Can You Separate RL from SL?

(Besides the fact that, I myself was trying to fly ...)
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I encounter many people who does not understand that I CAN, and AM SEPARATING my rl and sl character.

I have a male and female AV. (In rl, I'm a female)
I have a job as a male, and my colleagues in SL knows that I have a female AV. But if I show up with my female av, they treats me as if I'm just joking or not in the working mode,which is not true. After alll, I'm the same person. They do not come to my face and say it, but I felt somewhat ignored and was not recognized. Only the first impressions counts.

Another experince,
There may be a similarity in the RL in this aspect that if I'd showed up as a female job applicant, I suspect that I was not offered the same position...nor even offered.
After I was offered the club host position as male, I changed into a pretty female AV while I'm on duty, and to some unknown reason, I lost grip as a host of the club. Therefore, I reverted back into my male AV.

I don't think these people are sexist, but they just cant change their RL habit...

If I was a furry... ? I have not tested that yet.


**story continues...

On the 4th day of this job, I was promoted as a staff manager who's in charge of hiring dancers. I wonder, if I was a female AV employee, did this happen as soon as this? Was I offered the same position? ( "In charge of the girls."

What you caught yourself doing is not what I did. Since my entire family did not in fact die last week (although my mother had a very close call), the problem of course still exists. I had my friends to lean on, that's it. I was hurting, and I crawled to my support system. The fact that they are in SL is all that SL has to do with it. I didn't spend money, get laid, or whatever else you did when it was your issue. I turned to my friends.

OMG what a load... there are so many FAKE people in RL that it is unbelievable. No matter what, there are real people and fake people, both in RL and in SL. Fact of Life.

I caught myself looking at my rl sofa and calculating the prims.

Edit: Forum lag, double post

I didn't mean to seem like I was coming at you on that one, I really wasn't. You just kinda gave me an obvious lead in to my point by addressing the issue that can arise if someone becomes entirely dependant on SL.

I was making the general, objective observation that there's a disturbing trend in people "escaping" to their online game lives, SL being the most "life-like" method, and evading dealing with problems than dealing with them RL.

As it is, this is what I caught myself doing. A relationship having issues in RL, I find myself turning more and more to my SL relationship and it becomes more and more RL. Of course, this worsens the issues IRL and also means I'm spending less time with my RL fiancee. An example, for instance, was the other day. My RL girl was mad at me for staying up late on SL the night before with my SL girl. So what does my dumb ass do? Escape to my well-functioning SL relationship until my RL gets frustrated and gives up trying to argue. This also detracts from that RL relationship as far as time spent. The line begins to blur, and next thing I know I was talking to my SL girl on the phone....bad juju. Of course, that leads to my first post on this thread, and now I've nowhere to run.

This is just one finger on the hand when it comes to how people can get too tied to SL. Like a drug, instead of meaningless entertainment. Spending RL money on SL money to do things like acquire land make that bond to the machine even tighter.

Other examples would be people in financial trouble worsening that problem by making themselves Linden-Rich with their checking accounts and credit cards to psychologically escape poverty, people with no RL friends forging SL friendships and loves to the degree they obsess with them (drama queens), and people who habitually grief people online to deal with anger issues. I'd say my situation is far more common.

For me, SL is an extension of my reality format. I'm the same in SL as I am in reality and my AV is really a reflection of myself (in fact, I even dress my AV how I dress in reality). I don't try to separate my SL hustle from reality and vice versa. The residents I get down with regularly on the grid (those in my IM list) are people that I'm looking to establish solid relationships (of the friendship type format).

I haven't gotten down with partnering up in SL (my AV sports a wedding ring similar to my ring in reality simply because thats how I roll); once my wife gets down with SL, i'm sure that we'd partner up (or not, I don't have an agenda for us on the grid!).

Personally, I can understand why some people would sing one way, i.e. representing themselves fully in SL as they are in reality OR totally separating their SL hustle from their reality format (I think alot of times this is a necessity for women on the grid because alot of cats treat SL similar to a virtual meatmarket and some of them are some funked out stalker types!). As far as BushidoBrown is concerned?

My own personal TRUTH. Get down with my profile. Check out my science and mathematics. If I seem like someone you want to get down with, slide me an IM

Until then, be easy.

Gee, Eboni, thanks for letting us know that, where SL is concerned, you're a sociopath.

People can be fake even when you meet them face-to-face, y'know.

I think it's not that the subculture doesn't exist in RL, but in RL, you hardly ever see see a dom leading the sub in assless chaps by the nipple chains in your local Wal-Mart.

When you need da ho's up in the hizzle, with the squizzle in the wizzle, gizzle a yizzle 2 BushizzleBrizzle HighTizzle fo shizzle! (because that's how he rolls)

However, if you go to an IHOP at around 2 AM......

But do you get nipple dragged around shopping malls? I don't think so...

Just a nudge to remind you that the world is a great big mirror and what you believe has a tendency to shape your experience of the world around you.

It's just a video game. get over it. Real Life. You can touch. taste and feel things
Make believe life: A cartoon character on a screen.
It's not rocket science people

Just today, I got a telephone call from my great-aunt informing me that my cousin had been in a car accident.

Obviously, she would have been lying if she'd told me through email or SL, eh?