Another bitching thread...

And if she was interested, why didn't she approach you after a while?

Neither of them threw the six they needed to make them contact the other.

Pep (Not a game? )

Women and men often do not have the same desires / interests in how they approach sexuality and sexual interests - but a lot of people fail to understand this, and many that do understand it just assume the other sex is 'wrong' and needs to change to match their needs.

But a few million years of evolution won't change to match one person's notions of what a fair world would be like.

A lot of these people take it a step further down the wrong way... they assume the other side actually does thing like them and is just playing games - so they don't communicate their desires well, or use forms of communication the other sex is not trained to understand. Men, yeah - are from Mars. Speaking Venusian at them doesn't work. SPEAKING IT LOUDLY doesn't help either. Just like Speaking English LOUDLY and S L O W L Y doesn't help much when trying to deal with the villagers in the Amazon on your eco-tourism trip...

Sometimes you just have to shrug and accept that if you're going to hunt, you're going to have to deal with the prey as it comes...


That said, yeah... a lot of guys are jerks.
- But what annoys me is the possession element that I often have to deal with. When people start acting like I'm a commodity to be owned.

Being a child of the 70s, I have a different perspective on that. All through they'd be putting us in little auditorium sessions and sex ed classes and telling the guys that no means no, not maybe, and never yes.

Message for me was loud and clear: If you want of of them, better never say no, or even maybe. If you spend 13 years of primary school telling the guys to act one way of they're pigs, then you get out there into dating where real human instinct is different than the social agenda was... they're going to be awfully confused...

If you do play hard to get, you risk getting the kind of guys that didn't care about hearing that message; wife beaters, drunken bastards, etc. That message was telling them to care about women's feelings. It relayed it in a poor way, but that was the goal. The kind of guys that don't care about that are better off avoided.

Females tend to be very clingy in sl. Most guys don't like that, they like space to breathe.

Don't know why but for some reason I thought the op was talking about themselves in op and not about friends.

Answer a) Some more clichés you'd like to share?

Answer b) "I need space to breathe!" is the most overused excuse of guys everwhere who just want a good lay without emotional hassle.

To be fair, she didn't make blanket comments but pointed out, more than once, that she *wasn't* including all men, just the ones that she feels behave badly.

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Well, someone's got the message then.

Pep ("It's not you - it's me."

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Interesting...I've found that the females in SL who are the most intriguing and interesting are definitely not clingy...rather they want to take a cautious approach.

LMAO, I declare Desmond today's thread winner, good job

No need to worry about anyone clinging to you, Harris. You make John Gotti seem sticky.

I only asked if she wanted to go catch a movie, not jump in bed with me, and her words were "sorry, but I'm not interested", that's pretty much a "no" in my book, we saw each other plenty of times afterwards at other occassions, and she didn't demonstrate otherwise, so why bother wasting time chasing someone who can't give a straight answer.

Last I heard she had a drug overdose because she was pregnant to some arsehole who did a runner with someone else to the other side of the country. I'm even less interested now and it probably wouldn't have worked out anyway, but a date isn't a committment, it's a chance for 2 people to find out more about each oher.

Maybe she wanted to see how many times she could bluff or lie and get away with it?