Well I did it. Should have known better.

Someone asked in another thread why I would put someone on my friend's list on mute...here's a good reason.

After a bit of thought, I like this answer best and will therefore award the "answered my post" points to you.


oh wait, nvm, wrong forum

No. It's Wimbledon and Andy Murray is gonna be OUR Demi-God.
Oh, PLEASE Andy please dont f**k this up!!!!!!!

Yeah , we get it, dad.

MarcUSH ? Are you a drunken Roman?

my two $L's-

Even when it's over, the grieving part can and should be felt completely. Chatting with a friend earlier who was having some relationship ups and downs- scared to jump too far into the fire for fear of getting burned - having been in that fire, I can tell you there is definitely another side and you might as well sit and bask in the warmth of it now. "That which does not destroy me," etc. And what lies ahead can be so glorious.
So good fortune Jax, this too shall pass.

HA!


On the contrary, this is experience talking here.

Nah, just had a hard time picking a name at the time

I didn't come to SL imagining I would ever fall in love but I did. People are REAL here. You can tell much from their personalites from words and choices. And people REALLY do fall in love. The break up was horrible...SL misery. But I learned a lot and feel stronger for it. And there is light at the end of the tunnel. Good things will turn up again and maybe you won't forget that person but others will come along because for me, once you've been close with someone in SL, you'll want that again. SL I have found, is about relationships.

Jax - Suddenly this thread has meaning to me, especially this explanation. I wanted to ask you - Are you sure you have it right? I mean, did she say "take a hike"? Is it possible she just needed a break from the moment, and not from the relationship? Those are two very different scenarios, and would obviously hail two different outcomes.

I have great difficulty reading between the lines. People often think I am overly forward because I ask such pointed questions. But I have to, because EVERY TIME i assume, or draw conclusions without facts, I am wrong. Every time. Perhaps you are like me in this way. So, I wanted to advise you to think back, and determine if you two discussed in a way that assures you she really didn't want to deal with "right now" or if she actually meant "forever". (Right now is a passing moment. And it passes.)

I know if I was that girl, I would want to be asked straight out. It's been a couple of days now, so you should be able to approach the matter with a little less emotion and a little more logic. And, if you two haven't spoken since the incident, there is no way to know what she has been thinking and feeling and going through. Unless you ask her. For all you know, she could be crying her eyes out, feeling abandoned and helpless all this time too. Make sure you didn't falsely jump to conclusions. What a huge loss if your love was lost over a stupid miscommunication.

Wow, someone spent a lot of time just to be insensitive and cruel. Imagine if you used some of your time to be kind to others...

Jax, more people have had that happen to them than will ever admit it here or anywhere. It does sneak up on you and the ramifications can be huge in RL, because it IS RL. As long as real humans are manning the keyboards, it's real stuff. With real emotions. Best of luck moving forward.

Jax- it can't hurt to give it one more chance? Do what 3 suggests.. go ask the girl- god I would hate to think i screwed up somethng and didn't get a chance to fix it!

What makes you think I don't? See 3Ring's post above about drawing conclusions on the basis of ignorance. Perhaps you should visit more often so you are not posting in so much of a vacuum . . .

Pep ( . . . or stay away.)

PS Just in case 3Ring enters the other bipolar phase and recants, here is what she said:

When you are in a hole, stop digging.

Pep (The time to think is not after you have screwed up.)

I have something to say. Things appear to be worked out with the best of results. We are together again. She cleared up feelings she was confused about with the help of a friend. I have not visited this thread in a few days because we have been working it out and things now are better than they ever were. I want to thank everyone who gave me advice, I really appreciated being able to talk to some of you about it through this thread.

Thank you!
Jax

so happy for you, Jax.

now, go slow.

The ones who don't work out, you are better off without, is my experience.

It just never seems so at the moment.

Also remember there is a very real chemical addiction process in falling in love - and out of it, too.

/me hugz Jax and his girl and am happy things are working well - big smile

Good to hear Jax. Good luck.

Oh, I love a happy ending (Sniff... pass the tissues, please.)

Sometimes it's not possible.

Amen!!!!

Is that a reference to your forum tag?

Pep (Warsaw seems a long way to go to escape from Leamington Spa! )

"Escape From Leamington Spa" sounds like a new BBC thriller.

/me joins the Amen Section on this one!

So glad to hear things worked out for you, Jax. Thank you for letting us know.