what is the average cost for a wedding??

I did.

Pep (If you didn't get it then perhaps the mailing list had you down as something else.)

I'd just like to add to my previous post - whether it's reasonable to desire a wedding ceremony is a separate question from whether it's a good idea to have one when you haven't known the person you're partnering very long.

I think it's very easy to be judgmental of people who form quick attachments in SL - I have been guilty of this myself. But it's not necessarily fair to presume that just because someone is rushing into partnering - where "rushing" may actually be defined as "partnering quicker than the critic did" - is deluding themselves.

Like all of you who have been around SL for a little while, I've seen people partner in what I would call unreasonably short order, and I've seen some of those relationships last and some of them end. And for the ones that ended, some people were devastated for a while and others just shrugged it off and moved on - turns out they weren't all that attached after all.

As to why someone who isn't all that attached in the first place would want a wedding, well that goes back to my previous post. Why not? There are all kinds of reasons people might want one.

I think you just confirmed everything I said about the wedding being entirely for the benefit of the female partner.

Pep (or in Madhu's case, both female partners. )

Madhu - "short order" is some people's fantasy.

More power to them that gets it, then.

We did that once - at the Hangout.

I'm grateful to this thread because it just gave me an idea: I may be able to drag my RL husband into SL for a wedding -- our wedding, I mean. The one we never had.

So, Jig, without your mean-spirited crack, I might never have had that inspiration.

There was one at the Hangout. I danced on the coffin with a chainsaw, and make everyone think the coffin was haunted. They finally removed the scripts in an attempt to stop it from opening and closing..

Yes - I've been to a funeral too. The av got in the coffin and the lid closed. The friends present said their goodbyes. Then the deceased logged out for the last time and cancelled their account.

EDIT:

Now I'm wondering whether she was driven to this by experiencing a sequence of marriage and divorce over and over again.

just jumpin in albeit a little off the original subject to say it makes me queasy when people try to mess with what sl is supposed to be for other people

if i want it to be fantasy, it can be fantasy, if i want it to be real, it can be real, if i want to mix the 2, i can, in whatever proportion i desire

to me, that is the wonder of sl . . .it can be anything you want it to, and their are no rules outside of TOS.

(hops off her soapbox)

(cue the violins and pass the tissues, but i really do mean that about the wonder of sl)

Thank Mickey for your supportive words. Key and others, thanks to you for your positive comments.

For the record, a lot of men heterosexual and non-heterosexual are very much involved in the wedding planning process and want it just as perfect as the bride.

There are many reasons to have a formal sl wedding ceremony as there many reasons not too. Again, it is one's choice.

I guess what surprised me the most and caused sadness was reading the backlash about having formal ceremonies. Personally, there are a lot of activities that people engage in that I don't agree with. I can post my opinion regarding their choices but I don't as it is not for me to judge them. To each is own.

It appears a double standard is emerging. It is OK for some to be judgemental, discouraging, sacrastic and ridicule others over THEIR choice. But heaven forbid if those same people are judged, discouraged. and ridiculed. They will be waving their "its my sl" flag and come out swinging in the forum.

I was "Married " In Sl once. My partner US and me well Im and Australian, our friends from all over so TZ was an issue. I and my Aussie friends had to be up at 4 am to have a time that fitted with my partner and the majority.
A friend set up her sim for us for the service cost $0, dress $100L and i can wear it as it was not a wedding dress. After party was held at another friends and a DJ played music for us as a gift again cost $0. Friend did the service and another friend took photos cost of both $0
So a nice "wedding" at very little expense and the longevity of the union ..... we are still together after 2 yrs. So no need for a planner we did it all ourselves, ask your friends who have been in SL a while but be sure you want to take the time and money if your going to partner someone after all it may be your imagination but why waste money on it just to have a flashy wedding if you dont know each other and it will end soon. Have a long engagement

Aw sable, don't feel sad. There isn't really any 'backlash', only people trying to show the OP that SL weddings don't necessarily have to cost much, and it's all a matter of choice. She did specifically say she hasn't got a lot of money to spend.

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Aes

Pretty much whatever you want it to be.

There are some very expensive gowns and there are some freebie gowns and I think a lot of the free ones are just as nice!

Also don't miss out on the wedding expo right now, it has a freebie table too.

Even people who aren't planning to take part in a wedding might go to the table there, cos it has some gowns lingerie and other things anyone can use (or many anyones.)

Right now it's featured on a freebie blog:

http://freebietelegraph.wordpress.com

(People reading this post later might need to page back on the blog. Just hit 'older posts' at the bottom if it is not on the main page any longer.)

I would've worked out something with her. We cater to people on a modest budget. Some of the suggestions were very creative and wonderful and I'm sure OP will appreciate them.

Other comments, well...........

I think the double standard is yours. You seem to be getting hung up on the posters not the posts. Even my teenage kids can differentiate between opinions on beliefs and opinions on the people holding those beliefs.

Pep (Are you *sure* those supportive grooms are actually male?)

@PEP

I respectfully ask that you mute me and I will mute you as well.

Dont pay any attention to Pep. He invites comment. When you are young and beautiful, people like Pep get grumpy. He's getting to "that age", as my Nanna would say.

Mind you, I kinda agree with him about weddings and stuff. I stay away from them in real. Next there will be invitations to "Birthing Parties" or some such nonsense.
Anyway, living in sin is much more fun.

Really a wedding here is just a game on a grand scale. Partnering is sensible - a friend - but getting hitched is kinda weirdly morbid I think. Especially those huge dresses which remind me of funeral homes.

Sound to me like you miss out on a lot of potential fun from up there on your high horse.

Hmm I sense a poll coming on...Can Jig possibly be more full of herself...

Probably, given half a chance.

Mind you, the ageism crap is getting really.. old.

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Aes

I can feel it too, but must be away for a while. But a poll would be nice. Not ageism here - although older folk do enjoy these white weddings.
Anyway, I like high horses.

Hurry up, grandma - don't miss the bus!

I respectfully ask that you desist from advertising^H^H^H^H^H^H^H^H^H^H^Hposting in the forums and I will then stop reading your posts.

Pep (It's an alternative. )

I saw opinions about whether or not a wedding was needed or sensible, etc.., in addition to the comments about the extravagance of one, but I never really saw anyone being bashed for their opinions.