Interpersonal caution...

im just responding to what you said. You said earlier that your view of her changed after you met in rl not before.

i never said you were naive. in fact i said the opposite and even apologized for reiterating what should have been obvious. But i get the feeling your just being argumentative no matter what i say.

yay i am so happy everytime i meet or hear of someone with this ability! its the most beautiful experience in the whole entire world. it changes . . everything.

Lawrence Welk

i think it was 1995 or so that the internet became a household word, although it was 1-2 years prior that people were accessing from work hubs, and home too i suspect. so 10 years is a fair number to 'guesstimate'.

and i laff, because i wonder why that woman is surprised. but whatever.

Oh I suspect there's a great deal of non-productive, non-progressive learning going on all over the place.

LOL! That reminds me of the anti-porn campaigners of the 80s and one in particular in the UK, Lord Longford. He carefully investigated various sex clubs and came to the conclusion they were obscene and would cause depravity in anyone who visited them .. except for him of course.

Yes, that's exactly why I said "in various virtual worlds" ... I've been involved in them for the last 11 years.

It does indeed take a certain level of awareness along with the open-mindedness to sense energy but I've never found discipline to be either necessary or anything that I would want to cultivate. Focused intention and relaxed allowing however will bring pretty much anything you desire into your experience.

Isobel

LOL you got it ALL wrong, but that's ok. been interesting.

i am not mistaken

OK, I only read the first and last pages but this seems a recurring thread.
Anyone with anything between the ears should know from Day One that that glorious avatar they see in front of them is probably nothing like the keyboard operator they are conversing with, fine.

Armed with this, they should be better informed that it's the character deep within the operator they are really merging with, if merging is in fact in their plan.

People have pointed out avatars can 'act' a different person to how they appear. This goes for RL too. Everyday someone gets suckered into dating a really cute guy or girl to find out later they are a demon in human form. SL does not have copyright on this; it happens all over the net, it happens in face-to-face real life too.

It's very sad that someone can get so hung-up on true appearance. I have had more happy conversations with total strangers in SL than RL .. and have had more happy ones than unhappy. Sweeping generalisations have little purpose for me, every new person I meet starts with a clean slate as far as I'm concerned.

40 is just a number, 42 is another.

if you had an open mind, you'd see that you are.

You dont even know what you are arguing against in this post. You are shadow boxing. Flailing your arms around hoping to hit something.


Quotes by 3Ring Binder in this thread :

by now, i hope you have discovered that i am a pompous ass. LOL

finally just one year ago i allowed it to be more than the internet with one woman (meaning, we exchanged cards and books and such via snail mail ~i have a PO Box, so thankfully it wasn't totally full disclosure). of course, it was only then that her true self came out

my point was that even after 9 years of communication, i didn't 'really' know this woman until i dealt with her in RL, and then within about 4 months the disappointing reality revealed itself

i was aware of all these things well before we met. it was 9 years until that, remember? my view was colored long before... i'm not sure why you assume i am so naive. but thank you for your interpretation of my reality. been interesting.


(Shall i go on 3Ring or would you like to deny you posted these remarks in this thread? instead of changing your position ever 5 minutes try sticking with any remark you make. any at all . . so people can actually respond to your posts without feeling trolled please)

I'm glad you mentioned this. I was getting bamfoozled (permission granted for Claire to add that to her dictionary *grins) about all this class talk.

/waves from the US middle class

/me blinks

Are we back to the Trout ratings again?

egads no! but in my personal experience.... i did sent him one of those 'model' photos we are all talking about cuz i came upon it, and it seemed funny at the time. anyway, he didn't buy into it, so i have no rating (which is the way it oughta be). LOL

You know my ex-fiance??

Just to keep this thread on the light side and to keep Jimmy happy... also on topic:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7xXkA7uH5Zg&feature=related

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I've often wonder why someone who got involved with a married person online ..

Would think that person would NOT carry on online extramarital relationships once married IRL to them.


Yet another strike against the SL/Eharmony approach.

ROFL ok now I have to go floss my teeth and hug my (rl) husband.


Exactly. in this particular cse Idon't theink either of them had been married before but the guy was evidently hooked on whatever he got out of on-line flirting. For people looking for real life romance I'd think the actual e-harmony method would be a lot better than trying to make it work with the stranger behind a cute avatar met in a SL dance club.

i'm not the one arguing, so please. go on. i have no idea what you are going on about, but please. continue. i stand by ALL my remarks.... even the thread i made that forced me to hang my head in shame. but that is another matter entirely.

resume.

you cant even remember what you write in threads and cant recognize your own posts when they are thrown back in your face. you just disagree with anything being posted, even blatently contradicting your previous posts. im going to remember this. its annoying as hell.

