Second Life Couples

THANKS TO EVERYONE WHO HAS RESPONDED TO THIS POSTING AND SHARED THEIR STORIES OF RL/SL LOVE. THE STORY HAS BEEN FILED AND I WON'T BE NEEDING ANY MORE EXAMPLES.

Catherine

Wanted: Second Life couples...

I have a press request for people who met in SL and got married in RL, or who met in SL and just got married in SL, and never felt the need to take the relationship outside the game. Both types are interesting.

The reporter is exploring the idea of whether it is possible to fall in love online, and really to be in love before you have even met the person face to face. She is also interested in how the attraction is different to if you met them face to face, and whether it varies for different online communication channels—virtual world, VOIP, IM, IRC chat room, email, web cam etc.

If you'd like to learn more about the opportunity, please email me at [email]catherine@lindenlab.com[/email].

Please include your SL name, your partners name, how long you've been together, whether you have taken the relationship out of SL or not and some times you would be available to speak via phone or in-world.

I won't be able to contact people who do not send all that information.

Thanks for your help,
Catherine

<grinning> What? You don't want info on people who are Married in RL and bring it into SL with them?

I'm HURT!

I mean, myself and Botany have been happily married for nearly 13 years, and now have over six months of SL partnership to go with it!

Considering the divorce rate, I figure that we still LIKE each other at all is newsworthy, let along that we like to spend time together both online and off.

Ah, such is life. And to the rest of you, enjoy your partners! In SL or out, people should share their lives with others!

sorry i dont kiss and tell i dont spread my life around for every one to see

Not any ones Lab Experimant

LMAO
Beautiful, Looks like LL sucks eggs on this one eh?

What about those couples who are married in RL and at least one of them has a different partner in game? Or even better, couples who are married in RL, one of them has a different partner in game and it almost ruined or did ruin the RL marriage?

well perhaps because it is *cough* advertisment *cough* and the goal is to make more people come in SL ... not run away from it lol

yes, but I'm EVIL!!!

well finally after some thoughts it -could- bring some people to SL ... couples coaches, psychanalist, couples therapists ... and of course lawyers for divorces

I've got the granddaddy of them all!

I met Miles Sullivan (SL name) on an online service for Commodore 64 computers (called Quantum Link) in 1988. We dated for a couple of months and then went our seperate ways.

In 1999, someone posted a comment about Quantum Link to an email group I belonged to. Turns out, that person was Miles. We exchanged a few emails at that time about our previous dating experience with each other.

In 2001, I ran into him on AOL. We became best friends and things were good for a year. We had a huge falling out and stopped speaking.

I found him again on a personals website back in December. We had dinner the next night and immediately fell for each other. He introduced me to SL and now I'm hooked (okay, BEYOND hooked). We're madly in love with each other in both RL & SL and look forward to building a future together in both worlds. So, we're an RL couple whose relationship is strengthened and enhanced via SL.

The internet has been responsible for our paths crossing repeatedly. Finally, the moon and stars are in alignment and we're getting the message.

Hah. It wasn't sl that ruined my ex rl marriage, but if it had, it would have been a GOOD thing. Thank Goddess TSO ruined my ex rl marriage. well ok, didn't ruin it, but brought the undercurrent of awfulness to the surface. Any marriage that is going to suffer damage from an online world is on its last leg anyway imo.

Oh! and Jinx and I met in SL and saw each other for the 2nd time last week irl. Dunno what it was about him... maybe those SL bunny slippers! =D

Here, Here - How about folks like hubby (Bran Brodie) and I who have know each other for more than 20 years and have been RL married for 10 years and came into SL together as a couple?

Oh well - guess we are boring or something Foolish.

WOW! this could really bring up a topic for "The Jerry Springer Show" LOL

My DH met online in IRC chat network 8years ago.. We played TSO together, THen went to There together, now we are in SL together. We Play Games together to get a break from RL stresses. And since our relationship started in "chat" so it just feels natural to continute our relationship in a Chat based environment And hey, what better way to play Tringo/slingo/bingo/everyingo and cuss together then having other people around you thinking your an idiot by screaming at your monitor? LOL

In other words, the reporter is filing a puff piece - maybe getting ahead on Valentine's Day 2007.

People falling in love without meeting face to face is nothing new - it's been happening for decades, if not centuries (via letters). Who knows when the Grandaddy of them all really is? (I met a fellow recently who met his wife via a pen pal service - in 1947, they've been married for fifty years this year.) I'm old enough to recall the spate of storied about people meeting and falling in love via CB radio back during that craze.

Will have to agree. Vince Wolfe and I will have our 15 yr RL anniversary tomorrow(I feel very fortunate to have made it thus far) and have been in SL together a 'lil over a year.

My fiancee' (past half-way point of getting her VISA tocome to the US) met on AOHell and got virtually married in another online world so I'm guessing we wouldn't fit the profile though we've moved our interests here. An though she know nothing of it as yet we "may" be renewing our (Virtual) vows here in SL before she returns to me for our RL wedding. We only met face to face last June/July after six years together online...

if u even have to ask that question lol

did Catherine fall off the planet?? has she replied back to anyone on this?? I sent her an email, never heard a word, hmmmmm anyone else???

