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MoiselleErin Teardrop
Fat p00n!t4r
Join date: 13 Nov 2008
Posts: 125
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02-15-2009 10:47
From: Imnotgoing Sideways
1> Are all your friends on your friends list?
A - I have a few acquaintances that I talk with on a regular basis that are not on my list but I always know where to find them in world.
2> Do you have names on your friends list that make you wonder, "Who is that?"
A - I have before but usually I either make notes of them or just remove them.
3> Does quantity matter to you? If so, are you comfortable with a small list of caring friends that you would drop the world for? Or, are you happier with a big list so that you don't have to be concerned about being alone at any time of the day?
A - I would rather have a small list of good friends, I would prefer less actually, more love for less people.
4> Reaction to 2, how often do you drop names from your friends list? And, how often does it result in a offended, disappointed, confused IM?
A - Usually when I drop their name it is cause I never hear from them, UNLESS I know they are not on much or they cannot be, in such case I keep them.
And yes a couple times I have dropped someone and they got mad but I didn't care cause they were boring to talk to, as in, they could not keep up their end of the chat.
5> Reaction to 4, how often do you find a name disappear from your friends list? And, how do you react to it?
A - I probably would not notice unless it is someone I talk to a lot. Otherwise i wouldn't care.
6> Map access: Who gets it? Why?
A - NO one! I have a different relationship with each person I talk to in SL and I don't need certain people seeing me in certain situations. My actions my business. You wanna come with me, let me TP off the dirty island and go safely to some G place like NCI.
7> Are there any "Untouchables"? Friends that would be the kill-all/end-all if they were to ever be dropped from your list?
A - I do have a few solid friends that I just won't drop unless things got really whack. Probably 3 or 4, like Immy does.
Like RL, some "friends" are just passing "hello good bye" people and some are solid, keep in mind that good friends are hard to come by, I think MOST SL'ers have like 1 real friend for each 10 friends in the friendship list. It is normal. |
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Imnotgoing Sideways
Can't outlaw cute! =^-^=
Join date: 17 Nov 2007
Posts: 4,694
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02-15-2009 12:28
From: Jesse Barnett I think it is more of a case of:
Researchers, if you want all of your survey questions answered with a lot of participants:
1) Create a precocious, naughty child avatar and endear yourself to everyone in the forums.
2)Create a cute sig.
3)Both help countless people by answering questions here and add a bit of levity by injecting humorous responses every now and then.
4)Get yourself in trouble with the Lindens a couple of times to develop a larger fan base.
5)Successfully balance some outrageous behaviour without crossing over into the obnoxious.
6)Radically alter your appearance to that of a more mature but still cute and vaguely Lolita-ish type avatar.
7)Post Survey. OMG! That was the laugh I needed all month! XD Actually, yeah, I'm a bit surprised and quite thankful for the responses I got so far as well. I'm still working out a lot of feelings in regards to my friends and how I'm treating them. I can't thank the people in this forum enough and I must say, this group is also an extension of my un-listed friends. I'm glad I'm tolerated here and I'm glowing over how appreciated I feel. (^_^) Though... As a sure-fire recipe to get your survey filled out, I'd suggest against it. The resulting therapy sessions that come with a year's worth of spilling your deviant guts out on the internet won't be very fun at all. (>_<  (^_^)y |
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Czari Zenovka
I've Had it With "PC"!
Join date: 3 May 2007
Posts: 3,688
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02-15-2009 16:00
From: Marianne McCann Today, I love the yellow dots in the RC's mini map. I much prefer finding out if a friend happens to be visiting the same region as I am, so I can say "oh hai! jes in the neighborhood!" Did that today a couple of times while heart hunting. I love the several times I've run into you by accident. It's always a fun time. 
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Erebus Kaul
Vagabond Explorer
Join date: 10 May 2008
Posts: 3
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02-16-2009 16:09
1> Are all your friends on your friends list?
Certainly all my friends who are actually, well, friends, are on there.
There are other people who are perfectly nice that I run into now and then who are not on the list, but would accept a friendship (probably, at least I hope so) if I really wanted to do it. So to answer this yes/no question I would say: mostly yes.
2>>>> Do you have names on your friends list that make you wonder, "Who is that?"
