Show friends online, not!

Do your friends get offended because you dont allow them to see when youre online? I noticed that if people find out Im online but I havent allowed them to see that I am they seem to be slightly offended and ask why. One person sent me this big spiel asking why I was ignoring them and to please respond because its driving them crazy. Needless to say I instantly removed them from my list and muted them. I dont want people to see Im online because I cant be bothered with inane chit chat, they usually have nothing interesting to say anyway and it just wastes time I can spend doing other things. Who are these people anyway? They arent real friends. More like cyber stalkers. Nobody keeps tags on vulva, NOBODY!

Hymen

ROFL!

Vulva. Come on.

Ugh.

Stop accepting Friend requests if you are going to say such nasty things about them.

There is nothing wrong with keeping your status online a secret, my SL partner does it, and before i knew about online notifiers i would threaten to IM her every 15-20mins just to see if she was on, since i did not have that ability then.

Explain to people that you keep your online status private and that you hope it does not offend them but that is the way you roll...If they cannot accept that oh well.

But making those remarks about how you cannot be bothered with inane chat, and how they usually have nothing interesting to say kinda lets me know either you are not being serious, or you are just fishing drama.

Well I guess I'm lucky, and have friends I like, that sort of being the point of it to me. I don't hide, and would certainly be offended if I was hidden from by a friend. I think Busy mode is a more gentle way to tell people you want some p&q, and it's not a personal hit at anyone.

I like my friends to wave hi

hehe actually I just recently had it reinstated so I am a virgin again

I suppose its how you look at it. I dont see it as hiding. Im not hiding from them Im just not showing them Im online. If they get offended theyre dropped They can always IM me but I may not answer if I dont feel like it especially if they IM me 5 seconds after I log on.

I keep most friends unticked coz a couple of years back i did hav someone who IM'd me the instant i logged in..it was kind of flattering at first but then became a little suffocating that he thought i was solely on for contact with him...he wasn't content with a chat via IM he was insistent for a tp..and wouldn't get gentle hints..but anyways yes since then i keep most unticked.

Some friends are high maintenance,lolz, but i guess its better than having none at all, that would be worse i think?

If you are going to hide from them, why even bother to accept them as a friend?

I always thought the point of the friends list was so you could keep in touch, and by hiding yourself, you are basically saying you do not want to keep in touch.

If I found out a friend was keeping their status hidden from me, I would not confront them, I would just simply remove them.

Now, not all the people on my list are friends, some are business contacts, and in that case, if they choose to hide, then I have no problem with that. (the adding to list, was merely for convinence purposes, when it comes to business contacts, a quick easy way to find the person's name to send them an im, on or offline)

So, either these people are friends, which you would want to share your online status with, or they are simply contacts, which, the right thing to do, would be, right up front, tell them you are hiding your status.

I personally would not want to be friends with someone, who has an attitude like yours. I am still floored that you called them friend, yet talked like that about them.

I have about 60 Friends and they can all see when I'm online. I've only ever resorted to hiding once or twice in 2 years, and if I do, that's a sure sign it's time to dump somebody. Hiding is a passive-aggressive way to avoid doing just that.

Hey you are the one that either offered the friendship request or accepted it.

A hidden vulva?

No offense but you sound like a crazy psycho stalker the kind that I drop Friends dont place conditions on each other in the way that you sound as though you do.
Personally I think they should change the name of it to contacts rather than friends. Im sorry but anonymous glorified chat rooms arent really conducive towards forming real friendships.

This

SL would be a very boring place if everyone had that attitude. I don't let everyone on my list know when I'm online, but most I do, afterall, they are friends.

Between llRequestAgentData(), and simply peeking at any group you're in, it's impossible to log on with a given avatar and remain unseen. I simple NEVER hide my online status from anyone. If I get an IM from someone when I'm busy, I simply tell them I'm busy, and will catch up with them later. They always say "Oh, ok, no problem", and then they leave me alone. Unless you're prepared to log on with an alt, don't bother hiding your status, as it's not possible.

I am with Rhaorth..

I *do not* send friend requests, I am just weird in that i do not want to seem pushy or clingy or anything, SO, if you friend me, and then make it so i cannot see you online, I am dropping you from my friends list, it is quite simple since you obviously do not care for me to chat with you by not letting me see that you are on.

When i do not want to be bothered, i turn on BUSY and leave an appropriate message letting people know i am either AFK or working in world and will get back to them.

If you mark yourself as busy your IMs get held back and your "friends" get a message you select telling them you are busy or in your case it could read " Hi friends sorry i cant be bothered with your idle banter please do not disturb me again , Ill contact you if and when "I" decide to "

i thought some of you people in this thread were good at keeping the spray handy, IYKWIM...

This ^^^
Getting flooded by IM's from friends and guys who want sex when I first logon is why I originally started hiding myself to many on my list. I'm past that, but what really annoys me now is those people who think just because we're on each others friends list, that it entitles them to some kind of priviledge of knowing when I'm inworld or not. Just like those who complained when mapping was made an option, and people used that option. It's like the mother hen gene gone totally wrong or something. Being able to isolate as best I can is how I regroup.. that's not offensive OR selfish on my part. I tend to think friends who get huffy or thin-skinned because I took them off online notify for a while are having a reaction of their own insecurity or self-importance.. not because what I did was so terrible.

I have no problem with someone unchecking online status, I don't find it offensive at all. In RL we have friends, but they aren't notifed the minute we come home from work or know our every move. I've always found the multiple ways ways of knowing someone is online somewhat creepy to be truthful.

Really? Funny because some of our SL relationships have turned into RL relationships. My SL partner is now my RL fiancee. I know of a few who are married in RL now, having met in SL. It's all about attitude. Now..having fed this troll....

-Blu- (who started a group JUST BECAUSE OF THIS)

ROFL no offense taken, to be offended would mean I would have to care what you think of me, or what your opinion is... which.. I don't care what you think..

After all you are the one who came here, ranting because someone was upset you were hidden from them, which obviously you do not even consider them a friend... or if you do, I feel badly for them

(I would say what you sound like, but I am not quite THAT rude... so I will put it nicely...
alt/troll)

same here, do not send out friend requests...
heh there are people I have been chatting with for over a year, who are still not on my list, and when we both realize it, they send the request, not I

If I am busy, or working, and someone im's me, I just politely tell them I am busy or working (unless of course it is business related)

careful briana, you might be labeled as a psycho stalker LOL
(all because you feel friends should be able to see friends online)

for me, if I do not want someone to see me online, I just do not log in, simple enough

the thing is... even if you mark it so they do not see you online... a simple script in a prim, wear it on their hud, so no matter where they go, they will know when you log in

so, unticking that little choice, really doesn't do anything to keep you "hidden"

which is why I am not quite sure why the OP has such an issue with it *as I said... alt/troll*