Top 10 tips to woo your lady love.

I prefer to use broader strokes. To give suggestions and let your mind fill in the fine details. But I do use more than "mmm" and "Oh baby".

This.

This is why our Forum Gentlemen are so much fun. They almost invariably fall into this category.

Chris, I think you missed out the most important thing - authenticity.

Any feeling of being fake, or putting on an act is a complete put-off (IMO).

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One thing that turns me off instantly.. a player

I didn't write it. Just found it in my daily wanderings along the net and thought it would make a fun thread. I haven't given any comments on the advice in the article other than to pass it along.

Not sure I'd call this unpredictable as much as taking the lead (discussed below) but I appreciate this greatly. When my now-former SL partner was first dating me, he always had a place he had checked out earlier to take me to. I loved that.

Two years later it turned into "So what should we do tonight?" After two years that's to be expected, but I had numerous discussions on enjoying being surprised like in the beginning of our relationship. Answer: "I'm not good at that." Errr, he used to be.



Depends how physical/how early. Being from another generation I don't kiss on the first or maybe even second or third date. That was something different from the other women my FP (former partner) had encountered and intrigued him about me.



YES, YES, YES!!!! Even though I'm quite independent and can be headstrong, I adore a man who takes the lead. Honestly, I think this is one of the "draws" for *some* women in D/s. I could get on my soapbox about Women's Lib forever, but let's just say I was a teenager during that transitional time and, while it had its good points (ie. equal pay for equal work - opening jobs traditionally held by men to women, etc.) the more radical elements "I don't need a man to hold a door open for me" (which used to be common courtesy) got a lot of guys confused, which led to a trickle down effect in future generations.

Anyway, I like a man who takes the lead and doesn't wait for me to make all the decisions.



Keeping some tension going is exciting.




DEFINITELY! And sometimes...a session of great kissing/cuddling can be even more satisfying (for me at least) than sex. This is dependent on a lot variables, however.



Women don’t like men who follow them like Mary’s little lamb. Women, especially quality women, want a man who is on HIS path, following HIS passions. Have a busy life with interesting activities that bring a smile to YOUR face and it will automatically attract people (including women) to you. Don’t chase women, attract them.[/QUOTE]

And I would add the reverse corollary to women. Again, likely a generational thing, but I was brought up to never chase men. Giving cues that we were interested was ok, but never things like asking a guy to dance, go on a date, or even calling them. (There's a really great article I clipped out of a newspaper years ago that I need to find - I think it may have been based on a book called "The Language of the Fan" or something. Centuries ago when women REALLY couldn't do anything that would be considered "too forward", there was an entire language of how a lady held a fan when looking at a gentleman at a social gathering that would give him non-verbal cues.)

Great post, Chris!

Sounds like he just got too lazy to bother doing the checking-out part.

I think the most important thing is communication, and that should go both ways. I'm all in favour of an equally balanced relationship. I could not enjoy a relationship with a woman who always takes the lead and expects me to hang around like a puppy. On the other hand neither would I enjoy having to make all the decisions because the woman doesn't have enough independence or confidence in herself to make her own mind up.

I'd get up and leave.

All of the advice seems to boil down to, "Women love for men to control them."

Yeah, I think I would too!

Oh sorry Chris - I mean the author missed out the most important thing.

I totally disagree with that statement. I don't want anyone to "control" me. I don't mind Will taking the lead at times and he doesn't mind me doing that as well. It's all about being creative and making a sincere effort.

Once in an established relationship, a man is sure to change. Before I was married it was, "What would you like, darling?". Afterwards, it was, "Have a cup of tea, it's cheaper"!

Don't forget though, that list was written for Indian culture and society, which is far behind the West in terms of freedom for women, and how women are expected to behave. This list would probably have fitted well in the West, in the 1950s too.

Don't leave a dead mouse on the bed. Humans are really weird about that.

It's been said that men marry hoping their wife will never change, and that women marry hoping that their husband will. Both are doomed to disappointment.

hmm, the list is very shallow, and moving all women in the same camp. The reality is, that one finds his or her love, when they are not seeking for one, and when they least expect it. (situation, location, combo, etc)

when hunting for a relationship, or potential ones (dating), it's most likely that you set your radar to high, and therefor not relaxed. (both parties)

be yourself, if the other isn't interrested in the real you, don't bother.
hitting on (flirting has nothing to do with the love aspect, as many think) someone, is a behavior that is mostly off, from the usual reaction one would give, thus a masquarade. the other party might like the masquerade, but rejects your true self, once you have her/him relationwise.. it gives false predictions, characteristics..
so, be yourself all the time..

The sky has fallen. I actually agree with something you said. This is SO true!

on odd occasions, fine. otherwise it says repetitive. ask me if i'd like to to go, tell me it's a surprise. (or I'd better know you really well to accept being TOLD wtf I'm doing for dinner)


make the offer, even just as a motion, don't force (and ignore those last two sentences)


good luck with that.. seriously. tell me which section you're going to, and I'll do you the same favor. don't, and you'd better have your own ride, 'cause I'll have mine.


right sentiment, wrong approach. "I'm going to X, I'd like to take you with me".


please come up with something better than coordination... positive emotion responses (even to image features) are great (except when the compare to other family/romantic interests, or thing your date isn't into)... don't talk about yourself... really.


once is funny, twice is weird, three times and you're sinking your own ship.


same rule as previous


this... one stupid minor skill can do more for you than you can imagine


go ahead, call me a baby, compare me to grandmother, and act like I'll break at the slightest breeze... I dare ya... (die)


and once you have her attention you'd better not make her keep chasing you always, or she'll find her attention where it's easier to keep it.

Well, change is one of the "Three Signs of Being" (Buddhism) - I guess we all hope to change for the better, but honestly,

"Open the door for her, but complain that she walks slower than your granny. Feed her at a restaurant but roll your eyes and mutter about how she’s a baby".

What sort of unintelligent guff is that?!!!! I think I'd sooner go out with his granny - she might be capable of better conversation!

@Lewis

India is really a very matriarchal society - the strong women rule there!

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Hey, I looked up the article and there was a number eleven:

11. Bust out in a big Bollywood dance number with hundreds of extras.

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OMG, how on earth did they ever leave that one out

Wow- although not wholy disagreeing with some things- it ws kinda hostile- but this one- yeah- make a damn effort- i got better things to do than chase after u forever.

Which number is "Drive me to the Mall, give me your wallet and be back to pick me up in 2 hours." ?