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Rhaorth Antonelli
Registered User
Join date: 15 Apr 2006
Posts: 7,425
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04-08-2009 21:25
From: Blu Cazalet Really? Funny because some of our SL relationships have turned into RL relationships. My SL partner is now my RL fiancee. I know of a few who are married in RL now, having met in SL. It's all about attitude. Now..having fed this troll....
-Blu- (who started a group JUST BECAUSE OF THIS) hi Blu! ohh you got engaged WOOT we just had our 2 year RL wedding anniversary yesterday! Could you send me an invite for the group again, I think I dropped it before to make room, but now I have room again, would like to keep in touch and meet others either going down that same road, or have already made that trip.
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Milla Janick
Empress Of The Universe
Join date: 2 Jan 2008
Posts: 3,075
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04-08-2009 21:36
I don't send friend requests, either. If I'm on your contact list, you added me. Not much point in doing that then hiding from me. I don't get all chatty over IM anyway. I don't accept friend requests from every horndog I meet, so I don't get flooded with IMs begging for cartoon sex.
If I figure out you're hiding your online status from me, I'll drop you from my contacts list. You didn't really want to be on it in the first place, did you? Or did you think it was okay to pester me with IMs whenever you wanted, but you don't want to hear from me?
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vulva Core
Registered User
Join date: 3 Apr 2009
Posts: 23
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04-08-2009 21:41
From: Dana Hickman This ^^^
Getting flooded by IM's from friends and guys who want sex when I first logon is why I originally started hiding myself to many on my list. I'm past that, but what really annoys me now is those people who think just because we're on each others friends list, that it entitles them to some kind of priviledge of knowing when I'm inworld or not. Just like those who complained when mapping was made an option, and people used that option. It's like the mother hen gene gone totally wrong or something. Being able to isolate as best I can is how I regroup.. that's not offensive OR selfish on my part. I tend to think friends who get huffy or thin-skinned because I took them off online notify for a while are having a reaction of their own insecurity or self-importance.. not because what I did was so terrible. exactly right spot on |
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Felix Oxide
Registered User
Join date: 6 Oct 2006
Posts: 655
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04-08-2009 21:50
I like to mess with them and uncheck them and mark myself busy with my busy message saying "Second Life: User not online - message will be stored and delivered later." Then I just blame SL.  |
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Dana Hickman
Leather & Lace™
Join date: 10 Oct 2006
Posts: 1,515
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04-08-2009 21:57
From: Rhaorth Antonelli the thing is... even if you mark it so they do not see you online... a simple script in a prim, wear it on their hud, so no matter where they go, they will know when you log in
so, unticking that little choice, really doesn't do anything to keep you "hidden"
which is why I am not quite sure why the OP has such an issue with it *as I said... alt/troll* No, you're absolutely right... but it's not so much about totally trying to hide from someone as it is trying to reduce the likelyhood that they'll see me online in their convenient friends list and decide to chat it up, or more likely hit on me when I'm in antisocial mode. Has nothing to do with the quality of the friend, or a lack of respect thereof. I just got "busted" today by a friend I was hidden from when I dropped in and started dancing right by him in a club. Like a true friend he said "hey take me off hidden, ya bi*ch " in a joking manner, and right away went into "so how are ya?". He knew.. they all know and understand it's not anything personal. They also understand that merely hiding notification is no indication of what value I put on the friendship. |
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Cristalle Karami
Lady of the House
Join date: 4 Dec 2006
Posts: 6,222
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04-08-2009 22:08
I have a number of people on my friends list that I do not consider friends, but rather they are acquaintances, primarily through business as I am a landlord. I often uncheck the viewing ability from those, as I really don't want to be blasted with IMs right away as soon as I log in, on top of the ones that are already in my email from offline messages.
My feeling is, if you have something to say, say it - don't stalk me to tell me whatever it is, just send the message and I'll deal with it either via offline IM or when I get inworld. Waiting around for me to log in when it may be something I can answer while offline is extremely non-productive. I always check offline messages first before logging in (since IMs are usually capped) and use them to track and compose my list of stuff to do inworld. I just dislike the train of thought being obviously disrupted by someone stalking me instead of just asking the question.
I wish people wouldn't friend me just to skip searching for me, but I don't bother fighting that and suggesting the calling card, since I can't give my own calling card through the profile... I just uncheck the visibility.
I have even turned off the online/offline notices. It is amazing how much of a difference that makes to me. If I have something to say, I will search or otherwise pull up a profile and say whatever I need to say. And when I actually have time to be social, I will. I don't mind actual friends saying hi, that is something I need to do more often.
