Second Life Forums Archive - Managing RL and SL relationships

FD Spark

Prim & Texture Doodler

Join date: 30 Oct 2006

Posts: 4,697

12-09-2007 09:11

Jerks don't require specific gender or sexual orientation.
I know this from personal experience.
But I will say those with more more male hormones tend to exhibit certain
"Jerk" behavior

Be they butches or biological men.

_____________________

Look for my alt Dagon Xanith on Youtube.com

Newest video is

Loneliness by Duo Zikr DX's Alts & SL Art Death of Avatar

Isabeau Imako

P'tite Poulette

Join date: 13 Sep 2007

Posts: 2,335

12-09-2007 09:13

From: FD Spark

Jerks don't require specific gender or sexual orientation.
I know this from personal experience.

Very true FD!! I know a few 'jerkettes', too.

FD Spark

Prim & Texture Doodler

Join date: 30 Oct 2006

Posts: 4,697

12-09-2007 09:20

From: Isabeau Imako

Very true FD!! I know a few 'jerkettes', too.

I have lived as Male for over fifteen years.
In my former life I lived as female for long time. I never really got what guys
went through until after my transistion and hormonal changes.
Some of worse experiences I must say around deal with jerks were female.
Yet I was equally uncomfortable with the male jerks too.
I was always thought women for some reason should be smarter then the guys.
Guys get really stupid when their hormonal surges get the best of them.
Mix with that with certain cultural allowances Men are allowed to do or behave like it
can also create jerky behavior.
Some men are taught not to be empathic and just be takers. Sex and sexual conquest equals being productive as male.
Sadly its a culture thing.
When women do this type of jerk behavior which is equally sometimes unpleasant they are called *itches..or worse.

_____________________

Look for my alt Dagon Xanith on Youtube.com

Newest video is

Loneliness by Duo Zikr DX's Alts & SL Art Death of Avatar

Cherry Czervik

Came To Her Senses

Join date: 18 Feb 2006

Posts: 3,680

12-09-2007 09:57

From: Monalisa Robbiani

Back then we had text chat, and that was very real, so real that I ended up marrying my ICQ partner. So please don't tell me an SL wedding is "just a game". I know many many couples on SL that became RL couples, and I am very happy for them. It can become very real, much more real than text chat!

QFT

I know a lot of people who got together - or consolidated a RL relationship - via IRC. Some of these didn't last, some did, about the same proportion as people who met anywhere else really.

Cherry Czervik

Came To Her Senses

Join date: 18 Feb 2006

Posts: 3,680

12-09-2007 10:00

From: FD Spark

Jerks don't require specific gender or sexual orientation.
I know this from personal experience.
But I will say those with more more male hormones tend to exhibit certain
"Jerk" behavior

Be they butches or biological men.

I find this interesting FD and also thanks for sharing your life with us.

I'm not sure I'd agree that more male hormones in a woman automatically manifests as being butch ... I know lots of straight women who have polycystic ovarian syndrome, for instance, who have a higher level of testosterone than the average woman and who certainly have HEALTH issues but not necessarily are morons as a result. Quite the contrary.

Ricardo Harris

Registered User

Join date: 1 Apr 2006

Posts: 1,944

12-09-2007 15:48

Hey, Carl,

Get your own punching bag.

The nerve of you. /Sits back laughing.

Oryx Tempel

Registered User

Join date: 8 Nov 2006

Posts: 7,663

12-09-2007 17:05

From: Susie Boffin

Football and baseball are games too so wait until I tell my my husband they aren't real and he can stop taking them so seriously.

Too true! LOL!

/me shakes Susie's hand.

_____________________

FD Spark

Prim & Texture Doodler

Join date: 30 Oct 2006

Posts: 4,697

12-09-2007 17:18

From: Cherry Czervik

I find this interesting FD and also thanks for sharing your life with us.

I'm not sure I'd agree that more male hormones in a woman automatically manifests as being butch ... I know lots of straight women who have polycystic ovarian syndrome, for instance, who have a higher level of testosterone than the average woman and who certainly have HEALTH issues but not necessarily are morons as a result. Quite the contrary.

