread, it's perfectly okay, as long as it doesn't play a 12 year old.

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Colette Meiji

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08-23-2008 10:56

From: Oryx Tempel

According to the other thread, it's perfectly okay, as long as it doesn't play a 12 year old.

In doggie or people years?

Draig Belgar

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08-23-2008 11:14

From: Crunch Underwood

holy crap!

another reason not to get into a virtual relationship!

furries and humans, it never ends well...there are enough neko's as it is

-Crunch

In my R/T alternative lifestyle community we have protocols for meeting someone from online.
1 Get their real information, talk via telephone, get their phone number, get their address, get their real full name
2 Call them back at their number to make sure it is real, do a reverse number lookup, google their name and/or address to make sure they are who they say they are.
3 Don't rush, spend several days talking via telephone, ask about their last relationship, what was good about it, what ended it. If they are the wrong sort of person they will lie, but lies don't hold up very long.
4 When you meet, have a "safe call", either a number where a friend can reach you or the number of a friend, set the call up so you are in contact with your friend at specific times. Have a code for "everything is fine" and a code for "get me the heck out of here, I need the police". Have it be something innocuous like how is your sister if they don't have one. Be sure your friend knows if it goes south you are either going to want police intervention or for your friend to show up.
5 Give all the info you have on the person and exactly where you will be to your friend who is your safe call.
6 Don't go anywhere but where you told your friend you would be, don't get into a vehicle with the person you are meeting
7 Make it clear this meeting is a "look see" for both of you, that nothing else is going to happen.
8 Meet in a public place, do NOT go to their place, do NOT let them come to yours.
9 Spend time talking and getting to know the person in public areas so you get a sense of the sort of person they are. Don't let lust overrule common sense.

A safe call network may be something Linden Labs might want to encourage SL patrons to start and run.

Colette Meiji

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Join date: 25 Mar 2005

Posts: 15,556

08-23-2008 11:35

From: Draig Belgar

In my R/T alternative lifestyle community we have protocols for meeting someone from online.
1 Get their real information, talk via telephone, get their phone number, get their address, get their real full name
2 Call them back at their number to make sure it is real, do a reverse number lookup, google their name and/or address to make sure they are who they say they are.
3 Don't rush, spend several days talking via telephone, ask about their last relationship, what was good about it, what ended it. If they are the wrong sort of person they will lie, but lies don't hold up very long.
4 When you meet, have a "safe call", either a number where a friend can reach you or the number of a friend, set the call up so you are in contact with your friend at specific times. Have a code for "everything is fine" and a code for "get me the heck out of here, I need the police". Have it be something innocuous like how is your sister if they don't have one. Be sure your friend knows if it goes south you are either going to want police intervention or for your friend to show up.
5 Give all the info you have on the person and exactly where you will be to your friend who is your safe call.
6 Don't go anywhere but where you told your friend you would be, don't get into a vehicle with the person you are meeting
7 Make it clear this meeting is a "look see" for both of you, that nothing else is going to happen.
8 Meet in a public place, do NOT go to their place, do NOT let them come to yours.
9 Spend time talking and getting to know the person in public areas so you get a sense of the sort of person they are. Don't let lust overrule common sense.

A safe call network may be something Linden Labs might want to encourage SL patrons to start and run.

This is interesting

BUT ...

From: Draig Belgar

1 Get their real information, talk via telephone, get their phone number, get their address, get their real full name

This part would open you up to the crazed kidnapper lady right off the bat.

I mean heck she could hang up after that and pack her Depends and load the pickup truck.

So .. Fail.

Newfie Pendragon

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Join date: 19 Dec 2003

Posts: 1,025

08-23-2008 18:44

Scary part is...I know the place, and I drive past it on my way to work!

Momma always said to not get involved in those lion->transgender avatar relationships. Well, she would if she was able to get past the 'you do what on the whatnow?' question.

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Czari Zenovka

I've Had it With "PC"!

Join date: 3 May 2007

Posts: 3,688

08-24-2008 06:01

From: Draig Belgar

In my R/T alternative lifestyle community we have protocols for meeting someone from online.
1 Get their real information, talk via telephone, get their phone number, get their address, get their real full name
2 Call them back at their number to make sure it is real, do a reverse number lookup, google their name and/or address to make sure they are who they say they are.
3 Don't rush, spend several days talking via telephone, ask about their last relationship, what was good about it, what ended it. If they are the wrong sort of person they will lie, but lies don't hold up very long.
4 When you meet, have a "safe call", either a number where a friend can reach you or the number of a friend, set the call up so you are in contact with your friend at specific times. Have a code for "everything is fine" and a code for "get me the heck out of here, I need the police". Have it be something innocuous like how is your sister if they don't have one. Be sure your friend knows if it goes south you are either going to want police intervention or for your friend to show up.
5 Give all the info you have on the person and exactly where you will be to your friend who is your safe call.
6 Don't go anywhere but where you told your friend you would be, don't get into a vehicle with the person you are meeting
7 Make it clear this meeting is a "look see" for both of you, that nothing else is going to happen.
8 Meet in a public place, do NOT go to their place, do NOT let them come to yours.
9 Spend time talking and getting to know the person in public areas so you get a sense of the sort of person they are. Don't let lust overrule common sense.

