Meeting People in SL?

Ok without sounding totally needy or desparate. I have a question for people on here that have partners, i'm finding myself more looking for someone to spend my SL with but not having luck. I've tried a couple of dating agencys, a web based agency for SL with no luck either. All i seem to be meeting are people i make really good friends with or people who just are after a f**k buddy basically.

So people how did you meet your partners, if you used a dating agency which did you use that worked.

So any tips would be amazing.

Thanks

Belinda- I am a very happy girl ) and the men that have decided they are pleased to share their SL with me, I met right here.

I have met folks in clubs and just on walk about in SL- but, those I hold closest to me, those I can joyfully say I love and love me- I gratefully met right here in these forums.

And... it is easier to find that which you do not seek.

Welcome to SL - Good luck -

Hello Amarathin, i'll stick around the forums and meet some people or try too at least lol.
I've tried to meet people in clubs but i find it hard because i work as a dancer they assume the worst really and i'm not really into casual sex or anything. I've done that in the past and just not me.

I'll try not looking for anything see if that helps .

Thanks Amarathin

These are the ones that will make the best partner, but you have to give it time. And just like RL, for some reason, the more you look for it, the less likely you will find that *match*.

Wait a minute... you mean there's sex in sl?

mhm it's looking like that lol. I guess i'll just stop looking for it and wait for it too come to me, only problem is i have the worst kind of paitence lol.

lol Damien, of course there is

Met mine with out looking It just happened over a pair of glasses lol.

lol cool, i've never yet seen many men out when i've been shopping and if i do they are with a woman lol.

haha well I asked for help on group chat to find a pair of glasses and he was kind enough to meet me and well the rest is history.

cool, i am joined to a few of the groups not that i really talk in them much lol.

Join some fun inworld groups - like The Forum Cartel -- or others that see to share your interests.

Wander to The Forum Cartel's inworld Hangout sometime and grab the HUD off of the freebie shelves. That will show you when people are at the Hangout so you know when to pop in -- we haz some really great guys.

Does she need an invite, or is it back to open enrollment?

I'm actually joined to the Forum Group, i've just never really joined in the conversations. I'm not the type of person to just jump in lol.

I'll pop on over to the forum cartel but i would imagine it's not very busy when i'm online and i'm usually working from about 2pm SL time till i go to bed but i'll try not to work everyday lol.

The advice to find it by not looking sounds all Zen-like, but it works.

Just be yourself, make friends, join groups, talk to strangers. When you least expect it...WHAM.

Um, yeah. That is true. Its weird how that works.

Ok, i'll be all Zen Like and follow advice, could you recommend any good groups other than the forum cartel?

Agreed.

I met my partner while we were both exploring the same sim, both of us on our own. Being painfully shy (believe it or not), she approached me first, or I would never have said a word to her.

I was fairly young in SL and absolutely petrified to meet people because everyone wanted to meet for sex -- or so it seemed. /me chuckles I was very much in the heightened phase of exploring this shiny new world and honestly, exploring virtual worlds interested me far more than virtual sex (I'm a real geek at heart -- hence my social awkwardness). I even went so far as to have "I am not interested in sexual congress" in my profile for the longest time.

In any event, she spoke a few words to me, and I with her and we went our separate ways. I watched her leave, down a path, and kept watching as she turned a corner... and then she backed up as if to take another look at me. It made me laugh in RL, because it did seem so very real. And then she vanished.

Later that night I think she IMd me about being in Caledon Victoria City, trying to find the train. Ah ha -- what a great lead in. The gentleman can now strut his stuff, and of course we had to friend one another so that she could TP me to her location.

We explored the sim together, found the train and together learned the fine art of right clicking and sitting on moving objects!

Great! A girl who likes trains and vehicles and Victorian history! So a few days later I went out and bought a Victorian bicycle for two and invited her for a ride through Caledon (then maybe a dozen sims or so).

And that was how it began for myself. I was not looking, it just happened. And perhaps it will happen for you as well.

Personally, I think just exploring sims that interest you may be the best way. Others exploring those same sims will at least have the same interests as you and that's a good foundation for a relationship.

I think it's because when people drop the mask, they can find the one who is really suitable for them. Mask wearers get a partner who suits - the mask.

So, don't be uptight and putting on your best behavior. Just be you.

The person I am with and have been for over 2 yrs now lived next door in SL. We did not get on at first in fact we had a love hate R/S. Neither of us were looking for a partner but we seem to have found a desire in each other that has held us together over time. You may find the one your looking for is where you least expect them to be

i think the big thing is doing things that really interest YOU in SL, find groups or events that mirror your RL, then people you meet at these events or happenings will share some of the same interests as you do.

my SL partner, who i met my 4th year into SL became my RL partner and we have been together now since 2007.

we met in my folk club, he is a musician. so we met with a very stong interest in the same type of music...the rest was a natural : )

lizzie

Great advice from everyone so far and I'll just echo it all.

You can't force it. What will be, will be. Making friends, having a good time should be your priority and *if* someone special arrives, even better.

I met my BF here on the Forum, like others. Also, like some others, we eventually met in RL and now live together there as well. We've been together just over a year in SL, and about to be a year in RL. I wasn't looking for someone to hook up with at all, it just started as a silly flirtation on a Thread here and snowballed into meeting inworld, discovering we had a lot in common, and so forth. No different from how things go elsewhere.

You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders, so don't stress it. Come on by the Cartel Hangout sometime, we're all very friendly and when a group is there it's a lot of fun and a great way to make new friends. And, you never know what might become from any friendship, anywhere

I met my partner when I was Djing at a club he was the security at.... I asked him jokingly to be my body guard.
we will be celebrating our 3rd year RL anniversary in April of 2010...
We met in aug 06 in SL...

Neither of us were looking for anything such as what we found, we were just being ourselves, having fun, being silly, and... well as one poster said... WHAM... it happened

Yah for us it just well happened. Didnt look for it didnt really necessarily want it but it did (Sorry baby)

But it just happens.

And well 18 months and counting lol.

So best adivise like everyone has been saying basically is just relax enjoy yourself and it will be.

Oh yeah, and isn't there a party in the works for tomorrow night that she could attend? Might as well jump in with both feet Belinda

Still in the search so many to choose from