Being ignored in SL

Hello to all! I am pretty new to this forum thing, tho soon i'll celebrate my 1st rezday. The question is - have you ever been ignored in SL, when you try to talk with people, how was it like?

Sorry? I wasn't paying attention.

Do you mean ignored intentionally, or due to a malfunction ...

or due to people not paying attention ...

Ignored, why yes. But be sure you are talking to a person. I just rented a new plot, and whomever had it before subscribed to some sort of traffic, something. I get some 100 bots a day. No eggageration, like 10 at a time, TP in and float all hands and feet like some Indian gossess or something. All with no profile, no info, nada. So I am hoping they stop when their time runs out. So yes, they were unresponsive, seeing how they are just bots i let that one go.

As for people, sure, I am away most days. Come back with a few random messages usually. Don't intentially try and be rude, but when one is in Phtooshop or whatever, they don't really monitor SL much. So if somebody is not responding within the expected time frame, don't take it personally.

A lot of times what will happen is that people will log into Second life and while there will get a phone call or have to go answer the door or even a multitude of other things so they are not at their computer to answer you.

In addition even if we are on line at the time we may be responding to 6 different people all talking by IM to us and are simply overloaded.

Then some people are simply rude and wont talk to you at all unless you say something interesting to them that they want to respond to.

Try not to take it personally. Sometimes people don't speak the same language as you, or are away from the keyboard, or up to their butts in IMs and not even looking at the public chat window, or (as noted above) are not even real people at all.

I feel your frustration. I have complained before about people TPing into my place and walking around looking around, trying all the seats and dance balls and object givers, and never once respond to my warm greeting. It drives me batty. But, sadly, there's nothing you can do.

If you visit my place, and I am there, I promise I will not ignore you.

I try not to worry about it, Jeny. I have learned that some folks seem to have lots of IM windows open and active, and are frantically trying to keep up with the chat in each one of them. Then the RL phone rings, or an email notification comes up, or they are watching what's going on in the forums, or sorting inventory...

I just move on.

Here's the scenario that I find odd. I enter an almost completely empty boutique, and there is one lonely soul there, clearly shopping, moving about the store, clicking on items.. I say hello, and after a suitably long delay...get no response.

Ah well. I just do my shopping and move on...

I have been ignored intentionally outside of SL, ie in chatrooms, and found the action upsetting, particularly when ingored by a cluster of people.

The only experience in SL, is a lack of response, which as already indicated, is due to people being afk, or involved in other messages. In general, I have normally received an apology ...

The only other scenario, similar to the previous post is that of lack of chat when camping, something I find curious. I tend to concentrate on admin tasks now ...

I'd like to take this opportunity to apologize to everyone I've ever ignored.

I never would do it if I knew you were there but when I'm in world I'm usually working. While my av is standing there looking more or less alert I am working in an image editing program, reading and answering e-mail, IMing or focusing on something I'm building which might not be right in front of me.

I'm afraid sometimes people speak to me and I just don't realize it.

Besides, AFK, IM's, other things open in front of SL, busy, etc. there is also the issue of not knowing when someone is talking to ME. I've been out shopping and see chat now and again. Sometimes it's obvious two AV's are talking to each other. However, if someone just randomly says hello but not "Hello, Erebus", or just begins talking or asking questions, I just assume they are talking to someone else. I can't tell you're talking to ME if you don't say my name. I often shop by camming around or flying in big stores and 99% of the time I don't see another AV standing near me, or other AV's in the store anywhere, on the screen because my camera is focused somewhere else.

But don't take being ignored personally most times. Like other people have said, sometimes people are just not there, are busy or don't understand your language. And sometimes, like me, they just don't know you are talking to THEM in particular.

As to what it's like to try and talk to people... I generally don't try. If I'm shopping, I don't want to talk. If I'm working, I don't want to talk. I'm just generally not a very social person to start with. I will chat a little if I'm in a club, I will respond to someone saying hello with hello back (if I know they are talking to me). I'll answer questions if I know the answers, but, in general, I don't talk to people I don't already know.

