Well I did it. Should have known better.

It is easy to get carried away.
Thing is, some people's avatars really are good looking. What is behind it thought could be anything.

I mean the special love you had in SL, in real life could be some old fat bald sweaty guy who lives in his parents basement and scratches himself and sniffs his fingers all the time

But I am sure his avatar was super good looking and his words captivated you.

Really, in SL, one does not fall in love with a person, one falls in love with a fantasy.

Consider this - even in real life people seldom fall in love. Love itself is often a fantasy, and thru a RPG, the concept of true love is further diluted.

Just rest assured that if you had to meet your true SL love in real life, you would probably be in shock like "THIS is the creature who made my heart melt?"

But yeah it is easy to get carried away in SL.

I've been on a year and a half almost and still haven't had a single relationship. I have a very fulfilling second life without that aspect. People that come to SL just to find someone are going to be often hurt methinks. There is so much else to do though. Take some time to smell the roses!

Try and get interested in some other aspect of SL - building, scripting, role playing, landscaping - even animating! Try whatever interests you and learn new skiils. Put your mind on something more worthwhile.

This is key, whether SL or RL.

? You don't remember ? Have your been drinking too much during your SL time?

This is also common for many of us -- so few of us have non-SL people in our lives that even come close to understanding SL and what it is to us.

I think many don't really come here looking for someone, but rather it happens simply because we are unprepared for what this place can invoke in us --- it hits us and wraps us up before we even realize it is happening. We live and learn, and hopefully grow from the experience.

That explains a lot!

Pep (All Jax own words. )

Very accurate. That describes what happened to me.

Easy to say in hindsight. Sometimes it's hard to do, though, especially when you are looking at it from a newbie's perspective.

It was meant more as advice than empathy. His only other post was about his concern over a friend who had become a blood doll. My advice still stands - slow down. That said, if he's looking for sympathy, he has obviously come to the right place.

Oh, the same person, is it?

Did she tell you to take a hike when you tried to help her?

This is the best advice we can give anyone here. It is very hard to do sometimes, but going slow is always the best approach - especially in all things related to SL.

It's a him and all I said was "There is only one thing you need to understand. Your friend is an adult playing a game that she can leave any time she wants."

You feel I am cold for advising him to slow down?

My second sentence was for the OP. I only quoted you as you pointed out it was the same OP as the bood doll thread.

All it takes it that one shining star to enter your life and set you spinning so fast you don't know what the heck is going on. I knew a person in SL who had never had a relationship here in her 2 years time and she met 1 person, unexpectedly, and that ended her 2 years of solo second life living.

I couldn't even fathom such a thing when i came to SL - i had seen marriages in EQ, but that was for THOSE people. And then came 1 avatar...

1 is all it takes.

No, it wasn't like that at all. She explained the blood doll thing to me and not to worry.

She told me to take a hike because she was falling for me and wasn't ready to deal with it right now. I believe her. Earlier in the day we discussed things and everything was fine, we were talking about things we wanted to do with each other in SL. She was saying all the right things early yesterday, but hours later she was the opposite. That turn of events in such a short time tore my heart out.

Oh, right on the money as usual LMJ.

When I was fresh and new, someone warned me that SL moves fast and to guard my heart. I was not really sure what that meant. Until it happened. Hindsight is 20|20.

Jax, just consider it an initiation. Take your time and get to know people. Never assume anything about them. And treat every romance like the precious thing it is, even if it does not end well.

Thanks Rhonda.

I apologize - I see the mixup now.



lol, now this sounds like human nature! At this point I can say I don't need anything like that but when you put it that way it sounds like so much fun

Jax, I have a special place in my heart for hopeless romantics but you are going to have a rough time in here if you keep up this pace

Oh, you have my sympathies as well. As I said, time will help.

And even after a year or two of being in SL, reading and posting in many threads like this, understanding the intensity and quickness that can happen in SL, it can still smack you upside the head suddenly and unexpectantly - don't ever assume you are or will be immune.

You are a twisted man Pep.. and I like that side of you.

.d

So does he.

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Aes