Feel a bit alone

hey all...

Please could you give me some great places to hangout! I am just finding it a little hard to meet new people! When I go to someplace, it seems everyone else is already there with their friends! lol So I dont really get any responses to a Hi from lil old me!

I was attracted to SL quite a bit because of the social side... but in truth I am not getting that vibe!

I spend a lot of my time decorating my house or shopping, and the rest going off to "popular" places to try and meet others.... but its just not happening...

So any ideas of any place I could go to?

Thank you all in advance

Go to search in-world and click on GROUPS tab. Start searching key words of things that interest you: Role Play, Battle, Live Music, Political Discussion, etc. There are hundreds of open enrollment social groups available. Try 25 at a time (your group limit) and switch off to new ones as you find out more info by scanning the profiles of the people you meet in your groups. And think of starting your own open enrollment group. Try starting the ARE YOU NEW & LONELY? group.

It's not how popular, hon, but what kinds of Parties/gatherings they have. Hunt down the events in classifieds, or listen around, and attend as many as you can.
Events allow people to interact free for all, and it really helps establish a friend base.

We'll have an outer space party

The New Citizens group is a great place to start. Lots of classes in building, scripting, land ownership etc. Always someone online to answer questions and they have very busy locations with lots of freebies.

Tiana,

I had the same problem a while ago. I am a bit on theshy side and not particularly outgoing. Many of my good friends I met at the Lone star in Heartland. Its a very friendly place full of nice people. Youmaynot like country westrrn music though. Another great place is the Blarney Stone Pub in Dublin. They generally have good music, and wonderfully eccentric and witty patrons.

The other bit of advice I have is find some things that interest you in RL, search for them in SL and you will probably find a lot of people with similar interests.

Good luck and ENJOY!!!

Open search. Use Places Tab. type in a keyword that interests you. (Optional: Check the Include Mature Content Box) Hit search. Visit the places that come up. Repeat the process using the "Groups" tab. join some groups, read the announcements for their events. Ignore the "Popular" places Tab. Don't be afraid to talk to people as you go.

See, look at all the people that responded to you (my sense of time is like way off...). My advice is do a lot of wandering, find a sim that you like and just chill out there. There are lots of quirky places out there with their own personality that attract people with the same kind of personality. I can't say I'm the most social of people either, but I am patient.

Honestly I find that in a lot of places people tend to segregate themselves into cliches and not talk to newcomers. People can be pretty wary of others they don't know. But if they sound cool and seem friendly just hang around. They'll chat with you a little and come to know you over time. That's how some of my deepest friendships have spawned is just by staying in one place. I typically don't friend a person unless I talk to them on a regular basis.

Sims that pull a LOT of traffic are both good and bad places to try. On the one hand there is probably a pretty diverse group of people, on the other hand there are a lot of creeps. There will be the people who are regulars and the people who are just passing through. I prefer regulars because they are more likely to provide a consistent social base, but you never know who you'll meet.

Best advice is to just concentrate on things that interest you and search for those. In fact IM me in world (if I don't IM you first) and we'll chat a bit, maybe I can help you find someplace neat to hang out.

I've always found that the Shelter was a great place to go talk to people. They are set up to especially help new residents, and there are a bunch of freebies too. Every time I've been there, there's been a good group of friendly people dancing, chatting, and having a great time. I don't have the coordinates, but it should come up in the Places search.

Hey all,

I just want to say thank you so much... some fantastic ideas
I did have someone that I hung around with, we met on my day one.. lol and when then went a bit sour, I was sort of starting all over, as all the friends I had made were their friends, it can be hard as I love meeting new people and like to think I can be easy to get along with!

Thank you all again .

It's funny. In RL I am one of the last people to go to a crowded dance club or a party.
When I came to SL in September I was kinda lonely and down.

I just met people everywhere I went and the 'safety' of my being warm and dry and unseen at my computer just inspired me to talk to absolutely anyone!

I've never looked back. Just relax, let your hair down and party! Last night I just cruised into a similar named place to the one I was looking for and out of the three people there, two (a couple in RL) are even in my county! LOL

Hiya, I have a good group of friends here, but their all paired off & go off together now so i'm alone abit. If you ever wanna hang with me then just add me to your friends list under this name. You can check my profile, I like to get to know as many people as possible, more to annoy!

The responce you got off the forums, is similar to the responce you can get ingame. I spent weeks hanging out at different places, just saying Hi to everyone, even without responce. It didn;t take long before I got responces, now they can't get rid of me LOL

Pop over to Club Raw...it's in search. Great club with friendly ppl....if ya need a LM IM me inworld.

Mandy C

If you say "Hi" include the name of the person you are greeting.

I do not respond to just "Hi" from someone I don't know, because I assume they are talking to someone else (i.e. to someone they DO know).

Hey Tiana,

Welcome to SL! If you get a chance, pop over to the Prim Limit. We're a small, friendly club, and we love to meet new people. We also give free Notecards with a list of our favorite places to go in SL.

Read people's profiles. *IT's OK to do so* See what groups they belong to. See what their picks are. Ask them about the places. When all else fails...just wander. There is no time limit. No rush. Enjoy the world in between crashes and updates.

Very good point, I've had people get annoyed at me for being rude when I had no idea they were talking to me!

Aside from that, just do the obvious and don;t be a wallflower. Go where others who like what you like will be. There's at least one club/pub/thing in SL for every interest going! Even get to know the staff somewhere, you can meet people through them over time especially if you become a regular visitor.

And if you do happen to annoy someone, which may happen as there are people who seem to forget they were new once...just apologize and move on, Don't worry about it.

We geocache all over the metaverse, hold events and hang out. And its a fun sport also. slgeocaching.com

It's very different from an IRC chatroom then. In those, if you just say hi without adding a name, people assume you are saying hi to everyone. In LL, if you just say hi without a name, people assume you are saying hi to no one?

My advice would be if you're in a place and someone says hi, assume it's a general greeting and say hi back. That way we might all start to make friends more quickly and easily

Hi Tiana

As you can see from the replies there is no need to feel lonely in sl

I would recommend The Boathouse, a small friendly place where you always will be made welcome - it's a place I keep going back to.

IM me inworld for a landmark if you can't find it.

Enjoy!

I usually hang out at the Plum Welcome area. When things get a little to noisy and chaotic I wander, visit Money Trees, and visit a club some of the people in Plum told me about. Really though it depends on your interests, maybe find open groups that share your interests.

You are never alone in Second Life.

The Candle Society is a great place for new people to hang out as well; lots of information and landmarks to fun places.