Male hormones do effect the brain regardless of gender or sexual orientation.
Same with female hormones. Of course there can be other factors.
Men with higher female hormones sometimes find that they cry and become more emotional.
Women with higher male hormones can become more complusive, aggressive, more preoccupied with sex which sometimes can lead to what is traditional called jerk like behavior.
Straight women can be butch too. I am just saying that sometimes their is factor with our hormones that cause certain behaviors be it bonding or being overly sexual,etc.
This is just from personal observations but it isn't the case for everyone either.
I have female friends with polycystic ovarian syndrome often it causes more masculinization then traditional female, and it can effect behaviors. Being moron isn't gender specific thing but sometimes our needs and life factors determine this moron type behavior...sometimes its influenced by hormonal urges. Is all that I am saying.

_____________________

Look for my alt Dagon Xanith on Youtube.com

Newest video is

Loneliness by Duo Zikr DX's Alts & SL Art Death of Avatar

Angelique LaFollette

Registered User

Join date: 17 Jun 2004

Posts: 1,595

12-09-2007 17:32

From: Conan Godwin

That doesn't sound practical at all.
What if she telephones me?

Call Display.

A.

Angelique LaFollette

Registered User

Join date: 17 Jun 2004

Posts: 1,595

12-09-2007 17:43

From: Cherry Czervik

I find this interesting FD and also thanks for sharing your life with us.

I'm not sure I'd agree that more male hormones in a woman automatically manifests as being butch ... I know lots of straight women who have polycystic ovarian syndrome, for instance, who have a higher level of testosterone than the average woman and who certainly have HEALTH issues but not necessarily are morons as a result. Quite the contrary.

And,, i've known my sexual orientation as long as i've Felt Desire, and my Medical tests show a Completely Normal feminine balance of Hormones, Thank you very much.

Being Gay isn't a Disease, or an imbalance, or a psychological Syndrome that can be Cured. It's what we are, and what we were born to be.
I Grant you, after a lifetime of Disappointments with Men, some Women Do take on the lesbian Lifestyle, I know quite a Few, But they Honestly still feel the old heterosexual itch if the right Type of man comes along. They aren't gay, they're just on vacation.

Angel.

Void Singer

Int vSelf = Sing(void);

Join date: 24 Sep 2005

Posts: 6,973

12-09-2007 19:50

honestly I can't see why it's so hard for some people to manage relationships, how do you manage friendships at all? by spending the time that's available with the people you want to, when it's available, or by prioritizing at the moment... it's really not rocket science.

@Susie:
point well taken, just because the medium of interaction is a 'game', doesn't make the interaction less real for the people involved.

@conan

From: Conan Godwin

6 years.
She's boring, but so are all women, and not having a female spouse makes producing an heir (the only benefit a man gains from a relationship) problematic.

this explains so much...

From: someone

Naturally I have sufficient tact not to communicate to her how dull I find her[...]

oh good, at least you show tact SOMEWHERE... ( I could only wish it were here ) :

hrug::

_____________________

|
| . "Cat-Like Typing Detected"
| . This post may contain errors in logic, spelling, and
| . grammar known to the SL populace to cause confusion
|
| - Please Use PHP tags when posting scripts/code, Thanks.
| - Can't See PHP or URL Tags Correctly? Check Out This Link...
| -

Wynter Llewellyn

Registered User

Join date: 31 Jul 2007

Posts: 28

sLove is wonderful...

12-12-2007 12:38

Wow, I am shocked just shocked! Here I was thinking I was a FREAK for having emotional issues surrounding a recent SL relationship! HHHAAAA at least it is good to know everyone seems to be having similar experiences.

Also a little odd that just as in RL you either click with someone in SL or you don't... has this happened to anyone?

My first SL relationship was emotional and I had VERY physical reaction to things that happened in SL... it has amazed me. Stunned me in fact! Who knew it was possible? I would never be so open and honest and uninhibited in RL, and yeah that may be a little sad, but I can deal with it.

I refuse to have any regrets about anything I personally chose to do in RL or SL, the other person should have no regrets at all either. You have the choice, you make the decisions, no one else. I would never intentionally hurt anyone if at all possible, but we know in life... any life... that it doesn't always work out that way.

Our time is so limited- I will be happy with any love, sLove, and friendships that come my way.

Elgyfu Wishbringer

The Pootler

Join date: 27 Nov 2004

Posts: 659

12-12-2007 14:31

My SL partner is also my RL girlfriend.

I am one lucky lady

_____________________

Tin Teddy - a beautiful island full of unique prefabs, high quality, original 3 & 1 prim plants, animated animals and much more.
Elgyfu's Egyptian Emporium - SL's premier store for Ancient Egyptian artifacts, since 2004.