Not at the moment, but this has happened. Sometimes new people who go a little friend-request happy and start adding everyone they ever talked to. Or maybe they are using the MySpace definition of friend. Who knows.
I don't have the guts to say, "You know, nothing personal, but I'm probably never going to want to talk to you again" and then rejecting the request. So I accept, smile politely, and toss 'em a few days later. There is one individual I know who has gone through this cycle three times, I think I kept her on, she seems she sort of operates like a friend poofer sending out friends requests like those tiny temp prims of roses or hearts. I'm not sure she has noticed, though.
3>>>> Does quantity matter to you? If so, are you comfortable with a small list of caring friends that you would drop the world for? Or, are you happier with a big list so that you don't have to be concerned about being alone at any time of the day?
I have my main friends and then, just to pick a term, second-level friends. (If any ask about that 'second-level' status just tell them its for 'second life'). But, I try to keep it around twenty or so. There are people, nice people, who for one reason or another I just haven't talked to in months, so, there isn't a reason to include them.
4>>>> Reaction to 2, how often do you drop names from your friends list? And, how often does it result in a offended, disappointed, confused IM?
I used to spend a lot of time at one sim, now I spend a lot of time at a different one. So there was a period a couple of months ago when I began to remove people I knew from the first one. These were people I just saw in the context of that sim, so, so removing them from the friends list seemed like the thing to do.
I didn't do this easily, I sort of agonized over a few people for awhile but then realized, "hmm, I don't feel inclined to IM them to chat" and, well, that was that.
Other than this big trimming, I don't really remove people that often. Maybe one a week gets removed for various reasons.
5>>>> Reaction to 4, how often do you find a name disappear from your friends list? And, how do you react to it?
I have noticed this, of course. My initial reaction is a mild sort of rejection because, well, removing someone from the friends list is a mild form of rejection. But, I try to keep it in perspective, I do this too from time to time and it isn't that significant.
6>>>> Map access: Who gets it? Why?
When I first popped into SL I granted map access to one friend. I'm not sure I quite knew what it was at first, although I do remember wondering how she was able to always know where I was. Hah, oh well.
Otherwise I don't let others know this. I just don't want to. I don't think people need to know where I am all the time. Anyway who wants to know can just ask.
7>>>> Are there any "Untouchables"? Friends that would be the kill-all/end-all if they were to ever be dropped from your list?
Sure. These are my good, actual real friends using the rl definition, and, yes, I would be terribly hurt if I was removed.
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Kit Namanari
Let's pretend...
Join date: 14 Oct 2006
Posts: 126
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02-19-2009 18:11
1> Are all your friends on your friends list?
Yes. I'm very selective of friendship offers even though I receive very few of them. Any friends that aren't on my list are acquaintences, associates or they've not offered friendship (I don't offer friendship even if I want it).
2> Do you have names on your friends list that make you wonder, "Who is that?"
No. I know everyone. See 1 above.
3> Does quantity matter to you? If so, are you comfortable with a small list of caring friends that you would drop the world for? Or, are you happier with a big list so that you don't have to be concerned about being alone at any time of the day?
No, quantity isn't important.
4> Reaction to 2, how often do you drop names from your friends list? And, how often does it result in a offended, disappointed, confused IM?
Only once so far. Long story, but I don't think she realized that I had dropped her. I still have her calling card.
5> Reaction to 4, how often do you find a name disappear from your friends list? And, how do you react to it?
I've not see any names disappear yet. I'd be sad if one did vanish.
6> Map access: Who gets it? Why?
Only one person has it. She's very important, special to me.
7> Are there any "Untouchables"? Friends that would be the kill-all/end-all if they were to ever be dropped from your list?
Yes, see 6 above.
