PHASE II...what are the signs???

I am guilty of making lists in the past of reputable estate owners but I never said "only" rent from these owners, just that they could be trusted. The reason I did it was twofold: I wanted to help keep people from getting burned and I wanted the hard-working owners I know to have continued success. But no one ever asked me to name them, so although someone was using the forum for a marketing tool, it wasn't the owners themselves.

I've since stopped naming specific folks here because it excludes too many honest and excellent people.

So I am not in any circle on RA, I read it a lot, but rarely post, and I have been to the hangout a few times.

You don't really know me, but I can offer a perspective for you.

SL magnifies everything, from how good your butt looks, to how lonely it can feel when you most feel like you need to talk to a friend. There have been times in SL when I have felt the most lonely that I have ever felt in my life.

There have been times when I have felt surrounded by love and affection that have really made me feel great and lucky to have the friends I do.

Message boards are immersive, most people that wind up here are already pretty immersed in SL, and thus have a predilection to get online "stuff", and feel the empathy and general moods that emanate from the spoken/typed word online. Perhaps I am lucky, but while I enjoy lurking and the odd posting, I don't feel immersed in the forum, even though I am addicted to reading it to drain all the info I can find from it, I either block or don't really give a toss about any undercurrent.

I dunno that I can offer any solutions, all I can say is that I understand. If anyone elver wants to chat to someone when they feel lonely - please do IM me !

Hope your next phase starts soon

/me wonders what phase she is in
/me thinks its the divorce phase

I hope you're not referring to Claire, we are not married anyway, we are however very good friends...
who is she talking about?

I hope you're not referring to Claire, we are not married anyway, we are however very good friends...
who is she talking about?

I suppose it is inevitable...like death and taxes.
But when does one realize they are moving into phase two of their SL existence?

I seem to be going through some changes, and I don’t see them all as good; so I was hoping for some feedback: (yeah I am sure I left myself wide open to having my heart ripped out, but then again, this is the public forum):

*I am looking at deleting around half of my friends in my friends list.
*I am looking at becoming less social and focusing more on building, sculptures and texturing.
*I am becoming more and more disillusioned with the RA forum, and all the 'love' we feel for one another.
*I am beginning to see the thinly veiled contempt that is expressed more and more here in the forums, and it makes me feel like an outsider, ignored, alienated, unwanted, unloved in a two sided battle on the part of the forum family... a battle I refuse to join in on.
*I seem to be spending more and more time alone in world...not sure why, is it my own choice or do I have a disease?
* I am not as prone to dishing out humor as readily as I was in the recent past, avoiding getting shot down or completely ignored.
* I perceived myself as a very giving person with a lot to give, who is beginning to lose his sense of worth, feeling more and more like just another very tiny cog in the great picture of the SL universe.
*And to top it all off, it is beginning to depress me... I need a good laugh.

Or could all this be because my meds were changed recently?

Has anyone else experienced any of these symptoms, and are any of them valid symptoms in the phase II question, or do I just need to be locked quietly away in a padded cell somewhere???

I'm glad this thread is here, even though I haven't post in it until now.

Lately, I am either thoroughly bored with being in SL, or I am neutral, but I'm never 'up' these days. Right now, I'm just plain bored. I haven't wanted to socialise in a long time, I've never fancied exploring, I grew out of the 'romantic' side of things quite a long time ago, and I honestly don't know why I log in when I don't have to.

I can understand why there is such a large turnover of people, and I'm sure I would have turned over already had it not been for the business. This forum has sometimes produced some good bits for me since I started posting a few weeks ago. I do enjoy a good debate as long as they don't turn flamey, and I'm perfectly happy not to be agreed with, but there aren't many debates that I can get my teeth into. I really should be looking to do more in RL. There has been a huge imbalance since I registered with SL.

All these things are more interesting with a buddy (or Claire, of course). One looking for fun, not a date

Thanks Raymond.

As an honest estate owner who has no intention or likelihood of cheating my renters, I also feel slighted when I don't get named just because I'm not in the "in crowd."

I'd like to see a prominent sticky post, and canned response to the weekly "I got cheated" thread, that reads something like this:

"Estate land that you purchase can be reclaimed at any time by the estate owner, or could disappear if the Estate owner does not pay their tier. Linden Lab does not intervene in such events. Research any prospective landlord carefully, and perhaps ask current tenants their opinion. Asking for names in the forums generally invites an advertising frenzy, and will not give you an exhaustive list of all responsible estate owners. If you are not sure that you can trust your estate owner, then do not outlay any sum of money that you cannot afford to lose."

Just a suggestion.
-Avion

I know Raymond had the best of intentions. Really it grew out of the fact that there is a faction in the forums that makes a point of jumping on those "i got cheated by an Estate Owner" threads and indicates that no Estate Owner is trustworthy (they usually rent out Mainland, go figure). Ray was trying to add balance to such discussions, And of course the old truth that you can't please everyone came into play. Ray is as pure and innocent as the driven snow, and only meant well.

Ray is as pure and innocent as the driven snow, and only meant well.

/me wonders what phase she is in
/me thinks its the divorce phase