Managing RL and SL relationships
FD Spark Prim & Texture Doodler Join date: 30 Oct 2006 Posts: 4,697	12-09-2007 09:11 Jerks don't require specific gender or sexual orientation. I know this from personal experience. But I will say those with more more male hormones tend to exhibit certain "Jerk" behavior Be they butches or biological men. _____________________ Look for my alt Dagon Xanith on Youtube.com Newest video is Loneliness by Duo Zikr DX's Alts & SL Art Death of Avatar
Isabeau Imako P'tite Poulette Join date: 13 Sep 2007 Posts: 2,335	12-09-2007 09:13 From: FD Spark Jerks don't require specific gender or sexual orientation. I know this from personal experience. Very true FD!! I know a few 'jerkettes', too.
FD Spark Prim & Texture Doodler Join date: 30 Oct 2006 Posts: 4,697	12-09-2007 09:20 From: Isabeau Imako Very true FD!! I know a few 'jerkettes', too. I have lived as Male for over fifteen years. In my former life I lived as female for long time. I never really got what guys went through until after my transistion and hormonal changes. Some of worse experiences I must say around deal with jerks were female. Yet I was equally uncomfortable with the male jerks too. I was always thought women for some reason should be smarter then the guys. Guys get really stupid when their hormonal surges get the best of them. Mix with that with certain cultural allowances Men are allowed to do or behave like it can also create jerky behavior. Some men are taught not to be empathic and just be takers. Sex and sexual conquest equals being productive as male. Sadly its a culture thing. When women do this type of jerk behavior which is equally sometimes unpleasant they are called *itches..or worse. _____________________ Look for my alt Dagon Xanith on Youtube.com Newest video is Loneliness by Duo Zikr DX's Alts & SL Art Death of Avatar
Cherry Czervik Came To Her Senses Join date: 18 Feb 2006 Posts: 3,680	12-09-2007 09:57 From: Monalisa Robbiani Back then we had text chat, and that was very real, so real that I ended up marrying my ICQ partner. So please don't tell me an SL wedding is "just a game". I know many many couples on SL that became RL couples, and I am very happy for them. It can become very real, much more real than text chat! QFT I know a lot of people who got together - or consolidated a RL relationship - via IRC. Some of these didn't last, some did, about the same proportion as people who met anywhere else really.
Cherry Czervik Came To Her Senses Join date: 18 Feb 2006 Posts: 3,680	12-09-2007 10:00 From: FD Spark Jerks don't require specific gender or sexual orientation. I know this from personal experience. But I will say those with more more male hormones tend to exhibit certain "Jerk" behavior Be they butches or biological men. I find this interesting FD and also thanks for sharing your life with us. I'm not sure I'd agree that more male hormones in a woman automatically manifests as being butch ... I know lots of straight women who have polycystic ovarian syndrome, for instance, who have a higher level of testosterone than the average woman and who certainly have HEALTH issues but not necessarily are morons as a result. Quite the contrary.
Ricardo Harris Registered User Join date: 1 Apr 2006 Posts: 1,944	12-09-2007 15:48 Hey, Carl, Get your own punching bag. The nerve of you. /Sits back laughing.
Oryx Tempel Registered User Join date: 8 Nov 2006 Posts: 7,663	12-09-2007 17:05 From: Susie Boffin Football and baseball are games too so wait until I tell my my husband they aren't real and he can stop taking them so seriously. Too true! LOL! /me shakes Susie's hand. _____________________
FD Spark Prim & Texture Doodler Join date: 30 Oct 2006 Posts: 4,697	12-09-2007 17:18 From: Cherry Czervik I find this interesting FD and also thanks for sharing your life with us. I'm not sure I'd agree that more male hormones in a woman automatically manifests as being butch ... I know lots of straight women who have polycystic ovarian syndrome, for instance, who have a higher level of testosterone than the average woman and who certainly have HEALTH issues but not necessarily are morons as a result. Quite the contrary. Male hormones do effect the brain regardless of gender or sexual orientation. Same with female hormones. Of course there can be other factors. Men with higher female hormones sometimes find that they cry and become more emotional. Women with higher male hormones can become more complusive, aggressive, more preoccupied with sex which sometimes can lead to what is traditional called jerk like behavior. Straight women can be butch too. I am just saying that sometimes their is factor with our hormones that cause certain behaviors be it bonding or being overly sexual,etc. This is just from personal observations but it isn't the case for everyone either. I have female friends with polycystic ovarian syndrome often it causes more masculinization then traditional female, and it can effect behaviors. Being moron isn't gender specific thing but sometimes our needs and life factors determine this moron type behavior...sometimes its influenced by hormonal urges. Is all that I am saying. _____________________ Look for my alt Dagon Xanith on Youtube.com Newest video is Loneliness by Duo Zikr DX's Alts & SL Art Death of Avatar
