Well I did it. Should have known better.

I got too close with someone in SL and my heart has been crushed. I guess I have learned my lesson. Feels just as real as RL. Just a warning to others that feelings can develop so fast in SL, even before you realize it. As a noob I found out the hard way.

Nah! prim penises are not that good yet!

*hugs*

Sorry to hear this.:hugs: Unfortunately, it happens. Just like in RL. I don't think it has anything to do with being a noob. Some SL relationships move way too fast. They are not all bad though. It's just a matter of finding the right person and taking it slow and steady. Not rushing into anything until you know the person well.

/me notes that Friday is coming earlier and earlier in the week.

Pep (Is it "Silly Season" yet?)

I'm so sorry. I've been online since the early '80's in one type of social venue or another (IRC/Yahoo Messenger/AOL, etc.) and have experienced it several times in varying degrees.

Your heart will mend, but be good to yourself in the meantime.

/me glares and sends you to your room

Now if I was Pep, I would start to get very turned on by all this attention.

Thanks for the kind responses. I'm just going to try to get right back into it and meet some new people. Otherwise I will just keep going over things in my head.

Depending on how long you knew the person,sometimes all you need to do is walk away from the computer for a day or two to clear your head. You might find some things in SL that remind you of the person and that would be counter productive. Just a thought.

The medium is different, but the feelings are the same. You'll get over it in time, just like if it were a RL relationship.

Yes, you could be right. I just don't want to let all of this ruin SL for me. I do have other people on here that I like to spend time with. Luckily we only have one mutual friend from what I remember.

I remember when I first came to SL,I met a guy. We were only together for two weeks and it wasn't even all that serious(er no sexxies). I found out he was married and was absolutely devastated for some reason.. It only took me about 2 days to get over away from the computer...:/ I think SL intensifies emotions more quickly than they should be.(If that makes any sense)

I agree (and yes).

You are so right. I can't believe how quickly. I never would have thought I would allow myself to get so close so fast. But we both did. It was an amazing experience, until the devastating end. Things were really instense between us. I guess thats why it hurts.

Well unfortunately, now you know. Next time,go slow and recognize it for what it is and not get caught up in the intense fantasy. Which is easier said than done sometimes... Good luck, and please don't leave SL over it. The feelings will pass,I promise you.

Thank you. I appreciate you taking the time to post this. Everyone else, thank you as well for listening. I have nobody to talk to in RL about this.

One day, you'll be able to look on it as a learning experience and not so painful. You take away a little more knowledge about yourself and are able to apply it in the future in a beneficial way. Good luck Jax.

Jax, you've only been on SL since June 9th, less than a month. I suggest you slow down.

Maybe put it in reverse for a bit.

Yes, you got that right. I will.

I met this person the second day I was on. From that point both of us were on pretty much every night with each other. Seems longer than it was.

It was hard to realize just how intense our feelings were toward each other and how they got that way so quickly.

None of you joined SL and was completely fascinated and awestruck at first? I know I was. I would stay on SL for hours and hours... It happens and you learn from it. Then you become bitter like me and are weary of everyone.

I've noticed that online relationships are just a lot harder to manage and understand than one-on-one ones in real life, especially when you don't use Skype or some other voice/video client. Text can just be too ambiguous at times!