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Dana Hickman
Leather & Lace™
Join date: 10 Oct 2006
Posts: 1,515
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04-08-2009 22:11
From: Felix Oxide I like to mess with them and uncheck them and mark myself busy with my busy message saying "Second Life: User not online - message will be stored and delivered later." Then I just blame SL. Ok, that's funny That's almost as evil as sneaking onto someones computer, hiding the mouse pointer, taking a printscreen of their desktop with all the icons and setting it as the background. Then taking all their real icons and hiding them in a folder  |
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Dagmar Heideman
Bokko Dancer
Join date: 2 Feb 2007
Posts: 989
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04-08-2009 22:13
From: Dana Hickman Ok, that's funny That's almost as evil as sneaking onto someones computer, hiding the mouse pointer, taking a printscreen of their desktop with all the icons and setting it as the background. Then taking all their real icons and hiding them in a folder Ok now you're going to hell! |
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Dana Hickman
Leather & Lace™
Join date: 10 Oct 2006
Posts: 1,515
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04-08-2009 22:17
From: Dagmar Heideman Ok now you're going to hell! Yes I know  I got written up at work for pulling that on one of the operators.. It was worth it |
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Blu Cazalet
SL 2 RL? CROSSING BORDERS
Join date: 28 Jul 2007
Posts: 189
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04-08-2009 22:23
From: Rhaorth Antonelli hi Blu!
ohh you got engaged WOOT
we just had our 2 year RL wedding anniversary yesterday!
Could you send me an invite for the group again, I think I dropped it before to make room, but now I have room again, would like to keep in touch and meet others either going down that same road, or have already made that trip. Absolutley! And congrats on your anniversary! He proposed to me last year in Daytona Beach, FL (during Bike Week), in a full bar of people, after singing and playing guitar with the local band! lol. -Blu-(who believes what goes on in Sl doesn't always STAY in SL)
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Blu Cazalet
SL 2 RL? CROSSING BORDERS
Join date: 28 Jul 2007
Posts: 189
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04-08-2009 22:29
Apparently logging into SL right now is not an option...keep getting an error msg. Anyway, Rha, I will send you the tag when I can, or you can just find the group in search and join at your leisure!
-Blu-(sends out the welcome wagon)
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Rhaorth Antonelli
Registered User
Join date: 15 Apr 2006
Posts: 7,425
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04-09-2009 00:50
ok blu, will do did not even attempt to log into SL today hehe today was a non SL day and it felt good (I do not work on Wednesdays or the weekend)
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From: someone Morpheus Linden: But then I change avs pretty often too, so often, I look nothing like my avatar. They are taking away the forums... it could be worse, they could be taking away the forums AND Second Life...
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TundraFire Nightfire
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Join date: 5 Apr 2008
Posts: 532
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04-09-2009 02:24
From: Rhaorth Antonelli ROFL no offense taken, to be offended would mean I would have to care what you think of me, or what your opinion is... which.. I don't care what you think.. Vulva got the shaft...how will she ever get ahead now?
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Jackie Silverfall
One Happy Man
Join date: 28 Mar 2009
Posts: 687
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04-09-2009 04:31
From: vulva Core Do your friends get offended because you dont allow them to see when youre online? I noticed that if people find out Im online but I havent allowed them to see that I am they seem to be slightly offended and ask why. One person sent me this big spiel asking why I was ignoring them and to please respond because its driving them crazy. Needless to say I instantly removed them from my list and muted them. I dont want people to see Im online because I cant be bothered with inane chit chat, they usually have nothing interesting to say anyway and it just wastes time I can spend doing other things. Who are these people anyway? They arent real friends. More like cyber stalkers. Nobody keeps tags on vulva, NOBODY! It's just my opinion, but if you don't want them to know you're online, then are you just using the friends list as an address book? I only have people as friends who I'm eager to see or hear from when they're online. I get excited when one of them pops on and can't wait to pester them about whatever. That's just me, though. Cheers, Jackie.
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Ralektra Breda
Template Painter
Join date: 7 Apr 2008
Posts: 1,875
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04-09-2009 04:46
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Kokoro Fasching
Pixie Dust and Sugar
Join date: 23 Dec 2005
Posts: 949
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04-09-2009 04:54
From: Dana Hickman Ok, that's funny That's almost as evil as sneaking onto someones computer, hiding the mouse pointer, taking a printscreen of their desktop with all the icons and setting it as the background. Then taking all their real icons and hiding them in a folder What was even more fun was back in the days of the VT-100 and DEC terminals was changing their logon profile so that it had a screen width of 1.. everything became a s i n g l e l i n e down their screen.. Yes.. got a few 'notices' about that one.. *grins* |
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Clarissa Lowell
Gone. G'bye.