A safe call network may be something Linden Labs might want to encourage SL patrons to start and run.

Great post and crucial info. These guidelines were considered "common knowledge" in the online communities in which I participated in the past. I forget there's now a "new online generation."

I've met many people RL that I originally met online....most in group gatherings but several on a one-to-one basis. The ones that were just "wouldn't it be fun to meet since we live in the same area" were held in a public restaurant, cafe in bookshop, etc. - each arriving in own transportation and leaving in same.

Any that progressed farther (read - romantic relationship) I built an entire security net around myself.

Unfortunately with this issue, the person was a stalker and even without giving much information it is so easy using tools like Google Earth, etc. for people to find another if they really want to.

But utilizing as many safety procedures as possible is definitely the way to go.

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Holocluck Henly

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08-24-2008 06:50

From: Bree Giffen

This SL to RL story would've been funnier if the police had found a cube made of plywood, a book from John Norman's Gor series, a furry suit and two rubber balls, one pink and one blue, on the bed.

Heehee

I would have been even funnier if her name was Ruth.

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Immortal Wingtips

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08-25-2008 03:01

From: Draig Belgar

In my R/T alternative lifestyle community we have protocols for meeting someone from online.
1 Get their real information, talk via telephone, get their phone number, get their address, get their real full name

(snip)

I would add, watch your drink and never leave it unattended, especially if you're a lady.

Take your own transport to the meeting place so that you have a means of leaving quickly and easily if you need to.

