A woman's needs

He didn't stick with her through her comment though. Seems like he was plotting revenge against her by taking her shopping and then [sarcasm]he got her back but good [/sarcasm]. He did have all night to think about it. She just didn't feel like having sex. Big freaking difference there. And to top it all off, she's the bitch in this scenario? Nice guy....

From a guys way of thnking, what he did was equal. To attempt to call it sexist just because of a womans point of view is sexist in itself.

Sooo from a guy's way of thinking, sitting up and plotting revenge for getting no sex is equal? Geesh

changing our mind at the last minute is fair for the gander as well as the goose

Obviously if a woman isnt meeting our emotional needs we dont need to give them gifts

Hmmm for some reason my husband thought that was awfully.


jk... I laughed too.

There are lots of times when I haven't been in the mood... but I wouldn't ever wait until AFTER I've got him sweating to tell him that. There are always instances when something stops you and breaks your mood sure but a woman who does that intentionally is just playing manipulative games. This story is just a joke and no actual people were involved so without attributing any emotional crisis to the situation, i'd say she had it coming.

*ducks and hides from the backlash*

It doesn't say whose passion. It could be his passion. And it doesn't say physical passion. We have no reason from that comment alone to assume she was teasing him. Prior to this they've merely gotten in bed. She could've been looking cute or maybe women in prone positions are enough to get dude going.

If she says she doesn't feel like it and she just wants him to hold her this is what she means:

1. quit poking me with that thing and kiss my neck a little... then maybe in a bit. OR

2. tell me how special I am to you and make me feel loved and then maybe, OR

3. it's been a rough day or i'm on my period or whatever other reason and I don't feel like sex.

So, to be fair to Jonas, it is true that women (like men) can mean lots of different things by a comment that may, at first, appear to be a shut down. It isn't necessarily, though.

I think it is true that we live in an age where women try to get what they want indirectly, still. they are still taught that it is better to make men feel like the men are in control and manipulate men to do what they want. I suck at that, so I never do. Plus, then one is always having to simper and rely on someone else's good graces.

Considering the context of it being a joke with a punchline, it only makes sense if it is mutual passion that was heating up. Otherwise the joke doesn't make sense and the guy is just an ass. Considering that it is a joke, it is obviously supposed to be understood only one way and not interpreted a thousand possible ways under the sun.

Sheesh. Women.

Yep this is also true, ammending my previous statement.... We've all innadvertantly made them sweat and then made them feel shut down.... It honestly isn't intentional guys.



Yea we're a pain the ass aren't we...lol

What strikes me about this joke is the message it portrays; that when a woman changes her mind about having sex with her partner, that she is doing this to punish him. His plotting to reciprocate the punishment appears to attempt to justify the pay back - as does the "bitch" part at the end.
There are many reasons why women (and men) change their minds during sex. It surprises me that often, the general perception is that it happens as a means to punish ones partner. Perhaps we should have a poll. Something like "What circumstances or reasons have you decided to stop having sex, whilst having sex". As would another poll, such as "Why do YOU feel that your partner decides to stop having sex with you, after you've started" The results could be quite interesting!

I have a feeling that most women haven't really experienced that, certainly not as often as men. Or am I wrong?

Okay, first things first...

It was a joke, people. Get over it! The intense philosophical debate is entirely uncalled for... just laugh, or don't.


Now that that's out of the way, I feel an odd need to respond to some things that have been said.

We women are not idiots. That being said, it truly annoys me when a woman thinks she can "just cuddle" and not arouse a man's passion. Then, when she tries to play innocent and put the blame on the guy because he "doesn't understand her emotional needs", I just wanna slap the bitch until her whole family feels it... then take her man and give him the loving he needs!

As for accepting gifts, let's break it down a bit.

Girlfriend, if you give sex with the expectation of receiving gifts, that is called prostitution... plain old whoring. Now, I am not a whore (at least, not in rl ~giggle~) but, if a lover gives me a gift, I'd be a damn fool to turn it down. And, my mama didn't raise any foolish young'ns.

Basically, it all boils down to intent... and only you and your conscience know your intent. Are you a whore... or a grateful lover.

Just my L$6... ~grin~

Actually, to me the joke was a good example of misogyny.

Well ummm I did once offer my husband a certain sexual act to motivate him to go finish fixing my car. Probably shouldn't overanalyze it.

Okay, question #1... did it work?

Question #2... if so, were you properly grateful for the repairs.

But I find that Misogyny is so much more scrummy than your average Ragworm

#1 - Doesn't it always? *G*

#2 - yes always

Or you could always just put away the tools and do it by hand...

Lewis

Is that what Jesus would do?

Briana Dawson

You are a monster. What is she doing WASTING her time with you anyways?

There is more to passion than just rolling over and having sex.. Unfortunately you are too immature to realize that.

Wish I could email this post to your girlfriend. Im sure she would appreciate you telling the world she is a bitch.

Briana Dawson

Jesus would take a hands on approach.