Kitsy ^.^
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Noelle Andel
Oh So Couture
Join date: 23 May 2008
Posts: 36
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03-12-2009 07:55
1> Are all your friends on your friends list? >>Nope 2> Do you have names on your friends list that make you wonder, "Who is that?" >>No, Im picky about my friends list, so I know who's who! 3> Does quantity matter to you? If so, are you comfortable with a small list of caring friends that you would drop the world for? Or, are you happier with a big list so that you don't have to be concerned about being alone at any time of the day? >>Quality over quantity in my eyes. 4> Reaction to 2, how often do you drop names from your friends list? And, how often does it result in a offended, disappointed, confused IM? >>Never really. 5> Reaction to 4, how often do you find a name disappear from your friends list? And, how do you react to it? >>I have just a small selection of friends on my list, so never really. 6> Map access: Who gets it? Why? >>Everyone  Finally... 7> Are there any "Untouchables"? Friends that would be the kill-all/end-all if they were to ever be dropped from your list? >>Nope  Poor me lol but I still seem to be a much bigger fan of RL at the minute! |
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Jaycatt Nico
Musical Cat
Join date: 1 Jun 2005
Posts: 169
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03-12-2009 16:36
1> Are all your friends on your friends list? Yes, for the most part... I am sometimes reluctant to offer Friendship status because some people I've run across don't like to add friends, and I fear a change in the relationship I have with them, just by bringing it up. Having the comment section in there now as you add a friend really helps. 2> Do you have names on your friends list that make you wonder, "Who is that?" I have quite a few like that! I get offered friendships from time to time, and if I see nothing wrong with the person, I certainly don't mind adding them. 3> Does quantity matter to you? If so, are you comfortable with a small list of caring friends that you would drop the world for? Or, are you happier with a big list so that you don't have to be concerned about being alone at any time of the day? Nah, quantity doesn't matter to me at all... It's fun to see who's online and if I remember them or not 4> Reaction to 2, how often do you drop names from your friends list? And, how often does it result in a offended, disappointed, confused IM? I do sometimes drop names, but it's typically from getting annoyed with the amount of Conference IMs I get included in that I don't care about. I haven't ever got an IM back because of it, though. 5> Reaction to 4, how often do you find a name disappear from your friends list? And, how do you react to it? I don't look that closely, really... Occasionally I have said to someone "Wow, I thought I had you on my list years ago!" So, that could be because of an oversight, or because I was removed once upon a time. 6> Map access: Who gets it? Why? Just close friends, mainly. Other friends and business associates may just need an easy way to contact me. The friends list is good for that too My friend Frogg allows everyone to have map access, though, because he uses it to let them track him down for live performances. 7> Are there any "Untouchables"? Friends that would be the kill-all/end-all if they were to ever be dropped from your list? Oh sure, there are a few really close friends, but then again because of that, I wouldn't ever drop them from my list, so that point is moot |
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Lilyana Muircastle
Registered User
Join date: 19 Oct 2008
Posts: 18
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03-12-2009 16:57
I'm fairly new myself (since October) but I have pretty much the same deal. I only keep close friends on my list. If after a time that they stop talking, I'll try to im them to see what's up but normally the conversation drifts off and I know it's not as close as it once was. So to answer your questions myself here goes.
1> Are all your friends on your friends list?
>>Not all of them. I tend to add people only after asking them and since I never ask because I'm shy, there are many that arn't added. If they add me first then all the better.
2> Do you have names on your friends list that make you wonder, "Who is that?"
>>A few months ago I did. I took them off after no communcation and they never said anything.
3> Does quantity matter to you? If so, are you comfortable with a small list of caring friends that you would drop the world for? Or, are you happier with a big list so that you don't have to be concerned about being alone at any time of the day?
>>Right now I think there are less then a dozen on there. They are the people who talk to me the most. Oh! and one person who tells me about lucky chairs. She's the only random person on my list.
4> Reaction to 2, how often do you drop names from your friends list? And, how often does it result in a offended, disappointed, confused IM?
>>I only dropped maybe 3 on my list since joining and nothing happened.
5> Reaction to 4, how often do you find a name disappear from your friends list? And, how do you react to it?
>>Only one name ever disappeared from my list and it was on both of us really. It hurt a little but not as much as it could have.
6> Map access: Who gets it? Why?
>> Right now only one has it because that's the way I want it. Sometimes I wanna run away you know?
7> Are there any "Untouchables"? Friends that would be the kill-all/end-all if they were to ever be dropped from your list?
>>Very much so. I would be really sad if they ousted me from friendship. But you have that with every chat client.
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Argent Stonecutter
Emergency Mustelid
Join date: 20 Sep 2005
Posts: 20,263
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03-12-2009 17:17
1. no.
2. yes.
3. mu.
4. i haven't that i recall.
5. i haven't ever notice that happen.
6. everyone who was on when they made map access optional.
7. no
My "friends list" is at least 90% business-related contacts.
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