Do you REALLY know your virtual lover?

I cried when I read your story, it proves that love has no boundaries, we all need to be reminded of this....

*sigh* Sukky asked me to cook some eggs, I figured what the heck, crumbled some Doritos in and she freaked haha!!!!

So I met this guy and he seemed to be everything I ever said I wanted in man! Amazing, yes? He literally turned out to be to good to be true.

Turns out this guy has been my close friend in SL, a female, since early February. She said she was gay and did hit on me, but since I am not into women she didnt get anywhere with me. We did become close friends however.

We shopped, tried on skins, swapped clothes, had hours of "girl talk" that included many of my thoughts about relationships and men. I helped her learn her way in SL and introduced her to my friends. She was welcomed into my SL life.

Not long ago this guy appeared on my sim, a new member. He asked for my help and I spent many hours assiting him with hair, clothes, a skin..I even made his avie for him into a very hot sexy stud. He wooed me, romanced me, sweet talked me and seemed to push every button I could wear. He knew what I wanted, and he seemed to be "perfect, " at least for me.

I was amazed. It took about one week for me to put it all together. My "friend" was both he and she.

The female who had befriended me for months, and who had shared confidences with me as a friend was also this guy who was courting me. The female would talk to me as a friend to get info on what I thought of the male. She deceived me big time. He would be with me, while logged on as the female lesbian avie and be having cyber sex as a lesbian pretending to me with a male. Confusing? You bet but more than that it was so damn deceptive.

He paraded as a lesbian woman to have sex with women he would never stand a chance with. He paraded as a female in order to have homosexual cyber sex with men and deceve them into thinking he was female. He created the male avatar to try to trap me into a relationship wiht him after I had turned him down. He was, and still is, lying to everyone about his gender in order to have sex with them.

I still dont know with certainty whether he is a male pretending to be a female, or a female pretending to be a male. I really dont care about that, but I do think the deception is so wrong.

So boys and girls be warned....he/she is still out there in SL deceiving people into thinking he/she is someone they are not, and using that for sex. He/she is in a club right now hitting on people. I am not offended by sexuality and preferences , but I despise a lying predator.

EDITED TO ADD THIS: For the record, the male account he is using now is a very recent creation. The female account is a few months old and she advertises herself as a party girl. Anyone wanting to know what accounts this deceptive person is using, especially if involved with someone you suspect, please IM me inworld.

Daz where's my eggs???

This is extrememly dishonest and completely disreguardeds your feelings as a person and a friend. The two av thing Ive heard of people doing before, It amazes me the complexity people like this will go to to manipulate a situation.

People use the anonymity of online games / chat room to do some really nasty things. =(

About a year ago online I dated a "woman" for five months who finally admitted to me he lied bout his RL age and RL gender.

Now I know theres many poeple to whom RL facts do not matter. But there are people to whom they do. Those people like in Kat's post should stick to the roleplayers. If it matters to one person in the possible relationship, it matters.

Well, I am crazy about the "Monster Mash" man as he likes to be called...

But the real truth is, who cares how well you really know them as long as you have that GOM account number tucked away somewhere in your "safe deposit" box ladies...

After all, wasn't that in the wedding vows, for better, for worse, as long as he has the GOM account.

*BIG WINK*

(tongue firmly planted in cheek)

Love you Mash, I am the luckiest woman in Second Life !

Well I think you never know anyone fully. For me, part of a relationship is growing and watching the person unfold before you, making each day special. In every relationship we run the risk of the person not being who they say they are. I have heard tales of men who lived entire alternate lives with another family, or families. The internet carries a bigger risk for deception than other places.

But there are layers of trust we build up, based on what we are told, and what we can observe. I like to think a relatiohsip should have the benefits of both worlds. But trust is built and takes time, and all we can do is hope we find out sonner than later.

As far as credit card and bank account info-well I will make that information availble the day after I am married, not before.

Oh and Collette I agree. If it matters to one person, then it matters, so be sure these things a re talked about in the beginning. SL for me is not really a place I role play, so I am interested in rl information. Be honest, you have no reason to lie. If your SL is a work of role play fiction, thats fine, but some hint in the profile would help. I may still enjoy roleplaying with you, but I won't feel deceived when I find out.

heh Jake has a point theres no reason to give someone youve met your credit card info unless you share bills and its more convienent.

IE live together/ Married.

Even married my Credit card numbers are not the same as my Husbands. He has seperate ones on the same account.

As far as your account info , I assume this would be so your partner could log on for some reason? SL Business? Fix an attachment? I dunno lol. Havent run into a situation where its needed. I woudlnt hesitate to share my account info with my love in game though if she needed it.

I married mine last year and so far no deceptions have come to light. She's an amazing woman who comes at face value and that is a rare find in this world.


Envejece conmigo, todavía falta lo mejor.

¡Besitos mi amor!

It's obvious someone really hurt you Eboni.

I believe that people rise to your level of expectations of them. You get what you believe, no more, no less.

As for trusting people on here, I've learned: if you are fake, they will be too. If you are real, they will be too. Of course there are buttheads, but they are easy to sort out.

As for my SL partner? He brought me in with him. We sit next to each other and enjoy our SL too!

Yes I do know my SL lover and will know him in rl too! We plan SL marriage/partnering very soon and if all goes well maybe in rl too. He is the most honest, trustworthy man I have ever met and he taught me and is still teaching me about how to be the best person I can be. So, please don't take a bad experience with you all of your life. There are good men in SL and in RL. I love Zonax, my guy with all my heart and know that some guys are NOT like him. But you never know. Maybe tomorrow you will find a great guy and be just as happy as we are!! I will cross my fingers for you