Angelique LaFollette Registered User Join date: 17 Jun 2004 Posts: 1,595	12-09-2007 17:32 From: Conan Godwin That doesn't sound practical at all. What if she telephones me? Call Display. A.
Angelique LaFollette Registered User Join date: 17 Jun 2004 Posts: 1,595	12-09-2007 17:43 From: Cherry Czervik I find this interesting FD and also thanks for sharing your life with us. I'm not sure I'd agree that more male hormones in a woman automatically manifests as being butch ... I know lots of straight women who have polycystic ovarian syndrome, for instance, who have a higher level of testosterone than the average woman and who certainly have HEALTH issues but not necessarily are morons as a result. Quite the contrary. And,, i've known my sexual orientation as long as i've Felt Desire, and my Medical tests show a Completely Normal feminine balance of Hormones, Thank you very much. Being Gay isn't a Disease, or an imbalance, or a psychological Syndrome that can be Cured. It's what we are, and what we were born to be. I Grant you, after a lifetime of Disappointments with Men, some Women Do take on the lesbian Lifestyle, I know quite a Few, But they Honestly still feel the old heterosexual itch if the right Type of man comes along. They aren't gay, they're just on vacation. Angel.
Void Singer Int vSelf = Sing(void); Join date: 24 Sep 2005 Posts: 6,973	12-09-2007 19:50 honestly I can't see why it's so hard for some people to manage relationships, how do you manage friendships at all? by spending the time that's available with the people you want to, when it's available, or by prioritizing at the moment... it's really not rocket science. @Susie: point well taken, just because the medium of interaction is a 'game', doesn't make the interaction less real for the people involved. @conan From: Conan Godwin 6 years. She's boring, but so are all women, and not having a female spouse makes producing an heir (the only benefit a man gains from a relationship) problematic. this explains so much... From: someone Naturally I have sufficient tact not to communicate to her how dull I find her[...] oh good, at least you show tact SOMEWHERE... ( I could only wish it were here ) :hrug:: _____________________ \| \| . "Cat-Like Typing Detected" \| . This post may contain errors in logic, spelling, and \| . grammar known to the SL populace to cause confusion \| \| - Please Use PHP tags when posting scripts/code, Thanks. \| - Can't See PHP or URL Tags Correctly? Check Out This Link... \| -
Wynter Llewellyn Registered User Join date: 31 Jul 2007 Posts: 28	sLove is wonderful... 12-12-2007 12:38 Wow, I am shocked just shocked! Here I was thinking I was a FREAK for having emotional issues surrounding a recent SL relationship! HHHAAAA at least it is good to know everyone seems to be having similar experiences. Also a little odd that just as in RL you either click with someone in SL or you don't... has this happened to anyone? My first SL relationship was emotional and I had VERY physical reaction to things that happened in SL... it has amazed me. Stunned me in fact! Who knew it was possible? I would never be so open and honest and uninhibited in RL, and yeah that may be a little sad, but I can deal with it. I refuse to have any regrets about anything I personally chose to do in RL or SL, the other person should have no regrets at all either. You have the choice, you make the decisions, no one else. I would never intentionally hurt anyone if at all possible, but we know in life... any life... that it doesn't always work out that way. Our time is so limited- I will be happy with any love, sLove, and friendships that come my way.
Elgyfu Wishbringer The Pootler Join date: 27 Nov 2004 Posts: 659	12-12-2007 14:31 My SL partner is also my RL girlfriend. I am one lucky lady _____________________ Tin Teddy - a beautiful island full of unique prefabs, high quality, original 3 & 1 prim plants, animated animals and much more. Elgyfu's Egyptian Emporium - SL's premier store for Ancient Egyptian artifacts, since 2004.

Welcome to the Second Life Forums Archive

Managing RL and SL relationships