Join date: 10 Apr 2006
Posts: 3,020
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04-09-2009 05:59
From: vulva Core No offense but you sound like a crazy psycho stalker the kind that I drop  Friends dont place conditions on each other in the way that you sound as though you do. ?? Reread your own original post. Also, you should be so lucky to have a fine person such as Rhaorth on your friends list. Maybe you will be lucky enough that your current friends list will see your backbiting on them in this thread and drop YOU. Problem solved. |
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Briana Dawson
Attach to Mouth
Join date: 23 Sep 2003
Posts: 5,855
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04-09-2009 06:02
I checked the "vulva core" profile in world.
Nothing but an alt on paTROLL.
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Clarissa Lowell
Gone. G'bye.
Join date: 10 Apr 2006
Posts: 3,020
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04-09-2009 06:07
Hm, duly noted.
/me searches out the forum ignore function for the first time.
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Amaranthim Talon
Voyager, Seeker, Curious
Join date: 14 Nov 2006
Posts: 12,032
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04-09-2009 06:42
Personaly, I am carrying my Ignore all Negative content out of the Thread and into the forums in general. You do not really need the Ignore button- you just have to choose to not respond to obvious baiting from everyone. If you do this, it will all die of starvation. It doesn't matter in the least who is trolling- alt or regular. Just look the other way...let your eyes glaze over and before you know it... it will be gone or since you can't see it, the presence of hate mongoring won't matter at all. Call me Pollyana if you wish (and if I could spell it!) But "la la la la la"
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Briana Dawson
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Join date: 23 Sep 2003
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04-09-2009 06:48
From: Amaranthim Talon Call me Pollyana if you wish (and if I could spell it!) But "la la la la la" LOL! You forgot to plug your ears while going "la la la la la la"! |
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Sredni Eel
DJ Johnny
Join date: 22 Jan 2008
Posts: 414
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04-09-2009 06:53
From: Dana Hickman This ^^^
Getting flooded by IM's from friends and guys who want sex when I first logon is why I originally started hiding myself to many on my list. I'm past that, but what really annoys me now is those people who think just because we're on each others friends list, that it entitles them to some kind of priviledge of knowing when I'm inworld or not. Just like those who complained when mapping was made an option, and people used that option. It's like the mother hen gene gone totally wrong or something. Being able to isolate as best I can is how I regroup.. that's not offensive OR selfish on my part. I tend to think friends who get huffy or thin-skinned because I took them off online notify for a while are having a reaction of their own insecurity or self-importance.. not because what I did was so terrible. I don't hide my online status from anyone on my list. If I don't want to talk, I simply tell the person who IMs, "Hey, I'm working right now. Can we talk a bit later?" One or two people on my list are mappable, but I've never used the mapping ability to find them. It's always easier to IM them anyway. As for getting TPs, you don't have to take them. I only have one dude on my friends list who insists on "talking in person", and the irony is when he accepts my TP, we still talk in IM. To me, the whole point of SL is to connect with people. If I wanted to keep to myself and build things, I'd play with legos.
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Clarissa Lowell
Gone. G'bye.
Join date: 10 Apr 2006
Posts: 3,020
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04-09-2009 08:37
Sredni what I find is that people tend to respect men's privacy and boundaries but do not offer women friends/potential lovers the same respect.
YMMV.
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Clarissa Lowell
Gone. G'bye.
Join date: 10 Apr 2006
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04-09-2009 08:38
From: Amaranthim Talon Personaly, I am carrying my Ignore all Negative content out of the Thread and into the forums in general. You do not really need the Ignore button- you just have to choose to not respond to obvious baiting from everyone. If you do this, it will all die of starvation. It doesn't matter in the least who is trolling- alt or regular. Just look the other way...let your eyes glaze over and before you know it... it will be gone or since you can't see it, the presence of hate mongoring won't matter at all. Call me Pollyana if you wish (and if I could spell it!) But "la la la la la" As I said: "for the first time." That should tell you something. If moderators remove posts like his/her very explicit one about 'brown spray' then maybe scroll would still suffice. ...Now I've acknowledged the thing I didn't want to. Yay (At any rate, "YOU" may not but in this case, I did. Simple really. Hate when people tell me what to do/take mah inventory (TM Stuart Smalley). ) |
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Amaranthim Talon
Voyager, Seeker, Curious
Join date: 14 Nov 2006
Posts: 12,032
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04-09-2009 08:43
From: Briana Dawson LOL! You forgot to plug your ears while going "la la la la la la"! Oh! I did in the Thread though
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