When SL crosses into RL....
foehn Breed More random than random Join date: 16 Jan 2006 Posts: 1,142	08-23-2008 09:22 From: Navistar Skytower sad sad sad http://cbs3.com/local/kimberly.jernigan.second.2.801089.html ahaha I mean poor guy and dog ahem _____________________ You have no friends online at this time. "Excellent!" Einstein "I never think of the future. It comes soon enough."
bigmoe Whitfield I>3 Foxes Join date: 29 Jul 2007 Posts: 459	08-23-2008 09:57 Holy cows, I love my sl wife to death, but if she left I sure as heck aint gona go find and try and kidnap her, wowzers. Thats way over the line. :/ _____________________ GoodBye Forums we will miss you ~moe 2-2-2010~
Colette Meiji Registered User Join date: 25 Mar 2005 Posts: 15,556	08-23-2008 10:01 From: bigmoe Whitfield Holy cows, I love my sl wife to death, but if she left I sure as heck aint gona go find and try and kidnap her, wowzers. Thats way over the line. :/ what about your dog though?
Oryx Tempel Registered User Join date: 8 Nov 2006 Posts: 7,663	08-23-2008 10:08 From: Colette Meiji what about your dog though? According to the other thread, it's perfectly okay, as long as it doesn't play a 12 year old. _____________________
Colette Meiji Registered User Join date: 25 Mar 2005 Posts: 15,556	08-23-2008 10:56 From: Oryx Tempel According to the other thread, it's perfectly okay, as long as it doesn't play a 12 year old. In doggie or people years?
Draig Belgar Registered User Join date: 11 Aug 2008 Posts: 2	Meeting Someone From Online 08-23-2008 11:14 From: Crunch Underwood holy crap! another reason not to get into a virtual relationship! furries and humans, it never ends well...there are enough neko's as it is -Crunch In my R/T alternative lifestyle community we have protocols for meeting someone from online. 1 Get their real information, talk via telephone, get their phone number, get their address, get their real full name 2 Call them back at their number to make sure it is real, do a reverse number lookup, google their name and/or address to make sure they are who they say they are. 3 Don't rush, spend several days talking via telephone, ask about their last relationship, what was good about it, what ended it. If they are the wrong sort of person they will lie, but lies don't hold up very long. 4 When you meet, have a "safe call", either a number where a friend can reach you or the number of a friend, set the call up so you are in contact with your friend at specific times. Have a code for "everything is fine" and a code for "get me the heck out of here, I need the police". Have it be something innocuous like how is your sister if they don't have one. Be sure your friend knows if it goes south you are either going to want police intervention or for your friend to show up. 5 Give all the info you have on the person and exactly where you will be to your friend who is your safe call. 6 Don't go anywhere but where you told your friend you would be, don't get into a vehicle with the person you are meeting 7 Make it clear this meeting is a "look see" for both of you, that nothing else is going to happen. 8 Meet in a public place, do NOT go to their place, do NOT let them come to yours. 9 Spend time talking and getting to know the person in public areas so you get a sense of the sort of person they are. Don't let lust overrule common sense. A safe call network may be something Linden Labs might want to encourage SL patrons to start and run.
Colette Meiji Registered User Join date: 25 Mar 2005 Posts: 15,556	08-23-2008 11:35 From: Draig Belgar In my R/T alternative lifestyle community we have protocols for meeting someone from online. 1 Get their real information, talk via telephone, get their phone number, get their address, get their real full name 2 Call them back at their number to make sure it is real, do a reverse number lookup, google their name and/or address to make sure they are who they say they are. 3 Don't rush, spend several days talking via telephone, ask about their last relationship, what was good about it, what ended it. If they are the wrong sort of person they will lie, but lies don't hold up very long. 4 When you meet, have a "safe call", either a number where a friend can reach you or the number of a friend, set the call up so you are in contact with your friend at specific times. Have a code for "everything is fine" and a code for "get me the heck out of here, I need the police". Have it be something innocuous like how is your sister if they don't have one. Be sure your friend knows if it goes south you are either going to want police intervention or for your friend to show up. 5 Give all the info you have on the person and exactly where you will be to your friend who is your safe call. 6 Don't go anywhere but where you told your friend you would be, don't get into a vehicle with the person you are meeting 7 Make it clear this meeting is a "look see" for both of you, that nothing else is going to happen. 8 Meet in a public place, do NOT go to their place, do NOT let them come to yours. 9 Spend time talking and getting to know the person in public areas so you get a sense of the sort of person they are. Don't let lust overrule common sense. A safe call network may be something Linden Labs might want to encourage SL patrons to start and run. This is interesting BUT ... From: Draig Belgar 1 Get their real information, talk via telephone, get their phone number, get their address, get their real full name This part would open you up to the crazed kidnapper lady right off the bat. I mean heck she could hang up after that and pack her Depends and load the pickup truck. So .. Fail.
Newfie Pendragon Crusty and proud of it Join date: 19 Dec 2003 Posts: 1,025	08-23-2008 18:44 Scary part is...I know the place, and I drive past it on my way to work! Momma always said to not get involved in those lion->transgender avatar relationships. Well, she would if she was able to get past the 'you do what on the whatnow?' question. - Newfie
Czari Zenovka I've Had it With "PC"! Join date: 3 May 2007 Posts: 3,688	08-24-2008 06:01 From: Draig Belgar In my R/T alternative lifestyle community we have protocols for meeting someone from online. 1 Get their real information, talk via telephone, get their phone number, get their address, get their real full name 2 Call them back at their number to make sure it is real, do a reverse number lookup, google their name and/or address to make sure they are who they say they are. 3 Don't rush, spend several days talking via telephone, ask about their last relationship, what was good about it, what ended it. If they are the wrong sort of person they will lie, but lies don't hold up very long. 4 When you meet, have a "safe call", either a number where a friend can reach you or the number of a friend, set the call up so you are in contact with your friend at specific times. Have a code for "everything is fine" and a code for "get me the heck out of here, I need the police". Have it be something innocuous like how is your sister if they don't have one. Be sure your friend knows if it goes south you are either going to want police intervention or for your friend to show up. 5 Give all the info you have on the person and exactly where you will be to your friend who is your safe call. 6 Don't go anywhere but where you told your friend you would be, don't get into a vehicle with the person you are meeting 7 Make it clear this meeting is a "look see" for both of you, that nothing else is going to happen. 8 Meet in a public place, do NOT go to their place, do NOT let them come to yours. 9 Spend time talking and getting to know the person in public areas so you get a sense of the sort of person they are. Don't let lust overrule common sense. A safe call network may be something Linden Labs might want to encourage SL patrons to start and run. Great post and crucial info. These guidelines were considered "common knowledge" in the online communities in which I participated in the past. I forget there's now a "new online generation." I've met many people RL that I originally met online....most in group gatherings but several on a one-to-one basis. The ones that were just "wouldn't it be fun to meet since we live in the same area" were held in a public restaurant, cafe in bookshop, etc. - each arriving in own transportation and leaving in same. Any that progressed farther (read - romantic relationship) I built an entire security net around myself. Unfortunately with this issue, the person was a stalker and even without giving much information it is so easy using tools like Google Earth, etc. for people to find another if they really want to. But utilizing as many safety procedures as possible is definitely the way to go. _____________________ Czari's Attic ~ Relive the fun of exploring an attic for hidden treasures! http://slurl.com/secondlife/Rakhiot/82/99/111 During times of universal deceit, telling the truth becomes a revolutionary act.- George Orwell
Holocluck Henly Holographic Clucktor Join date: 11 Apr 2008 Posts: 552	08-24-2008 06:50 From: Bree Giffen This SL to RL story would've been funnier if the police had found a cube made of plywood, a book from John Norman's Gor series, a furry suit and two rubber balls, one pink and one blue, on the bed. Heehee I would have been even funnier if her name was Ruth. _____________________ Photostream: www.flickr.com/photos/holocluck Holocluck's Henhouse: New Eyes on the Grid: holocluck@blogspot
Immortal Wingtips Registered User Join date: 5 Apr 2008 Posts: 32	08-25-2008 03:01 From: Draig Belgar In my R/T alternative lifestyle community we have protocols for meeting someone from online. 1 Get their real information, talk via telephone, get their phone number, get their address, get their real full name (snip) I would add, watch your drink and never leave it unattended, especially if you're a lady. Take your own transport to the meeting place so that you have a means of leaving quickly and easily if you need to.

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