Big SL Wall Street Journal article Friday - lovers, take note...
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Oryx Tempel
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08-11-2007 12:00
From: Victorria Paine No. For *you* it is. For couples who are comfortable with their spouse/partner having a SL relationship with someone else that is confined to SL (or not) the landscape is different. While your views are certainly valid for you and your husband (as it's only your business in the context of that relationship), please don't generalise those views to be applied to everyone. OK, good point. I was thinking about this some more re: Living in SL as oppsed to RL... I've got an SL friend who got hit by a car and broke his neck. He's not completely paralyzed but is very limited in movement; his lungs are slowly filling with fluid because he can't breathe fully, and he has some memory loss. He's not married. In this case, SL is a godsend to him. He can walk and dance and fly and not be bound by his failing RL body. If he chooses to immerse himself in SL, more power to him. At least he's keeping somewhat social. |
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Victorria Paine
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08-11-2007 12:06
From: Oryx Tempel OK, good point.
I was thinking about this some more re: Living in SL as oppsed to RL... I've got an SL friend who got hit by a car and broke his neck. He's not completely paralyzed but is very limited in movement; his lungs are slowly filling with fluid because he can't breathe fully, and he has some memory loss. He's not married. In this case, SL is a godsend to him. He can walk and dance and fly and not be bound by his failing RL body. If he chooses to immerse himself in SL, more power to him. At least he's keeping somewhat social.  A lovely anecdote! |
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Brenda Connolly
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08-11-2007 12:13
From: Victorria Paine A lovely anecdote! Yes and sadly, there is a mindset among some that wants to keep injecting our real life selves more and more into SL where it would be impossible for people such as that to even exist in SL. And that is not right.
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Phoenix Psaltery
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08-11-2007 12:17
I am happily married to the same person in both RL and SL, and I can't imagine it any other way. However, I realize that not everyone views life through the same color glasses.
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Imogen Saltair
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08-11-2007 12:28
Quote "The real Mrs. Hoogestraat is no stranger to online communities -- she met her husband in a computer chat room three years ago. Both were divorced and had adult children from previous marriages, and Mrs. Hoogestraat says she was relieved to find someone educated and adventurous after years of failed relationships."
Something tells me that the real Mrs Hoogestraat wasn't too unhappy when he was spending a lot of time talking to her on the computer, when they met... Sounds like she expected him to change when they married... that doesn't always happen.
The issue here is foggy, to my mind.
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Colette Meiji
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08-11-2007 12:54
From: Brenda Connolly I feel bad for the wife, but he has issues that go beyond Second Life, and chances are he would cheat no matter what, Still kinda messy though. I wonder if he was messing with someone in say Yahoo, or MSN, would it have made the papers? You have to wonder why someone would let such a personal thing be shared all over the place on the news. |
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Oryx Tempel
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08-11-2007 13:31
From: Imogen Saltair Sounds like she expected him to change when they married... that doesn't always happen.
SO TRUE! |
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WannaPiEcE Crabgrass
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08-11-2007 13:34
Well I cant blame him for pursuing a different relationship, look at his RL wife  |
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Victorria Paine
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08-11-2007 13:36
From: Oryx Tempel SO TRUE! LOL I would say that if you expect someone to change after you marry in a way that is predictable to you, you need to back away from the table, stand up, and head for the door. Just my $0.02. |
