New and frustrated being followed

Hi there!
I'm new and looking for some advice on privacy issues in SL.
I've been on SL for a grand total of 2 weeks, and I have been spending lots of time exploring. Obviously I've been trying out new things, and this would include tons of clothing.
Since the first day though I've had problems many times, with changing clothes in private. In that week I found secluded little spots, but still ended up being followed relentlessly 3 times.
After the first week in I learned to build, and created a box with no door. Even decorated it inside with some nice stuff I found in the freebie places. When I needed to change I would throw that box out at my feet, and poof, instant walls. I knew this wasn't a stop all, but it was something of a hassle for most.
Until late last night.
I had been jumping back and forth from SL to Photoshop, working on a new shirt. I jumped back to my SL browser, and there, in the corner of my box, sat this guy, just looking around and relaxing in a chair. It was a first. I'd had friends try to get into the box and couldn't. Granted, we are all new and don't have any real nifty gadgets yet. I had a couple people banging into the walls trying to get a few times. So this guy just sitting there watching me change clothing was rather irritating. I asked him to leave. He wouldn't. So I moved my box, and myself, up into the air, and poof he was right there. 'Just wanting to relax for a while in such a cozy place'. Again, I asked him to leave, and when he still wouldn't, I deleted the box, and pulled out the only real weapon I've had for decent privacy. A chair, with a sit/touch script that rockets more then 4k up into the air. Once up there I rezzed my box out again, and thought I was safe to get back to work. I had just climbed back up on my pose stand, and there he was again, sitting on the couch this time.
By this time I was willing to do anything I could to get rid of this guy, up to and including offering him the whole box to play in if he would would just stop following me. I tried, and of course, some of the objects in the box are no transfer, so that was a no go.
After about 15 minutes of trying to get rid of this guy, I just deleted my stuff, started free fall, and teleported mid air to somewhere else. I gave up on my clothing work for the night.
This wasn't the first time I'd had problems getting a little changing room privacy. It was, however, the most irritating. Even more so then the guy offering me money for for certain services, when I was hiding a remote corner somewhere trying on skins. (He only followed me once when I left him, then called me vicious name and left me alone)
To be honest. It's not about the nudity factor. It's about the perv factor. I'm not modest, IRL or SL. I just don't want to be followed around being harrassed by people talking filthy, or 'relaxing' in the corner for a free show.

Other then buying my own land, (which, 2 weeks in, I'm not ready to commit to), is there anything I can do to get some decent privacy in SL?
Any places that offer it? And when I run into a guy like this one last night, is there anything I can do to get him to leave me alone. Can someone please help me? I had a male friend suggest putting it in my profile, or teling these guys, that IRL I'm a guy. But I don't want people running around thinking I'm a dude when I'm not. It could interfere with other interactions.

Thanks, and feel free to contact me in world or here. I will check back in the this topic regularly.

Ecko, and her RL human - Ecko

Treasure, using your Mystitool in this way means the person you sent home is within their rights to put in an abuse report against you and it would be considered abuse. Yes it's your land, but LL has provided the tools to take care of things like this and they are the ones that are 'legal' to use. Just a friendly heads up for future reference.

~B

Actually given how LL has an option to send individual avatars to their home point in the estate management tools I dont see how this could be ARable, given that they themselves have given (estatemangers at least) the ability to do this.

Now using it on a mainland plot might not be the best idea (given that the land around may be public land) but on an estate?? Well it may be questionable and arugable that a person was within their rights

Some people get off on being stalked.

