Ask Coco Anything

Not that Coco will know the answers. But . . . why not.

coco

Is the human behind Cocoanut Koala the same human behind either Prokofy Neva or Alexa Hope?

~Ulrika~

No! Alexa Hope? Not sure why anyone would think that.

coco

So you admit that the human behind Cocoanut Koala is the same as the human behind Prokofy Neva?

~Ulrika~

Bahahaha.

Please post more.

No, we aren't the same person. Sometimes we laugh about how we are apparently talking to ourself! haha

I met Prok on TSO, when I was visiting Alphaville on "vacation" and looking around for an interesting place to live, rather than having the responsibility of running my own place. Naturally, I looked in "offbeat". I found the Flamingo Hotel and read the accompanying interesting and offbeat description, and went to visit.

I moved in, finding both Prok and his roommate to be very entertaining people!

Then he thought I was getting too pushy or something (which I wasn't), and wrote me some lengthy IM's to that effect, so I got in a TOTAL huff and moved out and yelled at him about it. We've been friends ever since!

I did the same thing in JP, where I found (in offbeat) and moved in with Billy Buddy, a very nice lavendar gorilla.

coco

How do I politely and carefully tell someone:

"You have a martyr complex and actively seek persecution on the forums by not really thinking before you press the 'submit' button, and either ranting about how LL and 1.7 are conspiring against you, spending all your time either screaming "it's not working!", or perpetually wasting your time and energy arguing with people and basically making an asshat of yourself."

This is difficult because no matter which way I try to phrase it, I can't find a way to say something without being offensive to or upsetting his sensibilities, thus causing him to miss my message entirely.

I think he's a great person, but either he's taking things WAY too personally, or he secretly ENJOYS being the center of a conflict.

Ok Ill bite. I have a copyable house that I bought back in the ole 1.3 days. Seems everytime i set a copy of it out, it appears to come unlinked all on its own. When I try to relink it in its original 57 piece state, it refuses and I have to end up having it in 2 sections if I want it relinked. Is this the cause of 1.7 or a sneaky little troll wandering the grid unlinking homes?

Well, there is no polite way to say all that, though you have been possibly as polite as possible here. But - this thread does give you an appropriate PLACE to say it, so that much is good!

I am female.

coco

But you also aren't necessarily the only person I had in mind. The other two are male.

I'm not sure.

But:

1. If it happened after 1.7, then maybe it is tied to 1.7 somehow.

2. Sometimes I find that pieces RIGHT NEXT TO EACH OTHER claim they are "too far away to be linked." Even pieces that have been linked before! I have discovered that it is usually one wayward and uncooperative prim causing this. Removing that prim and replacing it with another (copy all its stats before you move it to use in creating the other one) usually solves that problem.

3. After 1.7, the house I was working on would just fall apart in the middle of my linking it. It is a 512 house with only 47 prims. Didn't matter what direction I went around the house linking it; it seemed to just fall apart anyway for no rhyme or reason. I just kept trying, and eventually it held. This hasn't happened in the past several days, though.

4. I have never had a house fall apart just upon setting it out. Could be it was taken in a non-linked state in the first place. When you try to link it, it could be that the pieces really are too far apart, and you will have to be content with the two sections you manage to get it into. I have a house in three sections, which make sense, for that reason, and I'm proud that I got it into those three reasonable sections.

When people buy it, and they set it out on their land, it appears to be all in one piece, and if they stay in edit, they can move it around (slowly) as such. It will be like this every time they pull out a copy (which is a good thing). But it can only and will always ever be in three pieces.

My guess is that the house was given to you in unlinked state in the first place.

Hope that helps.

coco

OK, then, to revisit your question.

1. First, is it necessary to tell him all these things? If you want to tell him these things, and you really care about him, then you take the opportunity to say the thing when it best presents itself. I don't mean say the WHOLE thing, like you said here, but just something like, "You know, I think you take these things too personally and it doesn't do you much good," or whatever.

Probably you have already done that, if you chat on any kind of regular basis, and he already knows what you basically think. Over the time of a relationship, people gradually glean what each other really thinks, even without talking about it directly. I usually try to put in just one "suggestion for bettering yourself," if I feel the need to, at a time, and generally not until I've known the person a fairly long period of time, and know how he is likely to react. Because, of course, we don't want to hurt or upset our friends.

2. Are you hoping to change him with this? If so, two things: You can change people, but not always in the ways you expected, or in all the ways you want. And secondly, change occurs only over a VERY long period of time, and in VERY small (but also very important) ways.

As I keep reminding myself, Jake's signature says: "Don't talk about what it is to be a good man, just be one."

Good advice, and I think of it often, though it doesn't always stop me from talking about it anyway. It's hard for me to change that.

3. People are hard to get through to. Take me, for instance. Often six people have to say the same thing, and one of them has to say it six different ways, before I even figure out what they are GETTING at, lol.

4. Most people are what they are. To have and enjoy your friends, it is better to try to overlook the bitter and focus on the sweet. After all, if you weren't overall pleased with having the person as your friend, you wouldn't be with him anymore anyway.

5. He may get more out of the behaviors you think are dysfunctional than you know, and may in fact be perfectly aware they ARE dysfunctional, but they serve him in other ways that he wants. As long as they don't get in the way of your friendship, my advice is just to let him be himself. If they do get in the way of your friendship, or trod on you in any way, then just yell at him about it.

Hope that helps.

coco

Will the Thin White Duke ever be resurrected?.... I NEED an answer!

Will people ever stop posting replies that are longer than my hand?

~Ulrika~

I don't know who the Thin White Duke is, Cid; and Ulrika, no.

coco

Clapton is God, Manson is the Antichrist, but Bowie is the Thin White Duke.

P2

Which is better, chocolate fudge cake or double chocolate gateau?

David Bowie is missing?

I don't think I've ever had double chocolate gateau. But I'd go for either.

coco

Coco

Do you agree that the second poster on this thread = barking mad?

Alexa

PS to the second poster - I do have an alt. She is used for one purpose only, not a premium member, and has never posted on the forums.

PPS Since Coco lives in the USA and I live in the UK, being her alt or vice versa would be a little difficult

Well, not barking mad. But definitely gets some nutty ideas.

coco

It was one of his personas, like ziggy stardust.

Coco, are either you (or Alexa)... Also alt(s) of either "Deem Soothsayer" or "Deem Golding"? Am I?

I don't know if you are.

My alt is Strawbearry Shortbread. She is on a premium account.

coco

Then I wouldn't counton his being resurrected.

Memory - I don't know.

coco