Long Distance SL Relationships

Shut up Maggie

No dont say it , just be quite and swallow your comment.....there are some nice men in the Uk.

Hmm there's a thousand more reasons why LDR's might not work, you are probably both hyped up on emotions at the moment, so enjoy it to the max, but just be ready for if it doesn't works to stay friends or backout gracefully.
Is True love worth the risk? Probably it is

sigh... nice said

/me really hopes she can believe that

Long distance does work. There are so many people who have successful lond distance relationships. Of course there are the bad stories, but as long as you are prepared for whatever gets thrown at you, you will be able to deal.
Of course, SL is so intense, if you really don't want it to go into RL, it can be tough. It takes a lot of hard work and understanding to make it work.
Just be honest, with each other and with yourself.

I am in a SL relationship. I am in the UK and there is a 6 hour time difference. That is a lot when we both work. I am going to bed just as he is coming online, so really we only have the weekends together - and even then not so often as I am away at weekends.
The only really decent amount of time is if I stay up very late - I am talking about 4am or later.
It can be tough...really tough some days. But I feel it is all very worth it.

Anyway, I wish you all the best with your relationship. It can be, and is, fantastic, and I really hope it works out for you.

xxcxx

My partner is in Finland and I am on the east coast of the US

~waves to Marya~

We have a 7 hour difference and have been making it work since late July of 2007. I see her for an hour or 2 in the afternoons when I get home from work (it would be about 10-11pm her time) and then because our weekends are usually busy with RL things, we will try to get together as best as we can.
She sometimes wakes up early on weekends (6am her time) to see me and then goes back to bed when I get tired and head off to bed.
We also chat during the workdays using skype or msn...depending on which is working better that day

It works for us!

My SL sweety seems to survive on very little sleep. Yay me.
6 hours time diff is nothing when there's a weekend coming up. Makes the shorter moments inbetween much sweeter.

Thanks, Danielle, for a very sensible post. RL must come first.
I suppose that SL relationships are a whole lot easier when you don't also have an RL spouse and kids that demand your attention - never mind having to deal with time differences! I can't figure out how people even manage SL partners without damaging their RL.

B.

For a while I thought that my little darlin survied on nothing but red bull and no-doz. Her being in the UK, and me in the states, the five hour time difference really takes it's toll on us from time to time. However, as others have stated before, if you really want it to work, it can. We've been together for over six months now. Regardless of time difference, or difficult schedules and/or responsibilities in RL, I've found that it just makes the time we do get to spend together, that much sweeter.

Some will give you doom and gloom stories about the inevitable fate of the time difference eventually fading the relationship into oblivion, but everyone's situation is different. For myself, no matter what happens, every second that I do get to spend with her is precious, and I wouldn't trade it for the world.

Thanks sun

I can echo what Claire is saying, we are making it work. I think in a situation like ours (Claire's and mine) we IM and email back and forth when we are not able to be togeather on line. Patience, honesty, supporting each other, and trust are key in any long distance relationship. I am very fortunate to have met Claire, and if we lived in the same part of the world, we would be visiting each other every week end in RL...but alas, that is not the case, so we are making what we DO have work. It IS worth it! (I love you Claire!)
(BTW...I don't think that was Claire he was talking about)

Is this a new list? I didn't know a new list came out

Hello sweety! I love you!

REALLY???

nooo Lana......

If you are willing to let Online relationships carry over to Offline that information should be relayed to your partner fairly early into the relationship.

If you EXPECT Online relationships to carry over to Offline then that information should be relayed fairly early into the relationship.

In my opinion the "default setting" would be people aren't interested in their SL online relationships carrying over to Real life.

But still its a good idea for those not interested in Online relationships becoming RL should convey that information early into the relationship.

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Can it work? Sure.

Is it likely to work? No.

Most RL short-distance relationships fail.

Most Short term relationships that change to extended Long-distance relationships also fail.

How could Long-Distance relations that started Long-distance fare any better?

Well I've never tried it in SL.....but it seems like it would work since you can get to know the person really well. But people have to be honest with the other person, be committed, and strive to make it work.

Any relationship can work as long as the two people involved work together to make it work. Doesn't matter where you are!

QFT! I met my RL husband in a yahoo chat room 7 1/2 years ago. I wish we would have had SL then, it would have been much better. As it was, we communicated as much as possible through IM and e-mail. He was in the UK, I'm in Pennsylvania, so it was a time difference of 5 hours. We progressed from IM to phone calls about 1 month into it. It was cheaper for him to call me (he had a great international calling plan...lol) and he would call me every Sunday morning at 5 a.m. his time, midnight my time, and we would talk for about 3 hours before he had to go out to meet his dad.

I don't think either one of us started out with the specific intention of meeting someone online to take into a RL relationship, but that's what happened. After meeting in RL, continuing a LD relationship while we filed for his fiance visa, we finally were able to marry in June of 2002.

I think, though, that once we knew we wanted to carry it into RL it made dealing with the LD thing easier, although it was bumpy a bit after he first came to visit. There was just so much to be done and it was hard to constantly communicate those details through e-mail, etc. But we were committed to doing it, and it was done. That's the most important thing...that you BOTH want the relationship to happen and will commit to it, whether in SL only or SL/RL. You will find ways to work around the time difference then, but it might sometimes involve outside of SL communication and a night or two with less than usual sleep.

Sorry, that was me. Forgot to log Star out after i checked her account.

To the OP make it work with the limitations you have.



That Trout gets all the breaks... females don't even look at me once.

"CX"

I dated a dutch girl for about 6 weeks. By that time she had found someone closer to her time zone. And for the record,she did not "run off" to be with him. I went in to the relationship with full knowledge she would find another. I encouraged her to date other people, take her time, and find the right man for her.

It was a looooooong 6 weeks for me.

She had never had an American lover that did not cheat on her. I liked her and we got on very well but she was constantly in fear that I would be with some other woman when she was offline. And it was very tempting. But I was determined to show her that not all American's are cheating bastards.

Anyway, because of that, I would think long and hard before giving a promise to be exclusive to some one that far removed again. And I will never ask someone to be exclusive to me unless I know I can be there every time they log on .... in otherwords, it will not happen.



Isabeau, my Venus, don't give a second thought to the list. Squirrels run from us and chatter in the trees but we never wonder why. It is just their nature. Trout was just chattering in the trees. Nothing more.

If I could I would flirt with you, tell you of your beauty, how your mear presence brings out the best in me. You inspire me to better myself and make my part of the world safer and secure, yet open and inviting. Everything I would do is to bring happiness to you. From sailing the seas to dances by moonlight. We could surf, we could fly, we could explore the wonders of the SL world together. I would brings swans to you so that they could learn the meaning of grace in motion. I would learn the french language so the poetry of my heart could be better spoken to you. All of this and more I would do if only, just one once, it would be possible to wake in the morning to the bright and warming sun that is your smile.

Work it, Yosef. lol

whoooooooa... that was smooooth.

/me sits and stares off into the sky, daydreaming...

*grin*

/me sighs.....

Hey, Sweatheart. Thanks for the dance. For me, the party was was bland and grey after you left. That is what happens when exposed to the purity of greatness and beauty; the soul expands and the world around you seems so mundane. Every second is an eternity but I hold on knowing that I will see you again some day.

You are so good at this. Thanks for the smile and the dance.