Hey everyone,

This has certainly been a hot topic! I wanted to follow up to a couple of the comments that were made here..

1) Unfortunately, I don't have time to read forum posts, so if you want me to see your story please please email me.

2) Press stories almost always have a quick turnaround...like yesterday so oftentimes, I need to talk with someone right away. Emails that come 2 or 3 weeks after I've laid a story to rest get put in a folder of people to follow up with. I'm sorry if I've neglected you.

And finally, it does feel like I've fallen off the face of the earth. We are incredibly busy these days and I'm desperately looking for a new marketing coordinator...check out lindenlab.com/employment. Help!

That being said, I am extremely appreciatiive of everyone who chose to share their RL/SL love story. In fact, I'm grateful to everyone who wants to tell me what they are doing in Second Life.

Thanks again and I appreciate your patience,

Catherine

Where ya looking Cat?

Yes most definity you can find love online. Do you think you would have met half the people you do in Second Life in your Real Life. Hell no and they maybe the one you are suppose to end up with. And as far as damaging your RL relationship. Well what i have seen is there is always a problem to begin with if your escaping to another word. The big problem is once you become addicted to second life and spend more and more time in game you forget to work on the things in your real life. I have seen a hand full of couples fall in love online. And to me the reason it tends to be so good is there is no worry of finances, looks, habits, etc... until you bring it to real life and by then you are so deep into that person those things dont really matter anymore. Online love to me can sometimes be even better then meeting them real life first. All you can do is talk or type online so you are getting a deeper sence of who eachother is. And from experiance meeting someone real life for the first time after knowing them only online is nerve racking at first but can only get better unless they turn out to be a wack job. Take what you will from this

I was flying around looking for land after a big sl break, starting new. I flew by this hill and was heading one way when something made me look back at the land for sale on the hill. I checked the profile of the house next door and didn't think much of it.. girl, who made clothes... I could have flew on to find something else and remember starting too, but for some reason, I didn't. I bought the land. The next day I met the girl in the house.. she flew up to say hello. That was a year ago.

That moment changed things for me in sl. I like to think of it as fate.

and as far as love goes...

I love Joella

He is right who knew a year ago we would be so much in love in SL and RL. We have had a strong connection since the start. We used to say because we where from the same area in RL but TBH even if we where from different countries I beleive the feeling would be the same. He has been my rock thru it all. I'm just glad my friends from TSO dragged my butt into this game because since I met and fell in love with Dominic my life has never been the same. My choice for SL and RL is Dominic always..... I love Dominic

GET A ROOM YOU TWO!!!

Your turning this into a public love letter!


LOL


I know these guys BTW


Its a HOT topic and actually the 1st post in the forum is what caught my attention.


Its so much 'easier' to be unfaithful online, we tell ourselves ' it's not real' ' It doesnt count because I dont physically have a connection'

I dread to think of all the husbands & fathers paying L$ ( $$ ) for escorts and what comes for a higher price with the escorts as wifey and children sleep in bed hes masterbating ( yeah I know its gonna get unplugged for me saying this but hey its the truth!) in his study.

Love is great but its very rarley 'easy'

Having had an online now RL partner for 3 yrs met in TSO life WAS simpler and easier when it was just online.

Then he was suddenly single and the rules changed...not his fault....its life and human nature.
I could of left...but couldnt. Loved and needed him way too much by then.

Yes my RL relationship is on its ass I spend my time in my PC room whilst he gave up trying and now spends his time in EVE online.

We speak more to ppl online than we do each other.

Its a sad state of affairs and as Joella says there were issues b4 I met my online chap...or I wouldnt of gone looking ( even if I wasnt aware I was looking at the time)

Just like ANY relationship RL or OL it 'can' be hard, complex and painful when the balance of what one of you wants from it changes.

The best PURE online relationships are those were both partners are already involved.
You each know your limits, theres no demands silent or otherwise made...and you both fill the voids each others RL relationships have developed over the years.
Im not saying its morally correct. I am just saying these are the most succesful Online (only) relationships I think.

And of course those were both partners are single in RL

I could go on but ppl I know and care about could read this....welcome to my web LOL

I do agree with it and had said the same things about being better is you are both in the same situation in RL be it both married or both single. BUT...... when you start one way start having feeling and then bam one of your lives change what then. From my experiance by then you are exstreamly close friends and want to be there for the other person. Then love comes in and your heart takes over.Nothing in RL or SL is easy but you have to ask yourself if its worth it. For me it has been.

And then you get the ones Like me and my RL/SL Hubby! We had played SWG together for a couple of years, got tired of all the down-grades and poor CS.

He found SL,intoduced me to it. Now we are partners in SL as well as real life. We share our on-line Playtime, yes we often are off in different Sims doing our own thing,however you also will find us at the Sunset Jazz Club or The Lily Pad or simalar places, slow dancing or sitting cuddled up together listening to some of SL's Finest Live Musicians.

Sometimes one or both of us has to travel for our Biz, sometimes in Different directions and SL gives us a place to at least spend some virtual time together when we have to be apart.

So yes there are Sl couples out there who are a product of dysfunctional relationships,
and there are a few happy married couples sharing a SL almost as fullfilling as their RL one together.
BTW our daughter plays Teen SL so it has become a family activity.

For every negative there is a positive!