SL Dating

I've enjoyed reading all the posts here tonight. Agree with some, but not others! I came to sl a complete online novice with the dating stuff, and found it very confusing and difficult to cope with. Those who say sl and rl don't cross over are so wrong! How can emotions not cross over to rl? I am happy with my rl partner, but have has sl bf's and partners. I wonder why? Because recently it has become apparant to me that it is cheating, and not a good thing to get involved with. I am obviously missing something in rl to partake in sl relationships. This has caused me many times to stop and question my actions. However, I am still in a relationship within sl and loving every minute of it. Theres no hope for some of us!!

This thread is 6+ months old.

We are coming up on Halloween- Necro-posting is traditional? Should be?

Yeah, about a year and 6 months.

It's not 2007?

Maybe it is still 2007 in your state.

Are we so short on the "SL Sex Borked my RL Marriage" threads that we need to dust off an 18-month old thead?

/me shrugs

Oh, well. Guess an old one is as good as a new one. The arguments don't really change...

/me lives in the state of Confusion. Is it Friday yet?

SL had been our first online dating experience. So what was missing RL? After 17 years of marriage much of the "spark" had gone, replaced with routine. We found SL and used it as one might use a porno movie, while being honest with our friends.

The spark had returned - more so than I could ever imagine. It worked out very well.
For a short while.

My wife's date didn't work out - and she began feeling like a 3rd wheel, so I stopped dating because she was being hurt for it. Despite the 100% honesty with my date, she too was hurt for stopping our "Special" friendship.

My good friend has hardly been on the grid ever since. Really sad I think. Yes she might be using an alt, but we do still talk and don't think it's the case.

Since then, (to make a long story short) both of us decided to flirt - both got carried away and crossed the line, had serious misunderstandings and both hurt. Not just once, twice but multiple times and just grew tired of it all.

Today we have some businesses that we play with. I like to build, she likes ladies night out.

I know there are married couples who do just fine and separate RL from SL and have open communication - and dating works well for them. I know that we started off thinking the same thing and was hurt multiple times. I myself have wanted to quit SL more times than I recall, even now because the "Magic" has gone and except for building really just hate the place.

But she wants to stay active for her friendship networks and the buisinesses, and wants me there - so I go, despite the extreme boredom.

Yes SL is what you make of it - or what you don't.
But I can't help but think that our level of enjoyment (or unenjoyment) would have been much better, had we not ventured into a dating experiment.

My wife and I have a wonderful relationship and able to endure the extreme rollercoaster, misunderstandings and hurt we experienced with SL dating. We will come away from this intact, unlike the OP who's RL relationship wasn't as strong.

If U are thinking of SL dating and you're married - and both agree ... Are U sure? Please think about it and be certain - and consider the consequences if it all goes wrong.

holy crap, that is dedication...how many pages of threads did you have to read thru to get to one a year and a half old?

necrothreadia lol

I guess how thread be necro when it's still revelation to person who responded and so did you all too?
I guess they could create new thread and somebody would complain that this discussion has
already came up i.e it shouldn't again once few are tired of it?
Heck that thread that won't die isn't coming up on year now? Hehe
I personally have my own views, monogamy should be mutually agreed choice not requirement regardless of where the relationship exist.
Being in love or married doesn't mean ownership of one's partners body or sexual thoughts unless you mutually agree or choose it be that.
Even then it doesn't work out that way.