Meeting People in SL?

Lots of good advices here; as folks have said just be yourself and make friends as you are able to do, and life may surprise you.

I met my girlfriend at a bar we both spent a lot of time at that has a theme and a crowd we enjoy. If you have places like that you enjoy going, keep doing that, become a regular, and you will meet lots of like-minded folks who find their way there over time.

I can't help you much with specifics on meeting men - but a good friend of mine seems to meet a lot of nice fellows by hanging around formal dance places looking cute, sorting inventory or IMing her friends in other parts of the grid, and she gets asked to dance a lot and often ends up chatting with interesting guys.

I've met some of my dearest friends in SL through the Forum Cartel.

Why don't you head over to the Undying Thread? Eli will almost certainly hit on you if he thinks you are female, available and not dead yet. Actually, scrap that last qualification.

Pep (I've heard he's looking to upgrade from 3Ring. )

I have another suggestion. Just take the fast route and decide to become a lesbian. That will probably save about six months trying to find a bloke, then living the drama of finding out that he's got another couple of women on the side using alts, him disappearing and his "brother" sending you an email telling you he died when a piece of the Space Shuttle fell on his head, and you having a nervous breakdown after posting your story here and getting little sympathy.

Pep (There are lots of women-only places in SL; in fact, they are probably your best bet to meet a man. )

Another suggestion. I have a window of opportunity open during the time you are around. If you send me some naked pictures and your webcam address I'd be happy to audition you for a place in my harem. I have references of course. Ask anybody here about my sensitivity and empathy.

Pep (Can I call you Belly?)

"Salacious" and "White Chicks For Black D***s" are very welcoming to attractive and enthusiastic female newcomers.

Pep (If you appreciate the more mature man, then Dirty Old Men^H^H^H^H^H^H^^H^H^H^H^H^H^HOlder Men Rock group might suit you; it's surprisingly active. )

Making up for the holiday?

I would echo this by pointing out that I have also been involved with several rl marriage breakups and/or divorces myself following relationships clandestinely initiated in sl which have converted to rl.

Pep (It's so much fun and so easy to trade in the old for new! )

Where I spent most of it!

Pep (A change is as good as a rest. )

I met my partner through friends in second life, we had spoke to each other on and off for 3 or 4 months and then I realised that in real life she must be quite insane, so I arranged to meet her at a party in NYC, I'm from the UK, she is from the US. The party wasn't for a while so we had a couple of months to get to know each other in SL first. In that time discovered we had a lot in common, the insanity for certain and when I met her in real life we got on so very well. In the past 18 months we have traveled to meet each other about 7 times now, though I guess that's probably going one step further than you want to go, but just saying, meeting someone really amazing if you take your time is possible.

wow you met people in alot of interesting ways

Ok so common interests, hmmm well i guess for clubs i'm very into anything in the top 40 but i also am a huge 80's fan (80's baby) , i'm also a bit of a anime and manga nut and i love to read but mainly paranormal style romance novels.

To be honest i'm not really into all that exploring, i'd get bored within a matter of minutes, i like to be in crowds aswell i'm a bit of a conversation watcher. I might jump in when i'm in the mood some days but not very often as i'm quite shy at times. I'll hang out at the cartel and i'll try a few of those formal dance locations.

Ok so any recommendations on good formal dresses lol and good locations?

P.S

Pep lol, i'll hit the undying thread aswell, you never know ^^
Hmmmm a lesbian you say well i am kinda into woman aswell so i'll keep that option open
lol harem, lol. Thanks for the offer but ummm no thanks *runs of laughing about men and harems*

That set of interests rings a bell! Did you recently post something similar under another name? I remember putting someone in touch with Immy as a result.

Pep (If so, the advice couldn't have worked!)

I hope you are speaking for yourself here because if you are implying I left my ex for my present relationship, you are completely incorrect. That relationship was long dead before I met him.

I meet dead people!

Hmmm no that wasn't me, i've only had 2 accounts on SL, this one and another which i left last year, RL problems pulled me away, you may have known my old account as i used to use these forums quite regulary as Rhianna Larkham but recently no that wasn't me.

Oh and i love party's if there is one and i'm still online i'd love to attend, i'm in the UK so can only be online till about 5pm ish.

You meet dead people, you mean you hang around grave yards.. weird lol.

Or dressed as one!

yes and that ^^

I would really agree that the best way to find someone like that is not to be looking for them.

(I think this applies to RL too, in fact)

Just hang out, get to know people and see what develops, would be my advice.

Good luck!

What's a paranormal romance novel?

And as for meeting people in SL, I would agree with others that you should seek out stuff that you're interested in because there are all sorts of groups and events that cater to all sorts of interests from the common to obscure. For example, there's a big sailing community with lots of events in SL, sit around and chat while 7Seas fishing, or you could take building classes to unleash your creativity etc. If you're a bit shy to begin with, going with what you're interested in at least gives you an initial topic of conversation and a common bond, so it's a good start to meeting friends and seeing where that goes.

Mmmmm paranormal romances are about romances about Ghosts, vampires, werewolves, shapeshifters etc. Stuff like that. Think Sherrilyn Kenyon, Amanda Ashley and Christine Feehan.

I'll try some of the suggestions, i actually have the 7seas stuff but never been to a event and i don't really play it all that much either lol. Like i say i like going to clubs so maybe i'll try hanging around a few dance areas and i'll definently pop on over to the Hangout inworld.

Don't worry - soon you will have to drive them away!

Then you'll be agonizing as you try to decide between the guy you really like who isn't on that often and the guy who is just okay but always around.

I think you did a good thing in joining the undying thread ("Just Ignore This One and Let it Die" - it's a good way to hear about stuff that's happening and get to know some people.

Hanging around the Forum Cartel Hangout can be hit or miss. Sometimes you can a nice crowd there, and other times it's empty. When I find it empty, I wait a bit, organize my inventory for about five minutes, and if no one shows up, leave. Because some people are using the HUD, they don't show up unless someone is there already. So I try to be the "someone there already" and it often works.

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Maybe you should try doing some RP stuff with your interest in paranormal stuff, although I have no real suggestions for places to go in that regard. At the 7Seas store, there are usually people fishing on the docks, and I think there is 7Seas at the hangout.

When I saw you pop up there I was trying to think of a way to warn you about Pep, but I see you've already gotten a good dose of him.

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lol i'll keep my fingers crossed for that too happen, i'll be back for sure to the hangout and i've added the hud to my ao so i know when people are there

I've tried some of the roleplays with vamps but not been interested in any to be honest. I like roleplay don't get me wrong but alot i've come across are pretty dead or not even roleplay. The best roleplay i've watched was while in a Gorean Sim.

OMG the 'Advice on Sales' OP? Hi! I looked for your store after those posts but it appeared you had left SL. Welcome back as Belinda........

lol yea that was me way back when, i'd been having alot of issues in RL and just in the end gave up and left SL. I wasn't actually especting to come back but i kinda needed a break from all the drama in my RL at the moment lol.