SL Relationships/Marriage?

LOL, yes so true

/me nods

Interesting Question, "Do you dream of each other at night when you sleep?". The answer to this one is Yes, I Do dream of those i Love, and i see thier faces, and bodies, but oddly enough I see them not as Avatars, but as real people. Now Granted i've never seen them IRL, But in my dreams, i know them for who they are. The landscapes during these dreams are a mix of RL, and SL, But all the people are real.
Why?
The answer to that is simple, They are Real to me,, Our Love is real, Our relationship is real, They are Real.

As for the physical aspects of our affection,, I will let you know this much,, We share a Healthy relationship in that aspect as well, But the particulars are not Really anyone elses concern.

Angel.

/me bounces into the thread on a high and gives random huggles to all those having a rubbishy day. Hope it gets better for y'all.


Yes. The thing with dreams is that they just replay what is on your mind. It is your mind's way of working through issues you may have, or replaying parts of your day you enjoyed, or making your wishes an almost-reality. Anything you spend a significant amount of time on is going to manifest in your dreams - whether you remember the dream or not.
SL is such a big part of my life, how could I not dream about it? Yes i dream of the people/avatars/events in my SL life. I care about them and I enjoy spending time with them. I am fine with that - yes that includes all of you loverly people at the hangout lol .

I am not physically attracted to the avatar as such, it is more the person behind the avatar. The personality and how he makes me laugh and how he makes me feel about myself. I enjoy spending time with him. I don't think the look of anyone's avatar makes much difference to me.

ok, ok, I know... I'm rediculous. But I wished I had started a poll with this thread, so instead, I created a new thread that does have a poll.

Thank you all for answering the question and for not taking it the wrong way. Sometimes I piss people off because I word things wrong, well, you just can't please everyone.

HUGS!!

HERE'S THE NEW THREAD WITH THE POLL:

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We are the same also - Geo and I met in SL in January of 2007, were friends for a while and eventually got together and married in SL - He came over from the states to meet me in RL in July and we were married in RL on 27th December..... I know of a couple of other couples who have done the same..... Its nice to know we're not totally unusual

I think as long as you are open and honest with your prospective SL love/partner then your on the right lines.... often the best and strongest relationships are born from best friends.

PS - hope you two are as happy as we are

What an absolutely heart-warming story......the very best of luck to you both, and I mean this most sincerely. Just goes to show you that not only can you create the wildest and most imaginitive of builds, clothing etc...but you can also create relationships that are even more magical.

Why on earth isn't this particular aspect of SL highlighted more in the media????

QFT!

Excellent point!!

What I find annoying is people who ask: "Is your relationship online only or RL too?" I keep trying to find a polite way of saying: "It's none of your business."

Two thoughts came to mind here:

1. Reminds me of the Shania Twain song "That Don't Impress Me Much." For me, regardless of how "sexy" an avatar is, they have to have a sharp mind, great wit, intelligence, compassion among other things behind it.

2. "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder." Just as in RL, what one finds attractive in an avatar may not be to another. Example: In RL and SL I prefer light-skinned, blonde men. Ever notice how rare those are in SL???? I never gave the dark-haired AVs a second look.

That is one of my MOST favorite animations!!

For me, it just boggles the mind how anyone can truly love someone without being in their actual physical presence.

Maybe the physical side is too important to me, but to really be in love having never met? It's just an alien concept.

I can see a close friendship, with reservations and the knowledge that everyting the person tells me about their RL COULD be a lie. But love? How can you love someone when you have never seen their face? When you don't have a single shred of evidence that they are telling any truth?

I just could never imagine REALLY being in love with somone I"ve never met. Maybe it's me that has the trust problem, but it just seems so naive to invest that much emotion and risk so much emotional pain on something so ephemeral as an online-only realtionship.

Maybe the word "love" means something different to me than it does to some others?

I honestly don't mean this as an insult to anyone, it just doesn't seem real to me. How can you trust that much?

Kind of comes down to whether or not you are the type of person who feels you can only "love" romantically the one person you want to be with IRL.

OR if you believe you are capable of having romantic love feelings for more than one person.


Those people in the second category, whether their online trysts are exclusive or not, don't see the disconnect.

Those in the former category are only going to be "in love" with one person. SO it is either RL , or its online with the idea that RL is close down the road.

I don't think either is "wrong" just different views on what Love is to them.

I couldn't have said it better!!!!!!! This is exactly the kind of relationship I have with my partner!

I would truly like to find someone to marry in SL. I don't want a relationship with them, but there are some beautiful wedding gowns out there, and I just want an excuse to buy one and have someplace to wear it.

Buy one and wear it dancing, just don't put the veil on. There are usually so many parts to them that you can dress them up or down anyway that you want. I own a few myself and don't ever plan on getting sl married. I just love the innocense of a sweet white gown now and then.

Without reading all of the posts on this subject I don't consider my partner to be an "avatar". She is a real live person, as far as I know, unless some SL bot has taken control of her.

What was the question again?

Just to wear a dress, huh?

A quick non-meaningful marriage then? Sounds just about right in sl where most marriages are just like that in terms of time they usually last.

Lol, hmm I t can get complicated when you feel comfortable in SL as a furry and RL appearance partners get interested, I have a human account that is RL me, but don't use it for much, Furries and humans seems a bit weird to me but a bunny and a fox is somehow ok
But then I uses SL as escapism , but somehow would like to find a partner who shares a similar dream and similar RL interests within a 50km area of my RL home , I don't want much

LOL.

I bought a wedding gown by accident. Truthfully! It was in a sale and i bought it without realising quite what it was lol. Beautiful, but it is quite obviously a wedding gown... I don't have a clue how I missed the fact, it is that obvious.

uhhhhh-huh....


I almost fell for that once.

Then she 'accidentally' told her parents I proposed.

Ironic. The last thing I have ever wanted is an SL wedding. Urgh! The only ones I have been to which had any sense of anything were ones with a RL relationship attached to them. But I digress.

I'm going to wear a kimono.

Ooo...a kimono sounds lovely

Our partnership ceremony (we chose not to call it a wedding, marriage, etc.) was done with a Medieval theme, complete with period attire and held in the gardens of a castle. I love that gown and wear it on special occasions to Avilion.

Oh the questions that would raise... lol.
I even wish I had done it on purpose...then I wouldn't feel quite so foolish lol. I don't want a SL wedding, but this dress...... its not even like i can cut it up a bit to make a normal dress...the whole thing is beaded and white and so not appropriate for anything else. It's just gonna sit the until some one wants something borrowed lol, or i can foist it on some unsusecting newb wihout them going wierd on me lol.
Suppose I could resell it...

My RL husband and I have thought about an SL wedding. We're partnered on here, but not SL married. The reason I gave it any consideration was because we didn't get to have the whole "long white dress, etc" wedding. Due to immigration laws in the US, we had to be married within 90 days of his arrival with his fiance VISA. You can plan an elaborate wedding in RL in that amount of time. I could make some preliminary arrangements before he arrived, but we just didn't have the money for anything really big, and besides that, I wasn't going to commit us to a lot until he was actually here. Suffice it to say that there were some moments when I doubted he would ever really make it back here from England for us to get married.....lol. I kind of miss that I didn't get the whole "big" wedding thing, although our's was nice for what it was.

However, we just haven't had much time to sit down and actually plan an SL wedding, and I'm not sure it's even worth the extra lindens at this point.

I met him online, but i can't say we were really "in love" just through our conversations and online contact. It definitely took meeting in RL to make sure that we really had the connection we thought we had. I think you can be "in infatuation" during a purely online relationship, but the actual love might take a RL meeting to cement.