Just saying... >_>

You know what? Those guys are getting turned on by what you're doing. Just turn it off completely by putting on a 'male organ' and poking it into them. Take a screenshot of your attachment next to his face, be sure your pic shows avatar names, and give the pic to him. Heck, send it to whatever group you find in his profile. There's so much more you can do to him if he continues to stay.

there are idiots in SL just like in RL...the best thing to do is learn how to handle them. the first time something like that happened to me i had a typical visceral reaction as if it was RL and that really shocked me. emotions run strong and feeling violated has no boundaries. once i learned to handle it...i used to run the boogers out on a rail. hehe

the other night some idiot pounded on my home door and demanded to be let in... of course i said no and explained it was a private home. i was in bed ready to log off with my sl hubby. the guy put his face on my wall i guess to camera in and the image of him with his nose in the planks totally cracked me up lol. so i pulled one of my blankets over us...hehe. well the booger knew enough to touch the blanket and make it move up and down... soooo i took the script out and locked it. then we both yelled at him and he left. i was more amused than upset...but i kept thinking...at least he doesnt know how to get in lol.

if anyone ever does camera in and sit on something...you can take the object back into inventory...this dethrones them and then you can eject them etc. if you have perms to do that. ive also been known to read them the riot act and explain that manners apply to SL as well as RL...im sure they love that hehe

I was stalked in real. It's very frightening.

OMG you need a big dog!!! i was watering my horses one day and this guy calls me on my cell telling me i forgot my feed bucket..you want to talk about freaking out..

so i yelled for my dog and he hears a certain tone he goes on alert right now..he runs down to me with his fur up and the guy hung up..

i have a mastiff that is 250 pounds and he will eat a person..i hope they come in my house cause then i know it's all over with..at least for that stalker.

seriously you can train them to not take things from anyone but you and all kinds of things and they will just eat them right up..

I don't think newbies get the concept of private homes, really. I regularly have people flying up to look in my bedroom window, which is on the 3rd floor of my house, if they first try the doors and can't get them to open (because they don't know how to get in). I tell new people, when they come to my sim, that it is a residential sim, that PRIVATE HOMES are around the sim borders but the buildings in the middle are public so feel free to browse through the PUBLIC BUILDINGS, etc......but they still don't seem to get the concept. I don't know how else to tell them, while remaining polite. For a new person, I don't think they are being malicious, they just don't get it. I'd like a way to explain it without doing something ugly to make my point.

What a delightful idea! I'm going to buy one today and be ready next time! Thanks!

I was stalked in real. It's very frightening.

OMG you need a big dog!!! i was watering my horses one day and this guy calls me on my cell telling me i forgot my feed bucket..you want to talk about freaking out..

so i yelled for my dog and he hears a certain tone he goes on alert right now..he runs down to me with his fur up and the guy hung up..

i have a mastiff that is 250 pounds and he will eat a person..i hope they come in my house cause then i know it's all over with..at least for that stalker.

seriously you can train them to not take things from anyone but you and all kinds of things and they will just eat them right up..

the point here is not whether it is pixels or nudity...the point is feeling personally threatened which is a concept the person on the RL end of the avatar feels. there is no discounting feeling a jolt of fear and at least momentarily not knowing how to handle it especially when you are new. As new person in SL, i had a guy attach himself to my face to hump me and i couldnt see. took me a bit to get my camera oriented so i could even tell what was going on and i could not figure out how to get him off. in those moments i felt RL feel, RL invasion, RL threatened. i can laugh about it now, but at the time it never occurred to me to turn off the pc or log out cuz it was happening to ME...not a pile of pixels. it took a bit for me to get my head on straight and realize it was not happening to the RL me and i would not have any adverse effects...but for those few minutes at first, i felt the same level of fear and adrenaline rush that i feel in RL....

Actually given how LL has an option to send individual avatars to their home point in the estate management tools I dont see how this could be ARable, given that they themselves have given (estatemangers at least) the ability to do this.

Now using it on a mainland plot might not be the best idea (given that the land around may be public land) but on an estate?? Well it may be questionable and arugable that a person was within their rights

You know what? Those guys are getting turned on by what you're doing. Just turn it off completely by putting on a 'male organ' and poking it into them.

You know what? Those guys are getting turned on by what you're doing. Just turn it off completely by putting on a 'male organ' and poking it into them. Take a screenshot of your attachment next to his face, be sure your pic shows avatar names, and give the pic to him. Heck, send it to whatever group you find in his profile. There's so much more you can do to him if he continues to stay.