Same here. It is really annoying when someone suddenly yells at you "HEY REYFER I'M TALKING TO YOU!!!!" when you had no idea they were actually talking to you, given that 20 more avatars are in the same room talking....if you are talking to me, how about starting by saying "hello Reyfer" instead of just "hello"?

You'll probably find that most of your fellow campers were just bots, Derek. Or maybe the person behind the av had set it camping while they slept in RL.

If it easier to know if someone is addressing me if they use my name..otherwise I just assume they are talking to someone else. And I use their name when speaking to them so they know in the chat line that I'm talking to them..helps a lot in a crowd.

I've been ignored - so I get out my butt scratch animation...and have a little fun! LOL

I've had people throw some pretty inventive strings of curses my way because I didn't know they'd been talking to me. I just write down some of the better ones and move on. LOL I've picked up a few choice phrases, in several languages, over the past year that way.

I do this too. I've come back into SL from photoshop and carry on about my business, later on opening the local chat window for whatever reason and seeing that someone had come up and said hello or asked a question. Lately I've been making sure I go to my workshop if I'm going to AFK for awhile, but I still get the times where I just step away from the computer and am gone longer than expected....so I always check the local chat when I come back to see if I missed anything and if someone did try and talk to me, even just a hello, I always send an IM saying I was AFK and not ignoring them.

Same here

I am often in my workshop all alone and realize later that while I wasn't paying attention someone came in and tried to talk to me. If I'm working at a building site I often station myself on a roof or somewhere out of site, but people still find me and start talking. If I realize it at the time I always try to be friendly and if I realized it later I too send IM's. But I'm afraid I'm just oblivious a lot of the time.

There's basically a couple of kinds of being ignored in SL. One is the usual one that happens anytime people meet up and is usually just caused by the same things as that.

One is the "demeshing" caused by the communications in SL. This covers things like IM sessions going dead because the reciever had to switch to a new tab, or had to be called away IRL. Usually I'll try to be polite by telling people when this happens, but in the case of a tab switch it's easy to forget because at the time you switch you can confidently believe you can carry on both conversations at once, no problem.

The third is simply being ignored in the sense of standing around in an empty house (or other build) with nobody there. And that's, well, just the reason why you can't quite do _anything_ you want in SL.

Oh yeah, that's a whole other can of worms. I often have several inventory and the edit window open, while carrying on several separate IM conversations and find myself typing into the wrong place and generally confusing myself and others.

If I'm in full shopping/exploration/IM mode, I'm absolutely NOT watching general chat. And even when I am paying attention to it, I second (third?) the issue with failure to use names ...I'm not going to respond if I'm not sure you're talking to me.

Sorry if you feel like you were. It does happen sometimes people just dont see you or there are those "clicky" people and do it on purpose. Dont worry though cause mostly people are pretty nice. Especially the ones who right off ask if you want to go try out the pose balls . Now those I ignore LOL.

You can get the feeling here also especially if you dont know that in some of the areas there is no response posting allowed. I used to feel ignored here and guess sometimes I still do cause when I reply people hardly refer to my posts. But then again I can look on the bright side and think that could be a good thing at least I'm not p***ing off anyone

If you ever come to my store and Im there I wont ignore you and happy almost Rez Day!

I think you've summed it up. The two possible explanations are
1. They were ignoring you on purpose because they're uninteresting jerks.
2. They didn't mean to ignore you.

I'd give them the benefit of the doubt until I know for sure.

Now, I can't believe that

Do you mean not welcomed in an area, while there are lots of ppls around or ppls replying when you try to talk to them?

I had a few nights where I fell asleep with the laptop still logged into SL, and didn't respond to IMs for hours.... but I always take care to respond to IMs to explain that I was sleeping.

Usually if I send an IM and get ignored, I assume they're having cybersex and I am not their #1 priority at that time, or that with the demise of the flashing IM panel, they don't know that I sent them a message.