Starting a new second life? :)

I'm still not sure why you asked me.

because you are a lovely wise owl.

Yeah.

Vaughn. I think this is why you're encountering some resistance here. You seemed to be indicating hat you had a relationship with this woman that was beynd casual. Maybe you weren't partnered, but she considered herself your girlfriend, and that you just disappeared without any word to her at all. That was probably pretty hurtful to her. But you're posting like you're more concerned that you lost your inventory than that you hurt somebody. I know it might not have gone down like that, but one could easily get that impression from your posts.

If that's the case, though, then you don't really deserve to just totally get off the hook. She deserves a sincere apology from you and an explanation at the very least. Just starting a new account and hoping to erase the past is, frankly, a little self-centered and while you might get a little support, most of the people on here are women and they aren't generally going to be ok with your attitude.

I know if I was one of the old friends or girlfriend even I would want to be looked up. Just so I knew you were ok.

Well, I thot his answer to me on the gf thing was pretty OK so I'm still gonna send him an invite for the forum cartel. If he hasn't already gotten one. So there!

We can always use more DJ's, Vaughn!

I wouldn't. If I was the old gf and he popped back in to say "Hiya! Been gone for a while, but I'm back, and gosh I'm really sorry I dumped you way back when..." I'd tell him to go take a flying fuck and never talk to me again. Like, why even bother to look me up THAT much later? Jeez, dude.

[Edit: This is not to say that quitting and restarting SL isn't perfectly okay. I just wouldn't recommend looking up the old friends and gf. Life's easier without the drama.]

/me keeps her pants on an waves to Oryx in salute

Contact them. Don't be surprised when you find out some of them have poofed too. That's SL. People can poof and no one files a missing person's report with the police. No one cares.

No truer word slightly spoken in jest.

Contact her via notecard. Let her know what happened. Tell her the ball is in her court as to whether to rekindle things or not. But above all, be honest. You'd want the same courtesy.

You already know contacting her is the right thing to do, or you wouldn't have posted this thread on a forum she could easily read.

If she's pissed off that you dropped off the grid without a word, then so be it. Move on, as she should too. If she's a friend, she'll understand that RL comes before SL. If she wants to pick up where you left off, it's going to be with a new understanding of your relationship.

As someone who's had a similar situation happen in my real life, I can only tell you to be honest. With her, and yourself.

/me takes note of the OP's name so she can avoid any potential entanglements with yet another man who thinks it's OK to just disappear.

Vaughn, is that YOU!?

OMG where have you been all this time!? After three months I lost all hope... lost all direction... I... I... I deleted my avatar... ...and decided to come back as a curious little man that did nothing but work work work...

*incredibly emo moment*

...inventory... *sniff*... missing the inventory more... well that does it then, I'm staying as Des!

*puts on Donna Summer's "I will Survive" extended mix*

grin


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ps: *brilliant* way to start off a new reputation! hooo boy!

i think you should send the ex-gf a notecard letting her know that you didnt die afterall.
anything else is tasteless and lacking class.

she will understand he was willing to spend the effort cancelling the account, cancelling the email, cancelling skype, yet was too busy to tell her 'im leaving for rl for a tick'?
not likely mate.

My opinion? You're just attention seeking...*shrug*

Holy necroposting, Batman

anyway... I kinda looked at this, because it looked a wee familiar. But not quite Had a partner who dropped off the face of the earth in similar fashion. But he did at least give me the consideration of telling me in an email that he was going to do it. Didn't help that much, it still sucked, but eh, I am way over it and moved on down the tracks by now... but this is really the sort of thing I kinda dread. Him popping back into my SL life and just wanting to pick up where it all left off. And my having to say... No.

Speaking from the girlfriend angle... hm, well... this fella DOES really deserve being told to take a long walk off a short pier, and I wouldn't blame her one bit. She might be polite about it, but putting myself in another woman's shoes - I sure as hell wouldn't take him back. I would be quite likely to say "Hi, nice to see you again... thanks for telling me. Have a nice day. Goodbye." ... and nary a word to be heard from me again.

Anything less smacks of desperation and losing face on her end, completely.

erm... yeah, halloween thread coming back to life lol.

Okay she was "just" a girlfriend not a partner but your "best" friend. Certainly understand. Well I too know what its like when someone you had feelings for leaves the game abruptly, never to be seen again. Not my intention to cause "drama" here when I already know what it feels like being in that kinda "drama."

First relationship I had in second life ended with the guy disappearing into the blue.

I guess I should have known better, since he lived in some sort of hobo area at Abbotts Field, had no friends, no job. I invited him to live at my place, and he seemed really sweet. If it was a real life bad situation, he must have had some warning, and could have given me some warning that things were getting bad.

He knew this had happened to me before, and swore he would never do that.

Sure I moved on. Its over a year since he disappeared. I don't miss the bastard, but if he turned up again I wouldn't reply, but go looking for the "Kick in the nuts" animation. He is gone, but my feelings about this sort of behaviour remain.

The horridest part was the fact that every time i looked at my home it brought back the memories, and I finally sold the land, not wanting those bad associations.

I think this is the nastiest thing one avatar can do to another and I have no advice for the OP, so, sorry to be off topic, as this resident doesn't have an answer for you.

I agree with you Des, nice way for this guy to open his 'new second life'.

imogen