First you didnt meet your friend in real life and only gave email address etc - then sudden oh you did meet her in rl. Then your opinion of her didnt change until you met in rl and now you say your opinion of her changed long before it ever went into rl? well which is it then? since like this is your whole arguement in the thread of why you dont trust relationships that start online dont you think maybe you should have your story straight?

Not that it matters anyway since i addressed the topic at length without any response from you other then your attempt to skirt the topic completely.

LOLOL i have NO idea what your point is, or what you are going on about. maybe you should read what i write with the words i've used, and not the ones you think i used. i know EXACTLY what i have written, what i said, what i mean and what i've experienced. i am very very extremely literal, and even when being sarcastic and ironic (which i am not being now) i am very literal in my intended, and obvious, message. just because i don't debate a non-topic doesn't mean i don't recognize a campaign to do... well, whatever it is you are attempting to do. 65% is possibly too generous. LOL

i don't know if you are reading the same words i am writing, or doing that little word twisty thing people do when they are on a mission. i don't know, Swan type person. you tell me.

i didn't ever say i didn't meet the woman, i just never said either, one way or the other, until you assumed and i corrected you - because it wasn't necessary to the story in order to get my point across (for the record, the point being that even after years of 'knowing someone online' you can still be surprised and entirely disappointed). and i never said i only gave her an email (in fact, i said i only gave my PO Box for snail-mailings, i never mentioned anything about meeting her, or where i did, until i had to correct your assumptions). my relationship did not change with her until she proved to be a conniving manipulator (and not just with me, it was quite the tangled little web she found herself in), but i digress... which occurred after 9 years of online and then 4 months of RL interaction, but that whole story is boring and quite frankly none of your business beyond what i choose to share - although i'm not unwilling, i just can't imagine why anyone would want to hear about it... still, the reality is there was a lot of skewing of thoughts and such....you know the type.... conveniently, as my example, it is based upon a lot of word twisting and intention skewing like i am seeing right now. hmmmmm

how i feel about online relationships is the same as it was at the first post, and even before the first post, and as stated, well before i met the woman in RL or even as an internet pal.... my entire internet experience has always been guarded. i have never stated otherwise, and where you are getting the message in contrast is beyond me.

maybe it is not what i am saying that is the problem. it's that you are reading into what i say. incorrectly i might add.

but, continue on. for the record, i am not arguing you. i am responding to you. stop making assumptions and maybe we can have an adult conversation based on facts and reality.

this is your party. i'm simply a guest. please let me address the topics you are so interested in. can you please restate them? because i am clearly too clueless to find them by myself in your previous posts.

no thats alright. thanks anyway. ive already addressed your posts. Youve never responded to any of my ideas in this thread. and i dont expect youre very interested in anything other then creating confusion and derailing the topic.

this deserves repeating right about now:

*shaking head now* and laffing too, although that's probably just plain mean. LOLOL i predict Isobel is doing quite the same thing at me, but that's ok. it's all funny.

3Ring, the person you quoted acts like he far better then everyone else? Without any personal issues what so ever. Anyone can Role play being a doctor of the mind on sl. Maybe that what he is doing. Unless people have had psy courses in school( i have many Undergrad and Grad Level course in my university days ). All it turns out to be is internet assumptions and BS.......My field of studied req me to take many of such course because we deal wioth human nature within social setting ( Interior Design ). If his posting is just a joke then I am sorry. At times on this forum its hard to tell the seriuos people from the ones that are joking around.

i appreciate that someone else besides me sees the perpetual false assumptions and misinterpretations, and hypocrisy. i realize i was not totally clear in that PO Box part, but none of that matters in reference to the thread, so i don't get what that was all about in the first place. i almost thought i was going crazy. but then, i shook my head and all was right in the world again. LOL

to appease Swan, i actually had TWO (2) - that's right, two - internet friends go awry last year. the other one was longer term in internet acquaintance, and much more hurtful when it fell apart, but it really boiled down to my arrogant attitude and inability to read her signals "back off" when i should have. but i still like her, and we still communicate a little. she's not a bad person, she's just fed up. LOL but she did say some things that hurt me, but i would never burn her. oh, and since this part might matter, we did not meet in RL beyond phone calls and PO Box mailings.

moving on........

Lawrence Welk.

/me creaks to her feet and shuffles off to the kitchen with her cane.