what is the average cost for a wedding??

Unless your heart is really set on a ceremony for some reason, just go to the LL website and become partners and skip any ceremony. Give your rez date and therefore how fast you are jumping in to this, the chance are 99.99% that you will be divorced in a month. Sorry to bust your bubble, but that is the norm for something that happens that fast -- RL or SL.

Best advice ever. Maybe if it lasts more than a month or two,consider having a party to celebrate.

Ok, expensive and showy weddings are no less fun than the inexpensive ones.

Those that are DIYers, great and I'm glad it was wonderful and you are happy.

Those who say why bother, chances one will be divorced in a month or two. Well that happens. Much like irl, anything you do in sl is a chance.

But for those who want to utilize a wedding vendor for their wedding let them and don't be such a killjoy as some of these postings are which impacts my business.

It all depends on what the couple wants and what makes them happy.

Live and let live!!!!

aha - a month ago op posted she had 2 kids on the way a house and no land and was asking for land to use
maybe a wedding IS in order

I also benefit from weddings, as people regularly contact me about DJing the wedding and/or after party. I do see a lot of people break up within a month of getting married in sl, but many more tend to stick together for a pretty long time.

So it averages out.

I've seen weddings cost people real money in second life; like actual hundreds of dollars. I can't conceive of spending real money on what amounts to a virtual wedding, but hey if you want to spend that kind of money, I'm available to play for you

And RA is about giving honest answers and feedback to people - not about promoting a specific business or business type.

I've been to weddings where the couple did take extra thought and planning and expense, but mostly as a gesture and a gift for their friends to share in the celebration with them.

They didn't have to do so, in order for their friends to share....but it was a very nice gesture extended toward making their friends feel extra special and a part of their celebration. Kind of like serving lobster instead of hot dogs. Not necessary....but made for a very special treat and experience to treasure.

LOL - a bit backwards then. Welcome to SL.

Does anyone really think it is sensible to spend REAL money on a computer wedding? I have a partner in sl BUT never spent anything on a "marriage".

Their world, their imagination.

Some people enjoy the thrill. My partner and I have thought about renewing our real life vows in Second Life a few times, but neither of us really has the time or inclination to do it at the moment.

She did buy a wedding dress that fills an entire sim, I think. It's huge.

LittleMe I know what RA is about. If I were promoting my business I would not have sent OP a private im, I would've stated my rates in the open.

Now just like people took the time to provide honest answers and feedback to why NOT to, I can provide honest answers and feedback to as why one would.

It is a matter of ones tastes. I see throughout RA subtle promoting of business and busines types. The real estate market is a PRIME example.

But I will take the slap on the wrist for being honest.

My comment was specifically regarding your statement of "don't be such a killjoy as some of these postings are which impacts my business. " I do not have a problem with any of the rest of what you've posted. I should have been a bit more clear.

I left the wedding business in RL....when the cost of the weddings started approaching the cost of a small home. I think some of those people might be getting foreclosed on now, as they can't tap equity from the wedding ceremony.

All the more reason to pull off the elaborate wedding and fantasy here....or the extensive beach estate and mansion lifestyle fantasy....or the high rolling mega land developer fantasy.....or the rocking super playboy/playgirl club owner fantasy.

Your World. Your Imagination.

A small amount of money may purchase exactly that for about the cost of dinner and a movie several times a month, most of which is relatively harmless, (if you manage to avoid everyone else's personal neurosis slipping in the front door.) Which experience has more effect and which image lasts longer in your head? Dinner and Movie versus Month Long Fantasy (or longer).

Well it is a killjoy. I feel it is not any different than the postings surrounding Zindra, private estate ownership and mainland and the effect it has on folks in that line of work.

I would've edited to remove the "impacts my business" part. But the cow has been let out of the barn, so no need in trying to retrieve it. I still stand by my comment. Next time, I will generalize it.

During the time I've been in SL I've attended about 10 weddings, all very lovely and fun for me as a guest, which I'm sure varied in cost from almost nothing to probably a few thousand linden.

One was very simple, on the beach where the couple had their home; we all wore bathing suits and danced to their parcel stream after. One was completely lavish with all the trimmings; an official planner, the gowns, tuxes, venues and DJ, etc. The others fell somewhere in between. I personally love a wedding (in RL too) had a blast at them all and was flattered to be asked as a guest.

Bottom line is whatever your preference and style, you can certainly find it in SL. There's no dearth of planners, venues or whatever; but if you are going to do it up big, expect to pay some lindens. No one can really give you a clear estimate of cost as every case is unique.

Side note: Of all those couples, only one is still together (interestingly, the beach couple).

Also, I think I will keep my opinion of a wedding at such a young rez date to myself.

It's not a matter of if it is "sensible" or not. It's about choice and how an individual wants to enjoy their Second Life.

For that matter, the same question could be asked about buying clothing or hair or prefabs or whatever. Unless someone is SLiving solely in freebies, it's ALL real money, even if it's only a few dollars.

I've been the Pixie Preacher at two SL weddings.. and they both are still married after 2 years.

I've found that it helps to use a good epoxy on the wedding rings before they are put on the fingers..

You're right, Jig. No one should do anything unless it's sensible, frugal, and efficient.

In fact, I have a sign inside my front door that reads, "Is this trip necessary?"

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I know I sound sensible, and no doubt people will jump down my throat, but isnt a "wedding" with all the ceremonial entailed just a little too much even for sl? Do we have to bend over backwards for every imitation of real life? It's like adoption or birth etc. Why not have funerals also?
I wish the partners well, as sl is better with a friend and I divorced also once. But let's get more real in our fantasy world, shall we? I'm trying to do so.

No jumping down the throat from me. Only a profound sense of sadness that I am feeling from this thread.

Not half as sad as I feel for the poor bloke who gets dragged into something he has no interest in at all.

Pep (Heterosexual men have no desire whatsoever for commitment.)

I didn't know you were the spokesman for heterosexual men. You should have sent out a memo.

You don't sound sensible to me; you sound downright judgmental. What's it to you if someone else craves a formal wedding ceremony for whatever reason and satisfies that craving in SL?

What you're trying to do in your SL is really neither here nor there to what other people try to do in theirs.

For the record: I am not partnered in SL. If I ever do get partnered, I don't feel the need for a formal ceremony - but you can bet I'll throw a hell of party. And even though I don't need a ceremony, if the person I partner wants one, you can bet I'll give it to her. I can think of a dozen perfectly valid reasons why someone might enjoy being part of a formal commitment ceremony in SL.

Okay, I am one of those morons who wants to have a wedding in SL, and this is why:

I've been married three times in RL, and each time -- for good reason -- we just went to the judge or city hall or whatever and signed a contract. At the time it was the right thing to do.

But you know what? I would really like the whole thing: the pretty location, a sententious minister, music, doves, a ring, the most beautiful dress I can find... everything.

Some day my husband and I will do it in real life, but I don't know when we'll be able to.

So, what the hell is second life for, anyway, if it isn't to do things we can't do in real life?

Should I forego a beautiful experience just because it's not sensible? What if I go and spend a whole $50 on it? If I have the money and I want to spend it that way, does that mean there's something wrong with me?

I don't even care who the guy is. As long as he has a tall, good-looking avatar, and does what he's supposed to -- just for the ceremony -- I will be happy. All he has to do is stand there, say what he's supposed to say, pose for the pictures, and goodbye.

And Sable, when it comes time for it, I will give you a call.