I actually kept the notecard, because, well, I shapechange a LOT. Into a LOT of things.
My copy of the notecard is dated April 1, 2007 and reads (in part) as follows:
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1. DRESS CODE:
Clothing worn upon these sims must be medieval in nature (16th-17th century). Everyone must wear appropriate clothing on the Avilion sims, whether you be a guest or part of the community.
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HUMAN CHARACTERS: Human characters have a different dress code than fantasy creatures. If you are playing as a human female, you are automatically a "Lady" upon these sims, and must wear a gown. There are no exceptions to this rule. Human males must dress as they would have in medieval times.
SHAPE SHIFTERS: Your "current" form is subject to the above rules.
If you are, for example, a human female whom shape shifts into a Drow, your human form is subject to the rules for a human female, and your Drow form is subject to the rules of fantasy creatures. You MUST make sure your current form meets the dress code.
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1. DRESS CODE:
Clothing worn upon these sims must be medieval in nature (16th-17th century). Everyone must wear appropriate clothing on the Avilion sims, whether you be a guest or part of the community.
[...sniiiip....]
HUMAN CHARACTERS: Human characters have a different dress code than fantasy creatures. If you are playing as a human female, you are automatically a "Lady" upon these sims, and must wear a gown. There are no exceptions to this rule. Human males must dress as they would have in medieval times.
SHAPE SHIFTERS: Your "current" form is subject to the above rules.
If you are, for example, a human female whom shape shifts into a Drow, your human form is subject to the rules for a human female, and your Drow form is subject to the rules of fantasy creatures. You MUST make sure your current form meets the dress code.
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To me, that does NOT say I cannot use a male shape/skin and then wear men's clothing if I so choose. Wouldn't be the first time, and won't be the last. *grins*
I don't see it any worse than being a staff member at a renaissance faire - simaler rules apply, you have to at least look the part you're assigned.
Beeboo, if you don't mind gender-bending once in a while, that's probably the answer to your dilemma right there.